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Posted by Toe Sucker II (Member # 1720) on :
 
As the title says...... I told the girl I'm seeing about my fetish.

She thought it was hilarious. I'm quite glad she took it so well. However there's a slight problem... She said that I will never get my hands on her feet. Ever. She hates them. I think they look beautiful. Naturally! Her feet are probably the best feet I've actually had access too. Nice and wide, fleshy, wrinkly and beautiful short chubby toes! Everything I could have wished for

What do you think I should do to try and get in there with them?
 

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Posted by FootLongSub Zero (Member # 19380) on :
 
Like duh, yeah of course man go for it. And don't forget pics for us members too please

Good luck, and "may the force be with you"
 

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Posted by abv.avg.joe. (Member # 40655) on :
 
I don't know, but maybe she'll break a little.

My wife hates feet and all that bs. Why then get pedicures?

Anyways, I'm able to do some stuff, but major toe sucking and licking is a dislike for her. So I get to kiss heavily and sneak in some tongue in between. It helps that I like her to keep her thongs on, because I need that.

All I can say is play it right, whatever you think that is, and maybe some wine and a foot rub after walking around the mall buying a couple pairs of flip flops/ thongs.


Good luck!
 

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Posted by boii170 (Member # 41910) on :
 
LOL major contradictory.

She took it so well.. she laughed at me.. she said she I'll never touch her feet. LOL


I think you missed the message.
 

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Posted by Rider Aldebaran (Member # 38525) on :
 
My ex hated her feet and thought they were ugly. However, she let me suck on her toes and do stuff with them. Also, her feet weren't ugly, but they weren't great, either--they were average.
 

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Posted by Toe Sucker II (Member # 1720) on :
 
Some mixed reviews. Thanks to all.

I think I'll just keep chipping away. As the saying goes... Time is a healer? lol
 

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Posted by oneagain (Member # 35859) on :
 
Unless she was near violently against you worshipping her feet...it sounds she is a bit playful with it.

Best way to get some approval is when making love to her...'specially with you on top...just go to town in trying to please her...then when you are on top and it is getting near that time...just casually get into those soles...maybe suck a toe or toe and she might start getting into it.

...do you guys drink(or drugs:P)? While at home and having some drinks...try to massage her feet...after time she should give in...

if it is always a big NO for anything with the feet...tough call!
 

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Posted by Toe Sucker II (Member # 1720) on :
 
I think you're right oneagain.

She's so much fun to be around. I think she will put up a fight but will come good as like goes on.
 

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Posted by DeadGoon (Member # 24278) on :
 
I'll just give you my story. My first gf HATED feet and really hated hers.

Now, I never told her about my fetish. However, I did end up sucking her toes while we were playing around... she acted like she was grossed out but eventually it started to dawn on me it was just an act. It turned her on from day one. To the point where she seemed to encourage it...
 

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Posted by Toe Sucker II (Member # 1720) on :
 

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Originally posted by DeadGoon:
I'll just give you my story. My first gf HATED feet and really hated hers.

Now, I never told her about my fetish. However, I did end up sucking her toes while we were playing around... she acted like she was grossed out but eventually it started to dawn on me it was just an act. It turned her on from day one. To the point where she seemed to encourage it...

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Originally posted by Spotlight:
Good Bye!

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I'm inclined to agree. If she follows through on her claim that you won't be getting your hands on her feet, I'd suggest that you start assessing your satisfaction and options.

Good luck changing her mind.
 

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Posted by Toe Sucker II (Member # 1720) on :
 
Thanks for all of your feedback.

I'm pleased to say that we have made progress... She's been teasing me about her feet. She asked if I could hear them being rubbed together as we spoke. I was a little turned on as she said in a rather sexy tone of voice.

I'll keep you posted as and when things happen. If everyone is cool with it I'll dig this post out again; saves creating a new one.
 

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Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
 
I've never been in a situation where I've sat down and "had the talk" with any girl about my foot fetish. In my opinion, that in of itself can come across as weird, especially if you're not comfortable having that conversation, not to mention the words used in that conversation, considering that the word "fetish" has such a negative connotation with most people. That word can immediately turn someone off. The bottom line is if you're uncomfortable with it, she'll sense it and then she'll be uncomfortable with it as well. That very well may be the reason she said that you'll never get your hands on her feet. Even if you are/were comfortable having that kind of conversation with her, talking about it and trying to convey it verbally could have been enough to turn her off to the idea that you really like her feet.

