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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
Hey guys just wondered if i might be able to get a little help with something.

I'm in quite a strange situation in that I've recently got back together with my ex girlfriend. I know that first of all a lot of people would say that this is the wrong thing to do.

however, we broke up last year after getting quite stressed out, i had some personal problems left un-dealt with and i treated her quite badly. i've now been through counciling and sorted myself out.

before the break up i'd become quite obsessed with my girlfriends feet, well, not totally obsessed but my fetish became a problem in the relationship because she started to resent it and wouldnt let me near her feet, because of my approach. i used to get very upset and angry about this and it caused arguements that obviously upset her. in retrospect i can now see the damage i had done.

but now somehow we ended up back together to make a new start, she can see that i've changed my ways dramatically after spending time single. i feel like a completely different person, much more chilled out etc. we are having a lot of fun, a lot of great sex and getting on better than before, its almost perfect.

but the problem is that my girlfriend is finding difficulty letting me at her feet again. in the beginning of our relationship originally she was fine about it and quite enjoyed it, we made it fun. but now if i approach her feet she says she "freezes up" and it brings back "bad memories" of how she used to feel before we broke up. its like the damage has been done, but i dont know how to repair it or for us to get over this.

i told her that it was ok, i wasnt gonna get angry or upset over it, but we had to work on it if we were to have a future together because i have this foot fetish and i cant get rid of it.

i just want it to be a positive thing, im being very understanding because i feel in time she might relax if i approach it right. ive said to her im not gonna get obsessed again, and wanna keep it to an activity that isnt all the time. and now we are having loads of sex, im making loads of effort to please her. she has let me touch her feet in sex a few times and given me one footjob when we were drunk. we've been back together a few months now.

i just dont know what to do. there is the obvious idea of ditching her and moving on to someone else which is in the back of my mind if this doesnt work out. but like most things its all down to the way you play it, and i dont know how to play it. i never really have done!

so all i want is to be able to have some time with her feet now and again. using feet in sex is ok but its not enough. she gave me a foorjob 2 weeks ago. this weekend we had loads and loads of sex and i made her cum several times. i think when i next go to see her in a few days i should be able to go to her feet without feeling bad right? its like im being made to feel guilty because of my past!

my plan is to keep playing it cool and not get upset but try to make it fun, but im worries she's just gonna get all negative about it next time i try.

i dunno, i guess this may sound very stupid to some people but i'm sure some of you can relate to my situation somehow? sorry for the long post!
 

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Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
 
i know how ya feel. have had girls freak out over my love of feet before.

one girlfriend was really fed up with my foot fetish, yet we'd get back together time and time again.

in the end though, i would say that if she can't come to an acceptance of your foot fetish then you should either find another girl or try to diminish your foot fetish intensity. both are entirely possible.

best of luck
 

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Posted by hyperion2424 (Member # 39397) on :
 
Depending on how serious y'all are about the relationship, you should consider BOTH going to the counselor. NOT to "fix" her, but to talk out the issues. She does need to be heard, as do you. A good counselor will help you all figure it out.
-hyp.
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
cheers guys, thats something i never thought about.

i think she is listening and considering what i've had to say, where as i am also considering how she feels and therefore leaning back on the foot fetish stuff.

im hoping she will feel ok about it as time goes on, if not then i will have to find someone else.

maybe we both need to talk it out to other people, rather than try to discuss our points together turning into a disagreement
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
another thing i did not mention is that she is a very dirty girl and loves sex. our sex life is awesome!

she used to be totally cool with the foot fetish thing and done some amazing things with her feet too. she also paints her nails regularly and realises that they are pretty.

it wasnt until the relationship went bad that she stopped it all. i just need to work out how to get back to that place again now that the relationship is going good!
 

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Posted by Sinnister (Member # 2394) on :
 
Tough man. If you love her don't press the foot thing too much if she's still giving up the poon. But as we all know, men like us can't live on poon alone. Eventually she'll have to deal with her past foot demons or this will be a deal breaker. It's very insightful of you to realize that your fetish isn't going anywhere.
 

