So i figured when i get with a new girl, i find it hard to stand to attention if you catch my drift, nervous you know? Then after a while i can get it up and have sex pretty comfortably.
I can last a pretty long time, and when i need to cum i would try and look down at her feet or brush my hand a long them etc... and then finally cum.
Now my situation has changed again, im really confortable with this girl im hooking up with but can hardly last at all, i end up cumming so quick and it has nothing to with her feet! Now im pretty much the complete oppisit and almost dread having to have sex with her because the moment i think "Ok try not to cum" im literally cumming a minute later! Has anyone else struggled with this at all? It doesn't help that her feet are small the most adorable things ever! But like i said, im not usually thinking of them at all.
By the way, we're just hooking up and from way different areas and haven't told her of my fetish, and not sure that i will yet as i know it won't last.
So if you have any help at all on how i can last a little long i would really appreciate it! thanks!
Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
Ever heard of "cleaning the pipes" before you go out?
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
Breathing.
As you get closer to climax take deeeeep breaths. Relax. Practice this while you're masturbating.
GQ
Posted by Patrick (Member # 1169) on :
Lick her, fuck her, lick her, fuck her, lick her... change positions, go fast, go slow, etc. Get into a steady pace and it is easier to do, I think.
Patrick
Posted by larrrr (Member # 42092) on :
Do Kegels or get yourself into a whack off frequency where it desenitizes you enough to last where you want.
Posted by peterjohn (Member # 37637) on :
maybe you just had a issue before and now its normal.if the chic is smokin hot then youre not 2 blame
Posted by Andy-Laa (Member # 31511) on :
I have the opposite problem lol - I take wayyyy too long.
Posted by curly09 (Member # 33380) on :
quote:Originally posted by Patrick: Lick her, fuck her, lick her, fuck her, lick her... change positions, go fast, go slow, etc. Get into a steady pace and it is easier to do, I think.
Patrick
I like your style!
Posted by edelbrock (Member # 17055) on :
i have the problem too. ive noticed a few shots of whiskey keeps me numb enough to keep goin. too many and i cant get hard. too little and i remain nervous.
how many girls have you been with? ive noticed i had this problem primarily the first time i started hooking up regularly. still to this day i usually have a generalized problem: either im turned on and ready to nut or im not turned on and cant get/stay up.
im still learning to be a superman in bed but i dont have any complaints and only a few arent repeat customers. the trick? get them off first. i like to go down and a girl and make her cum hard once or twice so shes REALLY wet when i slide in (so wet i can usually even get it in while still limp and get hard that way). knowing she has cum already takes the pressure off the situation and i dont care if i cum fast. this state of mind alone helps me immensely (ive concluded that this is primarily a mental issue for me, as i might be u as well).
and katt williams said it best: learn your stroke number and use your reset. hahaha
Posted by Keyfeet (Member # 27313) on :
just do it agian after the first time
Posted by hyperion2424 (Member # 39397) on :
French fries & Grandma. Hitler. Carl Sagan. The Mars Rovers. Northern lights. Low pressure systems.
Ha! That was fun.
-hyp
Posted by aka.footjoyboy (Member # 32751) on :
Think about Chaz Bono. Posted by skaramunga (Member # 11914) on :
About time someone posts this topic...
It's definitely the nerves dude...I used to have the same problem and sometimes I still get it...
Yes booze can take the edge off, but don't get dependent on it. Some times when I know I have company coming over, I'll say to myself I'll have one drink to loosen up but then I end up getting completely sloshed and proceed to pass out! Which then the girl will look at you and say to herself what the hell is going on here? Is he getting wasted just to avoid banging me?
And it has nothing to do with how many girls you've slept with...a good buddy of mine has slept with well over forty girls and recently he was caught up in a rut where his last like 4 or 5 partners he couldn't buy a hard-on...(weither he was drunk or sober)...It happens to every guy...and the guys that say "Ive never had a problem getting it up blah blah blah) are lying.
But once you get comfortable with her and you can seal the deal, definitely try what everyone else said...try to distract yourself but not to the point where you lose focus of what youre doing...
If you cum fast so what? There's other ways to please her...eat her out, finger her, whatever...
If she looks at you weird cause you finished fast say "Baby you were so good you made me finish quick". I've said that a lot of times and it's never gone bad once with the girl. It's a compliment to her!
Just make sure you get her off too..if you like her that is...if you don't like her why do you care if she gets off? She can always go home to her dildo.
Posted by warp (Member # 15496) on :
Some great advice here!
I just think now im super confortable with her having sex, like it must have been 15 times in the same of three weeks, keep in mind, we're not a couple, i have no problem getting hard, but she is fuckin' smoking and i see her jumping up and down on me and i can't help but cum, but when we were first hooking up and i was nervous i have no problem holding off, like i had to really try and cum..
ahhhhh all so irritating!!
Posted by Diabolicus (Member # 7743) on :
Ha! Nice thread with some entertaining posts here, and I somewhat share the OP's problem. For me it work a little differently. I'd like to think I am great in bed as long as it's with someone I know really well, and so when I am seeing someone new I try not to move the relationship to a physical level until I am confident enough being around her.
A good measuring stick to know when I am comfortable with a partner is to envision whether or not it would be awkward if she walked in on me changing. If I think I would be embarassed by it, then I am not ready to get busy with her.
As far as making yourself last with a new girl, I've shared pretty close to the same problem. I've been with partners so ridiculously attractive that the sex went far too fast paced. However, you can make it work in your favor if her sex drive is in good shape. If she expresses that she is in the mood, drag out the foreplay for as long as you are able to so that she is practically begging for you to seal the deal. She is more apt to be satisfied with the sex and it won't matter as much if you are a major stud in the sack.
I think that if you spend more time with her in bed and get to know her turn-ons and she get's to know yours the "lasting longer" part should evolve naturally. In the meantime I suppose you can take a couple of tricks mentioned in this thread to get you started. Posted by chillstatus (Member # 41089) on :
Trying to think about dumb stuff will probaly make u go soft...think about pleasing her....switch positions.....a good jerk before u have the encounter....i use Magnums, but when i use the reg. condoms, i last longer also..
Posted by feetluvr (Member # 1570) on :
quote:Originally posted by Andy-Laa: I have the opposite problem lol - I take wayyyy too long.
I'm in that same boat. Not more than 3-4 times in 30 years of marriage have we done anything close to a quickie. l love the ending but I love enjoying the "getting there" as well. Posted by alanski (Member # 11004) on :
before you cum think about dead hedgehogs or stinkin' dog shit on your shoes
you'll get there bud, maybe she's too tight?
either masturbate before sex so you're on your second not-so-sensitive round or masturbate more regular so you de-sensitize your cock
Posted by warp (Member # 15496) on :
Well, thanks for all the awesome replies you guys and you will all be happy to know, i think ive cracked it!
Confidence - thats the key. I had this thought to myself of, hey this is my dick and i know how to use it, if im about to cum, i'll pull out, chill for a second then start again, staying in control of all the moments in the sex, keeping my cool, staying confident. I think it works...wait infact i know it works. We were in doggy last night and she said it was the best sex she had ever had and that she came for about 30 seconds.
By far one of the best compliments ive ever had haha! And to think a few weeks previous i would so scared about what 'might' happen ya know?
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