My girlfriend is notorious for going through my stuff, she found out a few weeks ago from reading my emails that i have emailed a few women on craigslist adds that advertised foot sessions. She didn't tell me until today, now I have never done this while I was with her..but she managed to go through emails from before i met her and she just was shocked that i actually paid for it. My question is to any females out there, what would you think if you were in her shoes and found out your bf used to pay for a foot fetish session?
She actually seems to take it ok, she actually emailed me some pictures of her feet and wrote an advertisement, but today when she told me I was upset that she went through my emails and she then got all upset at me and said she thought it was disgusting that I did that stuff. Yes I did pay for it before and i'm not proud of it but I never have done it since I met her and have never even thought about it. She pretty much knows everything there is to know about me now.
Posted by Diddy (Member # 35114) on :
communication and honesty are the most important things to make a relationship successful
Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
That's pretty low snooping through your private things and e-mails. You guys aren't living together are you?
Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
nothin wrong with payin for it mate. some guys just have to do it and oddly enough it often results in those men who are less apt with women actually getting better feet than the guys who just sit around and wack it to the idea of getting feet LOL
doesn't matter how ya gett'em imo, just as long as you get to LSSF the way you like best, Hee Hee
that is the end game for a foot fetishist
Posted by coqui78 (Member # 9702) on :
Why would you stay with someone who did something like that?
Posted by Keyfeet (Member # 27313) on :
dude, your hand is much cheaper. but wow, she looked through your e-mails? honestly, ive got to tell you, that it sounds like she has some serious trust issues, and i dont think that she was looking for that. I would get to the bottom of this, b/c you shouldnt have anyone snooping through your personal shit, it doesn't matter who it is.
Posted by Pjay (Member # 35692) on :
I'm amazed--reading this story is deja vu: I practically lived what he just said!
Well, my story was that yes, I had "paid for it" but not deliberately, actually. I ended up giving a ride to two attractive girls--it turned out they were sisters 19 and 21. Well, it also turned out they were...not in the best circumstances.
Cute fuckin' feet like you wouldn't believe, and really sweet personalities as well. Well, they were grateful for the 20 mile ride, which took me out of my way, so I got up my courage and told them that they could consider me repaid if they'd let me take pictures of their feet. They were happy to oblige. One thing led to another and I ended up "helping them out" with some cash, and that got me a couple more sessions with their feet (and nothing else, which is how I wanted it).
Along came my girlfriend about a year later. She eventually turned out to be an insecure and jealous type, and did some snooping and found pictures on my computer, of these girls and some other exes. Our relationship hobbled along for a while, with trust issues abounding (on both sides). She snooped and then when confronted would apologize. I never really did get full-on angry about the snooping, because I felt a bit guilty that I did not find myself capable of giving her all of myself emotionally. I never did cheat on her, or even try to, but because I had those pictures she found (and was reluctant to purge them from my collection and my life) she never developed the trust in me that I actually did warrant. Of course, some time later, we did split.
It's very important to make a girl feel (know) that she is the only one for you. If you're going to keep feet pictures and/or porn, unless you know ahead of time that she's really open to that or into it, you'd best keep it VERY well-hidden, and never mention it. This way, if/when you break up, you'll still have it.
By the way, my ex was perfectly ok with my foot fetish and while she didn't go crazy for having her toes sucked, would often let me, and she reallllly liked foot massages. I also got to suck her feet while we fucked, and she was a bit of a demon in that whole department... Posted by oppressus (Member # 36433) on :
dude....i had a previous girlfriend who went thru my emails, broke into my facebook account, etc (which she never found anything anyhow) and i dropped her ass like a sack of potatoes...you should not have to deal with a psychotic girl!
Posted by Pjay (Member # 35692) on :
True. If she's doing this, she does not respect your privacy, your boundaries, or YOU.
It's hard to argue for giving her even one strike at this.
Posted by Janet Mason (Member # 24724) on :
Wow, this is disturbing. I have been offering private foot worship sessions to my fans for a few years now. Most of the guys who see me are married or have girlfriends. Yet not one of them has ever had a problem like this with their significant other...and I know this because 95% of the guys I see end up being "regulars".