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Posted by Patrick (Member # 1169) on :
 
It is hard to say exactly what to do with this situation. The best thing to do is talk, plain and simple. If there is something really bad about the whole foot thing for her, that really sucks. But like pretty much every other girl, alcohol always seems to change that, doesn't it? Annoying at times. But like I said, I'd have to talk it over. And if she lets you back in, you better be wise about the choices you make afterward or you'll be right back in the same boat.

Patrick
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
yeah i think you guys have raised some good points. its annoying in a way that i do love her so much haha because otherwise i could simply just break it off.

the problem is i dont want to be single again either, i find chasing girls exhausting and i could go a long time without any action! not only that but i am happy with my current girl, and we've spent a long time building on our relationship as a whole and making the sex good! i dont wanna cut my losses unless i discover there really is no future for my love of feet in this relationship.

so i think im gonna give her the benefit of the doubt and realise that this is something we need to work on because of the past mistakes, and not repeat those mistakes.

when i next see her im gonna ask to play with her feet, and if she says no then i'll make sure to be cool about it, but then say that we need to talk about it. because i am not getting obsessed or worked up about the situation, i am being cool and there is nothing wrong with me asking.

you never know, she may be cool about it this time! its my birthday coming up so perhaps she'll be a little generous! gonna try and keep a positive attitude and keep you guys posted.

if she lets me back in i'll have to start posting pictures
 

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Posted by combine_hunter (Member # 39526) on :
 

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Originally posted by lamp:
gonna try and keep a positive attitude and keep you guys posted.

if she lets me back in i'll have to start posting pictures

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Well, it sounds like you have the right mindset about this. If she lets you take pictures, I'd sure like to see them.
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
spotlight, you've got a point. however, she's not straight out refused yet. im gonna see how it goes for a bit...

if the situations does not improve then i will get rid.

but hopefully a positive mindset might get me somewhere first. i'll just have to try and see. i was curious to find out if anyone else had been through or is going through a similar situation?

i seem to go through this with every girl i meet, so i must have been doing something wrong!
 

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Posted by longhitter04 (Member # 2391) on :
 

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Originally posted by lamp:
before the break up i'd become quite obsessed with my girlfriends feet, well, not totally obsessed but my fetish became a problem in the relationship because she started to resent it and wouldnt let me near her feet

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I think that's the key statement in your post. What happened that made her "resent it", as you put it? Where you having intercourse with her previously and making sure she was gratified?
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
she said that she resent it because i put the foot stuff before intercourse in terms of priority! i became quite obsessed in the sense that i wanted it more than sex and at inconvenient times. the examples she gave were that after not seeing her in a week or so, id come over and that would be the first thing i wanted. not only that but if she didnt feel up to it, i became quite upset and i got annoyed for not wanting to do it...a bit like a vicious cycle.

i'd also bring up a problem with my previous ex girlfriend who didnt let me at her feet at all, and so i dumped that girlfriend.

so when i look at i like this, id put her under a lot of pressure. i was too intense with it, even for myself, it took over and i regret getting like that. i'd never want to be like that again.

so, its kind of a case that she's worried im gonna get like that again. and so ive said that i wont, and that im gonna keep it to every now and again that i'll ask her. and im happy with that.

im going to see her tonight and give her a help out around the house, and maybe in exchange she'll let me rub her feet etc.! and once if done that i'll be quite content to forger about it for a little while. its not that i want it all the time. just for it to be available in the relationship and to get her relaxed about it again.

she used to really like it! she'd buy kinky shoes and send me pics etc. i think its just about me setting the mood and building back trust in this situation. at least i hope!

i'll re-post soon and let you know how it goes haha. cheers!
 

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Posted by Patrick (Member # 1169) on :
 
As much as I also like female feet, remember there is a whole lot more female above the ankles than below. With women you have to satisfy that above the ankle part a whole lot more than the below ankle part. If it's always about feet, then yes, I can see why she'd be mad. Many of us get the label as strange because there are people out there that make our fetish look strange. I say be about your fetish, but be about the girl too.

Patrick
 

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Posted by longhitter04 (Member # 2391) on :
 
Well said Patrick.

It sounds like the novelty wore off, and it usually does if you're not satisfying her regularly.