In lieu of talking about it, I've always followed the philosophy that actions speak louder than words. In my opinion, it's also better than talking about it on quite a few different levels. The act of just going for it allows for the element of surprise and something different that a woman isn't expecting. Most women like a little degree of unpredictability here and there. In addition, going for it without "getting her permission" allows a guy to take a dominant role in the situation, which is another positive attribute that women like. It also adds some degree of sexual tension, in my opinion. If you just do it without any kind of explanation, a woman may have an inclining that her feet turn a guy on but by not verbalizing it in any way and taking the "dreaded fetish word" out of the equation, it can suddenly become more attractive and appealing - something "naughty" that's unique that she has never experienced before with any other guy. That alone makes it unique and sexually appealing, as opposed to "putting all the cards on the table" and expressing full out "I have a foot fetish".

To the present situation, you may have to proceed with caution now that "the horses have all left the barn", so to speak. You may have to totally lay off of paying any attention to her feet for a little while. Then, when she least expects it, just go for it by sucking on her toes in the heat of the moment. I'm thinking she suddenly won't be so concerned over her opinion that she has "ugly feet".
 

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Posted by edelbrock (Member # 17055) on :
 
yeah right on with the surprise thing. YOU actually put HER on the spot when you said you like feet. now, specially with her not having the same ability to judge them as you, shes in a spot where she doesnt feel comfortable about how her feet look and doesnt wanna make you unhappy with them.

with that being said, dont worry. over time she will do stuff just to make you happy, and like everyone said, she might find out she enjoys it once she drops her defenses.
 

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Posted by Toe Sucker II (Member # 1720) on :
 
Well said chaps.

I have been moving towards the next with her. She's really fascinated by my fetish and has been asking me questions about it... Which I quite like.

She's cool about me playing with her shoes socks and hose for now. Let's see where the future takes us!
 

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Posted by oneagain (Member # 35859) on :
 
Excellent TSII!

It sounded playful her rejection of your fetish...glad to see she wasn't sticking to her guns on those original comments she made.

I agree with other posts that say don't have a formal discussion about you liking feet...while it is a bit late for you now...I agree in just letting nature take it's course in the fact that she will figure it out by the attention you give to her feet!

Keep us posted, glad you are 'gettin' some!
 

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Posted by jamesdd (Member # 19270) on :
 
be patient and respectable, she should ease to it nicely. but if she becomes stubborn in not letting you touch her feet because she is either uncomfortable or inconsiderate and wants to tease then dont wait around forever.

i've been with 2 closed minded girls who were like that and wasted a lot of time being unhappy and trying to force something that just wouldnt work.

my new girlfriend instantly liked my fetish and finds it a turn on. makes it feel so much more happy, positive and natural so there is no akwardness on my part or her part. thats how ya want it to be. if you cant get it like that dont settle for being unhappy.

i swore id never put myself through that trauma again. remember you only live once!
 

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Posted by footlovinman_2000 (Member # 28391) on :
 
My wife was the same way... She hated her feet and even made me wait about a year before she wore open toe sandals.

Touch her feet as often as you can... Like while watching TV. She'll like it and you'll eventually get to have you way.... And then go from there.

Now my wife really enjoys me to miss her feet and suck her toes. Be patient, she'll come around.
 

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Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
 
Like footlovinman and others have said- be patient but persistent in doing things with her feet- as others have said, even if it's just touching or rubbing them while watching tv. Be loving, playful and supportive of her showing you her feet and letting you do things with them and last but certainly not least express your deep appreciation of her allowing you "feet time" when she does allow it. As others have said, I think there's an excellent chance she'll come around. If for no other reason than she likes/loves you and wants to make you happy. Again as others have said, there's a very good chance she'll come to like having her feet receive attention.

(Those of you who know my story may stop here)
Like you, I did "have the talk" with my wife. Thanks to the guys and gals on this forum I got up the courage to tell my her about my foot fetish a few years ago, after we'd been married 20-some years.

She didn't laugh or freak out but calmly listened and then asked questions, especially about what I liked. She had heard of foot fetishists before but had never had any experience with one. She really did not think her feet were attractive and because she never imagined that someone could be sexually aroused by her feet she really didn't spend much time taking care of them.