Sorry to hear about this!
Posted by Andy-Laa (Member # 31511) on :
If it was before her, you did nothing wrong. She did though.
Posted by Janet Mason (Member # 24724) on :
quote:Originally posted by Andy-Laa: If it was before her, you did nothing wrong. She did though.
Andy, is this addressed to me? If so, why? I don't know who you are (at least not from your forum name here) and you have not posted anything above, yet you seem to be "replying" to me, which is confusing. My post was in direct response to the original poster, JerryJones.
Posted by sgadd27 (Member # 13044) on :
Janet I don't think he is addressing that to you hon, you are the best and you are revered around here and so is Andy Laa, he is Athena's man. I think he was just saying that Jerry's girl is wrong for judging him for something he did before her and she was also wrong for snooping.
Posted by footjoyboy (Member # 26478) on :
Time to password protect our computers, guys. Let the girls get their own machine.
Posted by Janet Mason (Member # 24724) on :
quote:Originally posted by sgadd27: Janet I don't think he is addressing that to you hon, you are the best and you are revered around here and so is Andy Laa, he is Athena's man. I think he was just saying that Jerry's girl is wrong for judging him for something he did before her and she was also wrong for snooping.
That makes perfect sense. Posted by footjoyboy (Member # 26478) on :
If you think about it, though, you wouldn't take kindly to finding saved pictures, that they probably still finger themselves to, of an 8 incher that she had previously.
Posted by sgadd27 (Member # 13044) on :
Thats no problem, fjb. just make sure you bring more to the table than any previous to you
Posted by sgadd27 (Member # 13044) on :
defending you....lol
Posted by Short-lived Tyranny (Member # 36627) on :
Honestly, I came into my relationship with Brett with a lot of trust. But when I had his phone taking pictures with it one day, I went to saved pictures and found a picture of some girls foot, given it wasn't there last week when I was taking pictures, and so I asked him about it. One of his exgirlfriends sent it to him, AND HE SAVED IT. Not to mention he has none of the pictures I sent him saved on there.
Sometimes guys bring on this kind of trust issue.. This is the first time he has ever had a girl living with him, and I stumble upon stuff he lies about and he gets pissed. Is it my fault? I would think not. It's his for not being straight up honest with me in the first place.
Plus it makes me sad that he wants nothing to do with my feet, but wants others. Posted by Pjay (Member # 35692) on :
quote:Originally posted by footjoyboy: Time to password protect our computers, guys. Let the girls get their own machine.
Come on--all that accomplishes is raising the question, "Well, what do you have on there that has to be so private?!" Posted by sgadd27 (Member # 13044) on :
short lived I am with you on that deal with the present and not the past. I love your feet too
Posted by Elvzz (Member # 14178) on :
I cannot talk - I have artistic nudes decorating my place - run 2 websites, model pix gif on my cellie - I have a knife collection - so...
When if moving on the the next one always gets the obligatory - so how did it end? How do they all end? Badly...if it were good - I wouldnt be having coffee in hells kitchen with you.
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
There's definitely two ways of looking at this.
Firstly, there is the whole trust thing of her snooping around and looking for stuff. Sorry, but that just isn't right and I can't see that changing in her if she has done it now. Just because she saw some emails and you confessed and owned up to it doesn't necessarily mean she is going to stop her snooping in the future if she feels something "isn't right" in the relationship.
Secondly, it amazes me how people hold on to emails for long periods of time. I hope you've learned the lesson of hitting the delete button in your email account to get rid of emails so that her, or any future girlfriend, won't find anything incriminating if she should decide to snoop.
Thirdly, just for future reference and a little bit of advice, if you really feel the need to keep pics on a computer that any girl is going to check or use on even a semi-regular basis, I have two words - My Lockbox.
Posted by Short-lived Tyranny (Member # 36627) on :
quote:Originally posted by sgadd27: short lived I am with you on that deal with the present and not the past. I love your feet too
Thanks!