Think of it from her point of view. Let's say, for the sake of argument, that she had some sort of an elbow fetish (like I said for the sake of the argument). Every time she came over she would make a bee line right for your elbow and she did nothing (or very little) to satisfy you. If this happened time and again, I'm sure you'd grow to resent it as well.

Pay attention to her! If you can make her cum HARD regularly, I'm willing to bet anything she'll indulge in your foot fetish quite freely. I'd put the foot fetish thing aside for a while and focus on her and her sexual needs. Find out exactly what she likes and do it. Eventually, you won't even need to ask for her feet... she will offer them to you... I guarantee it.
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
Ahh yeah, totally good points! You guys are so spot on.

For the last couple of weeks I have been having a lot of sex with her! Morning and night, making sure she cums. Infact we've been exhausted, but it's all awesome and way more
important than my door fetish.

What would tend to happen if I'd give her oral however is that it would lead into sex! and when I last tried going down on her I grabbed her feet and she didn't really like that, maybe I should have waited till she came. Anyway, I'm doing all the right things.

She's actually in the bath now, and we've just tidied her house! I might ask to play with her feet?! She could say no and I could say, what if I made her cum first! Or suggest doing it tomorrow.

It's weird, I just kinda wanna make it available. Maybe i've got some kinda OCD problem! but yeah, I'm not getting obsessed like before, gonna keep giving her a good time..

But on the other hand i could keep fucking her untill i'm blue in the face and for all she knows I'd be totally satisfied, and even if not I'd be too tired for her feet!

There has to be some compromise!
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
I'd just like to point out I'm on my iPhone using auto spell, I don't have a door fetish! Haha
 

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Posted by combine_hunter (Member # 39526) on :
 
I'm glad you cleared that up, lamp. Coulda gotten a bit awkward.
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
Ok so here's what happened last night. After she got out if the bath and we were joking around having fun, I said i wanted to go down on her! And she let me. She offered to do a 69 and I said no, I just want to make you cum. To which she replied why?

Anyway I ignored that and carried on, I made her cum and she was really happy about it. I went to the toilet and cane back through, I asked for a footjob. Imediately she attaked me saying "I knew you'd ask for that", and then said I thoight you were only gonna ask for it once a month.

You can imagine how fucked off I was. I couldn't help it, I got defensive and said to her she was being ridiculous and selfish.. Anyway the conclusion was that she said she couldn't help it, it brought back the "bad feelings" and that was that.

So what am I supposed to do? Keep making her cum in hope she will relax about it? I've always had sex with her, I'm an amazing boyfriend. I put in loads of effort and I'll just end up feeling resentful. We were having a great evening until I brought up the foot thing which ruined the whole mood and our nights sleep.

She's said she's not ruled it out completely but I just feel fucking rubbish about it now, like there's no hope. I give up with this stupid foot fetish ruining my relationships which would otherwise be perfectly happy. It's a headache and times like this make me wish I never had it at all
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
maybe there is just something wrong with me. For as long as I can remember I've used this forum to vent and tell stupid long stories of how I'm struggling to incorporate foot ferishm into my life, in hope that I'll learn something.

I had a good thing and blew it but I just dont see any hope of ever having the foot fetish life I want, like other guys have, cos I just mess it all up.

Well, most people will advise I break it off with my girl, maybe I should, and go back to singledom. Or I can try to keep pushing on and not feel sorry for myself and hope that things will change. They might do.

Thanks for everybodies help advice, it's all useful and appreciated and I'm sure would get me somewhere if I could actually put it into practise!
 

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Posted by Salvy_Mic (Member # 13384) on :
 
I think this is all on her. Relationships are about giving and taking equally, and clearly, she simply doesn't want to accept this part of you. If you're doing all kinds of things to make her satisfied, and she's hung up on something that you want in return, it won't work. This isn't about feet anymore, it's more about her not willing to embrace everything about you. There's "conditions" now, and that's not fair to you. She shouldn't be hanging it over your head.
 

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Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
 
There is only one thing that I can see why she would be pissed off at your request. You said it within like what 5 minutes of making her come? She now will automatically assume from now on that anytime you want to do ANYTHING nice for her(not just sexual) that you have alterior motives(footjob).