But wanting to make me happy she jumped in with both feet. She immediately started taking excellent care of her feet, smoothing and lotioning, and painting her toe nails. I gave her a good quality anklet which she started wearing 24/7. Together we picked out some toe rings which she also wears 24/7 on the second toe of each foot- just like I prefer. I gave her some sandals and flip-flops- the start of what now is a large collection. We look at flip-flops whenever we go shopping together.

And the foot action started as well. I could tell she wasn't totally comfortable at first, and I must admit at times I was as nervous as she was but she didn't stop me from sucking and licking her feet and toes, playing with them during foreplay and sex, and of course footjobs and cumming on them. I'll NEVER forget how absolutely giddy I was with excitement and nervousness the first time I asked her to wear some sandals while we had sex.

Anyway, the best part is- she's come to really enjoy all the foot stuff, especially me massaging her feet and sucking her toes.

I hope your story has the same type of ending. I'd be more than happy to answer any questions you have or discuss anything you like about my experiences with this. Just PM me.
 

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Posted by Jay the Footman (Member # 42837) on :
 
Ok I've had enough of this. I have to put my 2 cents into this. I for the life of me cannot wrap my mind around being in a serious relationship with a woman that wont allow me to "mess with her feet", and I sure as hell wouldn't marry a woman that will deny me access to her feet.

I understand not revealing this to a woman that you may be dating at first, or you haven't been serious with each other. Just someone you are having fun with for the time being, or getting to know... it's cool to keep it a secret, but once you've decided that you want to be serious with each other, or take it a step further, I say you need to let the woman know right then and there because this is apart of who we are, and I can't speak for other men, but in order for us (us meaning me and the woman I'm with) to have a [u]healthy[/u] intimate relationship she has to let me have her feet when I want them.

If a woman isn't down for letting me play with her feet then her and those pretty feet of hers can kick rocks.... I'll go find a woman that WILL. If she is worried I'll cheat or "go on the internet for foot fetish porn" then she better hand over the feet and stop playing. End of.

We need to grow some balls and stop feeling that our needs and desires should take a back seat to the woman's needs and desires.

We shouldn't have to negotiate, or "wait patiently" for the feet of our girlfriends or wives. The part that saddens me the most is these are the same women that will complain that you need to step your game up in the bedroom, eat them out a certain way, do this and do that for them, buy them this, buy them that and hold us at gun point to see some chick flick that we don't even care about, or drag us to some event or activity that you hate going to AND expect us to pay for it because "we are the man and it's tradition" and also complain that the Valentines day gift wasn't as big and expensive as she hoped and hinted for so she feels that she can put you in the dog house because you didn't act like a trained seal good enough for her. The LEAST the bitch can do for you in return is let you play with her feet.

Now for the guy that started this post, I'm not calling YOUR girl a "bitch" in that last statement. I was meaning the word "bitch" in a general sense. I was talking about any woman in general... I wouldn't want to disrespect you like that, you seem like a great guy and I don't know you or your girl personally.... however, hypothetically speaking what if I DID call your girl a "bitch" in this post? You [u]might[/u] get on the board, curse me out, and say "you can't talk about MY GIRL that WAY!!!" you will defend her and stand up for her... and I don't blame you that would be the right thing to do I guess... to "protect her", but just remember.... your reward for taking up and defending your girl against a guy you don't know over the internet is... "she wont let you play with her feet". Just giving you something to think about.

You guys are better than me, I couldn't tolerate it... because feet is necessary for a happy relationship. I swear a woman telling me that I can't touch her feet is writing my exit stratagey.

I agree with the guy that said this...

"if she becomes stubborn in not letting you touch her feet because she is either uncomfortable or inconsiderate and wants to tease then dont wait around forever."

"i've been with 2 closed minded girls who were like that and wasted a lot of time being unhappy and trying to force something that just wouldnt work."

"my new girlfriend instantly liked my fetish and finds it a turn on. makes it feel so much more happy, positive and natural so there is no akwardness on my part or her part. thats how ya want it to be. if you cant get it like that dont settle for being unhappy."

"i swore i'd never put myself through that trauma again. remember you only live once!"

I cosign every word of that JamesDD.
 

