A few months ago I was propositioned for my feet to be worshiped. As I learned a little more about this person before I decided if I wanted to meet him....I found out he was in a committed relationship. His reply to my concern was (and I quote)"I can completely understand your worries about hurting anyone thats very thoughtful of you however I feel the situation here is a little different I'm in love and I wouldnt want to loose what I have worked so hard to have....I wouldn't consider this cheating because I'm not trying to have sex with you or date you...this is just for fun nobody will get hurt because I'm not cheating." I'd like to hear from the guys with the foot fetishes and their partners...Would you consider this cheating??? I sure do!!
Posted by Maverick Matrix (Member # 2989) on :
You don't have to be in a committed relationship to figure this one out. He's replacing his wife with you, simple as that. Unless his significant other approved of that then it's cheating. let's be realistic. I'm assuming that you feel uncomfortable about the whole situation. You know where the road leads if you go forward... DRAMA! Don't we already have enough of that in our daily lives?
Posted by spen (Member # 2758) on :
to be honest mate as much as id like it not to be,it is. his wife or girlfriend wouldnt like it because at the end of the day he's getting sexual thrills out of it. its still classed as sex. so if i were you, stay clear.if you had a boyfriend or husband and told him that you let guys worship your feet, he's gonna kick off!well... i would
Posted by archadmirer (Member # 3142) on :
I assure you this is COMPLETELY personal taste... if you are interested and the risk/benefit analysis comes out well, go for it! I concede that this a "sexual thing", and would constitute cheating if all involved (those in the relationship and you) were not consenting, but who says that isn't possible? I have been living with the same woman for almost five years (getting married in ~3wks), and we have never limited ourselves. We both flirt, and pursue other people outside the relationship. We are as safe as possible (always use protection, and I generally stick to foot-play and bondage), and accept the minimal risks (STD, pregnancy, "social complications") involved for the reward of fresh, fulfilling, exciting sex lives! With the reproductive technologies available today, you don't need to be bound by anachronistic social tenets (unless that's what you are truly more comfortable with); it's personal taste. Good luck with your decision, I know it isn't easy (but what a wonderful problem to have )
Posted by foot_sniffer2281 (Member # 21756) on :
Its cheating, thats for sure.
Now whether you want to go through with this or not, thats another matter totally...
Posted by LuckyTeen (Member # 30822) on :
While he is clearly asking you because he isn't satisfying his foot fetish with his wife, I wouldn't do it if I was him I'd feel guilty.
Now you can decide if foot fun is just too mild to ruin a relationship but personally I think your better than that, there are plenty of single men out there who would do this for you and not go behind a current partners back.
Then again, he sounds sure of himself it's fine so maybe it is to him, you can't blame yourself if he makes a mistake.
Posted by Eliza Durden (Member # 22995) on :
Simply put, it's cheating.
Posted by footgirl0226 (Member # 29201) on :
As much as Tyler will give me shit on this-i am monogamous to a fault lol and the dude is wanting an affair. Feet or vajayjay.... Its an affair. If you are lonely there are plenty of noncommitted folk!
Then again some relationships are open. My husband jokes he wouldnt care as long as he can watch but I know better. And to me no one is worth ruining what I got.
Put yourself in her shoes...no pun intended.
Posted by Sinnister (Member # 2394) on :
I wouldn't mind getting the extra foot action. But if I reverse that and my wife provided the action to some other guy I'd be doing a hell of a long stretch.
Posted by Perfect Sole (Member # 30366) on :
I would like everyone to know that I wasn't asking this to help me decide. My mind was made up within a nano-second that I was in noway, shape, or form going to have any part of it!! As for putting "myself in her shoes", I have been in a similar way. Being bi-sexual and open minded I was devastated when I finally accepted the fact that my husband of 10 years was always going to lie and go elsewhere for his pleasure. Most men can only fantasize about what he had at his disposal. If there is the slightest bit of hiding, lying, or being secretive, then I consider it cheating. Whether we achieve it by intercourse, fetish, or an open-relationship, the end goal is all the same...being sexually satisfied. Since my views about a relationship can be different, I was only wanting to know if my feelings were the same as those of you that do have a foot fetish, since "technically" a foot worship isn't "sex".
Posted by Eliza Durden (Member # 22995) on :
quote:Originally posted by footgirl0226: As much as Tyler will give me shit on this-i am monogamous to a fault lol and the dude is wanting an affair. Feet or vajayjay.... Its an affair. If you are lonely there are plenty of noncommitted folk!
Then again some relationships are open. My husband jokes he wouldnt care as long as he can watch but I know better. And to me no one is worth ruining what I got.
Put yourself in her shoes...no pun intended.
Perfectly said....
Posted by justdaone (Member # 16096) on :
I think it depends on what type of relationship you have. For the most part, it's cheating.
Posted by oscarthemonkey (Member # 1692) on :
quote:Originally posted by justdaone: I think it depends on what type of relationship you have. For the most part, it's cheating.
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