The only thing I can suggest is for you to go about 2 or 3 weeks of just pure giving and don't even mention footjobs to her. Heck, don't even LOOK at her feet. Act as if they are not even there. I know that sounds crazy but I can almost guarantee that it will bug her, maybe not right off the bat but over the course of a week of you not even so much as looking at her feet when she's walking around barefoot she will be thinking about it in her mind.
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
It's ok, I can see this situation from both sides & after arguing with her last night I've just made it worse.

I just feel low and hopeless with it all. I could try talking with her but it doesn't do any good. It's just the same old story.

Might try talking a step back from it all. Will let you know how things go. Thanks again for help
 

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Posted by Flip flop fan (Member # 9565) on :
 
Really? No one here at all said it? I even had to read through the thread twice to make sure, and if someone did say it and I missed it, I'm sorry.

Straight up, she is using your fetish as a weapon. She didn't like the way you were treating her, so instead of leaving you or talking to you she takes away something she knows you love. Now, she only brings it out once in a while when things are good? It's her carrot on a stick dude.

That's the problem with going back to an ex, the reasons you broke up in the first place usually come back to haunt you. If you went and got help and made an effort to grow and move on, good on ya. You obviously learned from the first relationship. However, for you both to try again, you both need to let go of your past history, as it's irrelivent to your current reltionship. Or at least, should be.
 

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Posted by skaramunga (Member # 11914) on :
 
Getting back with your ex? That's your problem to begin with man...

And here's another thing....I really, really don't understand how someone who put you through that much pain, either it being your fault or not, how the hell can you even be cordial to her is beyond me. How can you even look at her??

Like yea i get it, i get the whole "I needed to mature" thing and "I've changed" and "i went to counseling" and all that shit...i get all that.

What you should do is take that scar that took so long to heal, make sure that it has healed, realize where things went wrong previously, and use that as a learning experience for your NEXT partner....NOT YOUR EX! You ended up changing because of you...not because of her? What, because she left you? Common...

Further more, the whole reason you feel "chill" and "relaxed" and "different" supposedly, is because you had your heart broken. Its called girl dicking guy over. Yes, that's that "chill" feeling that you feel, ask any guy out there who's gone through this already they'll say the same thing. Some people would call it "shock"...others call it "reflecting"...its the same thing.

Now here you go again, bringing up the same issues that you were facing previously with this broad. "this previously lead to this" and "before we used to do this" but "now its different because of this, im different"....blah blah blah

Whatever man...what do you want from us? Your getting the same feet you had before...big deal. Things are good now but you guys are gonna end up right at square one just because of the history you two have.

Get over this girl and go to someone else, wake up.
 

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Posted by Dick Lipschitz (Member # 127) on :
 

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Originally posted by lamp:
im going to see her tonight and give her a help out around the house, and maybe in exchange she'll let me rub her feet etc.!

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Originally posted by skaramunga:


And here's another thing....I really, really don't understand how someone who put you through that much pain, either it being your fault or not, how the hell can you even be cordial to her is beyond me.

What you should do is take that scar that took so long to heal, make sure that it has healed, realize where things went wrong previously, and use that as a learning experience for your NEXT partner....NOT YOUR EX! You ended up changing because of you...not because of her? What, because she left you? Common...

Further more, the whole reason you feel "chill" and "relaxed" and "different" supposedly, is because you had your heart broken. Its called girl dicking guy over. Yes, that's that "chill" feeling that you feel, ask any guy out there who's gone through this already they'll say the same thing. Some people would call it "shock"...others call it "reflecting"...its the same thing.

Now here you go again, bringing up the same issues that you were facing previously with this broad. "this previously lead to this" and "before we used to do this" but "now its different because of this, im different"....blah blah blah

Whatever man...what do you want from us? Your getting the same feet you had before...big deal. Things are good now but you guys are gonna end up right at square one just because of the history you two have.

Get over this girl and go to someone else, wake up.

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I can sooooooort of relate to this. When Lamp, Me and GQguy were going through that shit last year I remember Lamps' story.