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Posted by Sol (Member # 2476) on :
 
Jay The Footman, perfectly said. I was about to post the exact same thing.

The majority of you guys here are RIDICULOUS. You're giving women way too much power at the expense of your own pleasure and enjoyment. It's infuriating to read.

I let the girl know about my fetish extremely early on, most of the time even on the first date. If they have a problem with it and tell me they won't be open to it, I'm gone, simple as that.

While you guys are "being patient" and getting blue balls, I'm already with the next girl who embraces my fetish.

Sexual compatibility is key in a relationship. You guys seem to ignore this and let yourself get trapped, and then you complain on these forums about your sexual frustrations. You only have yourself to blame.
 

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Posted by Jay the Footman (Member # 42837) on :
 
Amen Sol, amen. I was getting pissed reading some of these replies. We need to stand up and just say no to women that deny us their feet then they turn around and expect us to provide for them, protect them, and jump through hoops just to make THEM feel good, but wont throw us a bone in return. Then at the end of the day these are the same guys that will complain about a woman's twisted sense of entitlement or get on message boards and say "oh why do nice guys finish last??".

Nice guys finish last because they put their happiness and pleasure last (along with themselves), and make the woman feel special FIRST. Women cried for "equality" so lets make it equal across the board... how about we make each other happy equaly... and if she can't return the favor then you should go find a woman that will (because believe me there are PLENTY of women that will).

It's not about being a jerk or a bad boy, it's about leveling the fucking playing field.

Why is it that I don't even have a girlfriend OR a wife, and I get more feet than the guys that have girlfriends and wives?! No bullshitting. I'm not a "player" or some kind of sex symbol. I'm not even a tall guy, AND I'm not rich either, but I have a utility belt full of female associates that I can call upon and get my fix when I want. (most of them are on here at http://www.clips4sale.com/37512) Why? Because I value myself, and don't play that shit. I know what I want, go out, take the risk and get what I want... (and if I don't, it's on to the next one). I don't care if the woman thinks "I'm creepy" because of my fetish and if a woman isn't feeling it, I have no problem cutting her ass off for someone that will.

You have to pardon my going on and on, I'm just so passionate about this subject. It just bothers me how men think it's some kind of honor just to HAVE a woman that they will put up with and tolerate bullshit just to HAVE a girlfriend.

Get your balls out of your girlfriend's purses fellas and reattach them.
 

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Posted by Jay the Footman (Member # 42837) on :
 
Ok Toe Sucker II, this is the last thing I'm going to say then I'm going to stop adding on. This woman said "you will NEVER get your hands on them", don't be a pussybeggar man. She didn't say "maybe one day" she told you NEVER. Don't even chip away at this, go find a woman that will NEVER tell you what this one just said.

A woman telling me I'll NEVER get my hands on her feet is like a woman telling me I'll NEVER get any pussy from her. Why waste your damn time?

Value yourself man. Tell yourself you are better than this.

If you still think you have a shot (which I doubt) then give it a small grace period, and if she hasn't given you the feet by then stop giving this woman free meals at restarants you wouldn't go to in your own spare time.

If she met Brad Pitt and he had a foot fetish, do you think she would have told him "you will NEVER get your hands on my feet" if he wanted them?

Don't ever hit your head against a brick wall my friend.
 

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Posted by Toe Sucker II (Member # 1720) on :
 
Thanks Jay and Sol. Your replies are great.

I think you're both right in a way. I'm going to take your advice and throw it out there. If she's going to take it badly then I'm out the door. As sad as it sounds.... FF is my life. The one thing I love about a woman. Fuck tit's and ass. It's all about the tootsies!!
 

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Posted by Sol (Member # 2476) on :
 
Another thing though, if you make feet a big deal, then the girl will think they're a big deal and use it as a bargaining tool against you. You need to treat them just like you would her ass or breasts, because I can easily imagine a girl playing a guy for a fool just so he can get her hands on her feet. Go for her feet in a matter of fact kind of way, as if they're just another part of the female body you like. You don't want to place so much importance over her feet to the point where she can manipulate you with them.

Seriously though, there's nothing to worry about. As I said, I tell girls almost immediately about my fetish and virtually all of them let me have my way. If you're confident about liking feet, then it makes the girl seem totally unreasonable for not being open to it. It's only feet afterall!
 

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