Brett and I have separate computer accounts that are both password protected, which eliminates any snooping from going on with either of us. I think he's getting the idea of keeping his stuff that could bother me out of sight. I'm slowing seeing he's no longer just leaving it around.
Posted by 18000footlover (Member # 24256) on :
God Janet I am in love with you and your gorgeous body and feet. Your feet turn me on more than anything. How would one sign up for a foot session with you beautiful?
Posted by Elvzz (Member # 14178) on :
Glad it is working out - I am overtly a dick, just to get my point across - so women are a bit relieved when they know what I am all about - I'd imagine one day I'll burn it all, shut it down and live in a log cabin with an elegant angel one day.
Couples talk about sex, hardly money, sharing the same computer account now that is intimacy for the 21st century.
Posted by Short-lived Tyranny (Member # 36627) on :
Brett and I will will never have the same account on ANYTHING. He's just independent like his mother on those things. What's his is his and not ours. I'm getting used to it, so I guess it works out.
Posted by Andy-Laa (Member # 31511) on :
quote:Originally posted by Janet Mason:
quote:Originally posted by Andy-Laa: If it was before her, you did nothing wrong. She did though.
Andy, is this addressed to me? If so, why? I don't know who you are (at least not from your forum name here) and you have not posted anything above, yet you seem to be "replying" to me, which is confusing. My post was in direct response to the original poster, JerryJones.
As was I. I wasn't responding to you. The "she" to whom I referred was the snooping girlfriend.
**and I wouldn't judge the mistress (perhaps the wrong word in this case, but you get what I'm saying) of the cheating man, I'd judge the man. But with Jerry's case, he wasn't cheating in any way .
[ October 12, 2009, 05:22 PM: Message edited by: Andy-Laa ]
Posted by Andy-Laa (Member # 31511) on :
quote:Originally posted by sgadd27: Janet I don't think he is addressing that to you hon, you are the best and you are revered around here and so is Andy Laa, he is Athena's man. I think he was just saying that Jerry's girl is wrong for judging him for something he did before her and she was also wrong for snooping.
Posted by skaramunga (Member # 11914) on :
Pjay and Oppressus...
And if i could add to both of your points...its funny because I am actually dealing with this right now...
I keep all my "foot related" emails on a separate email which my "better half" does not even know exists...then i have another email account for all my other regular stuff...(jobs related, family related, etc.)
I have been with my current girl for three and a half years and i can tell you this right now...if she EVER found out all of the girls that i have kept in contact with over the years (i purchase their used socks)and if she read any of the emails, i would be DEEEAAAAAAADDDDDDDDDDDDD!
But guess what man...same way like Pjay said up top...she went through your emails right? Well tomorrow shes gonna go through your phone...then shes gonna go through your computer...then shes gonna go be asking your friends and family "where is he? who's he talking to?"
And at that point your done buddy! That type of crap man, only gets worse and i can also tell you this...9 times out of 10 these "types" of girls have severe trust issues and emotional baggage.
Guarantee you somewhere in her past, she was screwed over by some asshole and she never really got over it so somewhere in the back of her mind shes thinking "oh the guy I am with now, hes like the last dick who screwed me over...let me make sure hes not doing what i think hes doing".
But your not doing what the last guy was doing! Your just being yourself! But she is so insecure and jealous that she can't even realize that...
Jealousy and Insecurity on a relationship is like dumping hydrochloric acid on someone's head...just sit back and watch it disintegrate.
Posted by Short-lived Tyranny (Member # 36627) on :
skaramunga- Would you like it if your girlfriend was doing this to you? You need to reverse the roles and try to put yourself in your girlfriend's shoes to try and understand.
Would it bother you? Well if it does that's an idea to stop and not keep secrets like that. You are encouraging jealousy and insecurity. One day she's going to find out.... and then what? You become that asshole who screwed her over and lied to her for 3 years, and then she's fucked with baggage the rest of her life.
Posted by footster008 (Member # 26335) on :
be polite, be professional and have a plan to kill everyone you meet
Posted by den2 (Member # 20517) on :
That's a fucking awesome quote, wise words to live by footster008
"be polite, be professional and have a plan to kill everyone you meet"
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