I'm kinda envious in a way he got back with his ex but I suppose I chose a different path myself. I eventually cut off my 'friendship' with the girl partly because I saw a different side coming out with her.

She was HARDLY as nice to me as a 'friend' then when she poured on all the sweetness and attention the time she was chasing me.

As much as I felt for her, I decided not to 'play it cool' and told her to go fuck herself (that's the edited version), rather than play the 'cool' game for months on end when 1: I wasn't even sure if it'd work and 2: I wasn't sure if she was worth it, judging from some of the behaviour I'd seen from her.

There was this other guy who was in love with her she was downright mean to. I saw it earlier on in the game, when my feelings were hardly as strong, and I remember a part of my mind was saying "I'm not sure about you".

I wish I'd listened to myself then and pulled out. But I didn't foresee myself falling for her.

These days, though I'm over her, I'm still in a very dark place and don't trust people at all, as she seemed GENUINELY nice. I'm also disgusted at myself for falling for someone like that. I thought I knew better.
 

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Posted by markn (Member # 13818) on :
 
Some women feel if a man pays too much attention to her feet that he really doesn't desire her as a person, but only for her feet, as in having loving for an inanimate object. A man has to be diplomatic in loving a woman, for she has a favorite way for you to show your love as well. For many men our first impulse at the candy store is to leap through the plate glass window and sprint to our favorite sweets. However, if a man strolls in the door and wanders around for a few minutes, he will still find his self eventually standing before his favorite sweets. However, using the latter plan the customer is not met with a sounding alarm and a baseball bat wielding store owner. Good luck finding that candy store with no alarm.
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
I'm sorry I posted this story and I knew it would bother some of you the thoight of me getting back with my ex.

She fucked me about big time over Xmas and before the relationship ended I was also very unreasonable with her and lost my temper so much that I feel guilty about it.
We're now trying to make a fresh start. We've spoken about it properly now and she s said that she wants the foot stuff to be ok but the bad feelings keep coming back. How I ease her back into it is my problem. 

I just don't know how to go about it. How to be confident when I know I'll face rejection. When I know I have and she will see me as pushing for the foot stuff too much. How to make it fun when I wake up random days craving feet and my cravings are the problem. 

I got upset and that is the problem. She's angry that she's told me she's not ruled it out completely. But i am unhappy. I am giving it a little while, giving her benefit if the doubt because I love her and I don't want to be single and alone for months (I could look for someone new in the meanwhile) and
If she doesn't let me get back into it then I will ditch her..

Sounds mean but I don't have a choice. I've asked advice from female friends who have all said be patient and I am believe me I am the one compromising.

Also I do love all of her first, I do please her sexually and I am a good boyfriend. Yes I go about this wrong but I just don't know how to do it right. That's my problem, it could be the same problem with the next girl
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
On this forum I can post stuff like I really need feet and I'm upsett about it but in real life, in my world I live around people who don't understand. I'm in the minority and I have to feel lucky to even be in a relationship with regular sex when most of my friends aren't getting any..

To want a relationship with my foot fetish is what I really want, I want to fix it and get back what I had. Me and my girl are working stuff out and improving our sex life. I look at foot porn to keep that at bay and right now I've just had a bit of a crisis by getting her pregnant so we are fixing this at the mo and I'm looking after her.

Would you believe I've woken up this morning and I'm craving feet again. Last time I felt like this I made the mistakes I posted on here about making her orgasm and then asking and then getting upsett when I didn't get my way.

Maybe I need to show her this forum. She doesn't undestand why I need feet, and I see no hope of ever settling down with a girl who does cos they've all reacted like this with me. Those of you who have a good relationship like this, you are so damn lucky. Don't ever forget it.

I don't mean to sound bitter. I appreciate everyone helping me and all I want is a place to vent. Thank you
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
Just so people know I've not actually acted on my desires today while we are having this pregnancy problem. I'm taking care of my girl while we get everything sorted. I love her and think that if I keep on being a good lover she will relax in the end. She let me touch her feet while watching a film last night which is a good start!

And like she put it, we can't go straight back into doing footjobs like the way things were. If I can be patient and cool about it we could get there again. And if not I'll have to end the relationship after a while. But there's no point me making arguments or making a fuss now. Might as well try to be positive first right.

Sorry for the rants
 

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Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
 
Weird. With my girl last year, I was happy enough to be with her feet stuff didn't matter to me. And hers were very nice
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
Well it does matter to me. I thibk that is the problem. I'm now trying to show her that is doesn't matter or that im being patient.

Perhaps if I ask to play with her feet next week or skin and assume she will say no, I can then play it cool and say it doesn't matter and act totally happy. That way she can see I can be relaxed and won't get upset all the time, and then the next time I try she might be cooler about it.

She let me touch her feet during sex the other night which was cool. The hardest thing about this is it being summer, her feet are always on show and there are loads everywhere!
 

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Posted by mmmtoes (Member # 30792) on :
 

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Weird. With my girl last year, I was happy enough to be with her feet stuff didn't matter to me. And hers were very nice

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I disagree and don't think it is weird at all. Just because your fetish is weaker then Lamps, doesn't make him weird. I actually find it weird that it didn't bother you at all. At least - the way I read your post. As I read it, you are saying your girl wouldn't let you touch her feet and it didn't bother you. Maybe you just have a very weak fetish or don't mind if a girl has everything her way???

I don't need feet all the time, but I would not stay with a woman that was TOO SELFISH to be open to trying things that make me happy.
 

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Posted by combine_hunter (Member # 39526) on :
 
I read deadgoon's post as him saying he was satisfied just being with her. He didn't push the issue like lamp repeatedly has, because he had no need to.

It appears that love overpowered his fetish.
 

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Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
 

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Originally posted by mmmtoes:

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Originally posted by DeadGoon:
Weird. With my girl last year, I was happy enough to be with her feet stuff didn't matter to me. And hers were very nice

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I disagree and don't think it is weird at all. Just because your fetish is weaker then Lamps, doesn't make him weird. I actually find it weird that it didn't bother you at all. At least - the way I read your post. As I read it, you are saying your girl wouldn't let you touch her feet and it didn't bother you. Maybe you just have a very weak fetish or don't mind if a girl has everything her way???

I don't need feet all the time, but I would not stay with a woman that was TOO SELFISH to be open to trying things that make me happy.

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Originally posted by combine_hunter:
I read deadgoon's post as him saying he was satisfied just being with her. He didn't push the issue like lamp repeatedly has, because he had no need to.

It appears that love overpowered his fetish.

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Originally posted by combine_hunter:
I read deadgoon's post as him saying he was satisfied just being with her. He didn't push the issue like lamp repeatedly has, because he had no need to.

It appears that love overpowered his fetish.

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in response to this, yes this is very admirable, but i dont think many people could do this.. i've been in a relationship before when feet have been denied and eventually you will end up wanting it and it doesnt work.

maybe because my girlfriend knows about this she is testing to see if i will stay with her and love her enough to be with her anyway.. so in time she might be ok with it. but if she doesnt then i will dump her for that reason only, even if the relationship is good. she needs to realize there needs to be compromise. i put a lot into relationships and therefore i deserve to be happy and i only live once

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Originally posted by combine_hunter:

It appears that love overpowered his fetish.

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LOL it's true!
 

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Posted by combine_hunter (Member # 39526) on :
 
Finally got one right!
 

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Posted by lamp (Member # 19270) on :
 
Just thought Id mention that we broke up a couple of days ago!

I'm actually not that upset because I wasnt all that happy. She was really selfish in many ways and as soon as I ever challenged her bratty behaviour she was like "right its over"

thats besides the whole foot thing. if ever i tried to touch her feet or do anything with them she said it filled her with feelings of "dread"! and that she did'nt think she could ever get over that. even after this conversation i agreed to stay with her and let her get over it in her own time. it wasnt like i wanted it all the times either. it was extreme compromise on my part and very little effort from her.

the day before we broke up she acted like everything was fine too, rang me up to tell me she loved me. she was full of shit.

i hope my next girlfriend is better, at least someone without drama and easy to reason with. thanks for everyones support!
 

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Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
 

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Originally posted by lamp:
i hope my next girlfriend is better

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