I'm sure this question has been posted out there at some point, but I couldn't figure out a search tag to find it. Apologies if there is a similar post out there already...
I was just curious how many would, if they had the chance, "erase" their attraction to feet. Fetishism brings intense pleasure when our desires are gratified, but immense frustration if not. Also, there's the social stigma to deal with.
Of course this is just a hypothetical, what-if type of scenario, but interesting to hear your thoughts.
Posted by Fate111 (Member # 2627) on :
Personally, I wouldn't change it. There was a time in my life when I wish I could change it though. Along the way, I've learned to deal with the fact that I do have it. As a result, I got comfortable with it because it's part of who I am and it isn't going to just go away. Once I reached that place of acceptance and being comfortable with it, things greatly improved for me. It was a process and I did make some mistakes along the way but I learned from them. Now I wouldn't change having my foot fetish.
Posted by Spruce314 (Member # 35412) on :
I'm pretty much with Fate on this one. I often think how glad I am to have a foot fetish instead of having a predisposition towards alcoholism, drug abuse or really bad things like pedophilia.
Posted by Alcarde (Member # 44028) on :
nah, I love it. While I can't have all the feet I see, I'm fine with the feeling of slight pleasure that comes with just seeing a sexy pair of feet.
Posted by Rider Aldebaran (Member # 38525) on :
No. It's a harmless kink; why would I give it up?
Posted by itotallylovebarefeet (Member # 43881) on :
When I was a teenager yes, I would have erased it. Now however I realise how stupid that would've been. I would never get rid of my foot fetish now, it's just part of who I am, sounds a bit philosophical but I wouldn't be 'me' if I didn't have a foot fetish!
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
When I was a teen, I thought that way, too. I fantasized checking into a mental hospital. They would operate on me, and I'd be "cured!" Now, I'm glad I have it!
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
The only thing I would change is all the opportunities I chose to miss. Otherwise, I'm very happy with myself and always have been.
Posted by BlackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
i'd change it in a heartbeat, no second thought
Posted by dbacks (Member # 26882) on :
No i love it, it is something that women show all the time, even if they have no knowledge of how sexy their feet are, i am glad i do.
Posted by Xero (Member # 15476) on :
Nope, not after all this time. I wouldn't change a thing about it.
Posted by sportyruss (Member # 16512) on :
Sometimes yes, because I wish I had just the normal attractions to say big boobs etc. When I do meet a nice girl I get frustrated because I have this fetish and feel I cannot tell her for fear of mockery. So I get in the situation where I am never totally gratified in a relationship. Still to this day, I am 43, I have only ever told two women about it, and both mocked me, so I just keep it to myself.
Posted by Panic (Member # 21074) on :
I would not change a thing. luckily I have a wife who lets me play with her feet
Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
quote:Originally posted by Toetapper: The only thing I would change is all the opportunities I chose to miss. Otherwise, I'm very happy with myself and always have been.
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Posted by Alcarde (Member # 44028) on :
I agree with LeDaemon and others. I thought that a foot fetish was a very bad thing, living in a very Catholic community, and was very ashamed of admitting to it. I wonder how my life would have changed if instead of just watching girls at college from a distance do shoeplay with their flipflops during class or spread their toes for all to see, just to air them out of their shoes after a long day of classes, I actually acted on them. I had many female friends with incredible feet and wished that I could go back in time and take advantage of their pretty peds.
Also though, sometimes, like when I'm at a fancy location or at a family function and I see some very sexy feet, everyone knows it. It is hard to conceal my lap and while I am having an easier time fixing it, like crossing my legs or walking away or whatever, I wonder if others notice. Like if I was at work and my mother-in-law, who is also my boss, walks in talking about her new pedicure and pops up on her toes and I can see a small arch, long plump toes and a nice sized foot, I get excited. It takes a bit of work to stay at my desk and try to conceal what is growing. Sometimes, I wish I had an on/off switch so at work and at functions, I could turn it off.
Posted by Tyler D. (Member # 11452) on :
quote:Originally posted by stopyczek: Would you change if you could?
Over the past 4-5 years I have been conducting a slow cumulative personal experiment to change/cleanse myself for all the reasons you listed and let me tellya it is happening in some respects.
I used to not like the idea of normal sex at all and now I f*ck like a champ. not only that, it can replace my craving for feet half the time. even better w/o the condom but not as safe as with feet if you know what i mean.
so in losing one's fetish, one must remember that you lose the good aspects of your fetish too, which can consist of things like safer sex and genuine feelings like worthlessness, among other things that we take for granted.
as i've always said: "be careful what you ask for, you might just get it"
tread carefully fellas. sometimes, it's just better to just lick & sniff like a humble servant than to be some stud hero of an alpha male.
Posted by Girlgotsole (Member # 14405) on :
My wife actually likes me being a foot fetishist. To be honest, I've had VERY little trouble with being one. Truthfully, I've only ever dated one girl out of MANY that cared.
So, would I change it? Nope! I love being a foot fetishist. From a completely logical standpoint, there are advantages.
+My wife likes foot massages, I like giving them.
+Traditional means of women attempting to seduce me don't work as well (that's kept me out of trouble, especially back in high school).
+I like it when my wife goes shoe shopping, so there's another win for both us.
+It gives a kinky, unique way for her to seduce me, especially when we're out and about.
+Feet can be very varied in decoration, much moreso than breast or asses in my opinion.
- A chance to get embarrassed because some random chick finds it weird. Whooptie-doo.
Point is, you'll find yourself a good girl, she'll either accept your foot fetish, or, like mine, end up actually enjoying it (especially when she gets home from work in her shoes all day standing. We're BOTH super happy about foot massages then. )
Posted by hyperion2424 (Member # 39397) on :
Alcarde: One thing to keep in mind is that in general, people think about you (or me, or anyone) far less than you (or I, or anyone) think they do. We actually don't live in a spotlight most of the time. Well, SPOTLIGHT does, but he's a crazy-ass one man freak show.
Hey Spotlight, you been layin low lately? Wassamatta, is Dunkin Donuts closed? What, you lose your camera? Ha.
And no, I wouldn't give this up for all the pizza in New York.
-hyp
Posted by Weekend_Warrior (Member # 2662) on :
In the infamous words of Whitney Houston: "Hell to-the-naw!!!""
The thought never entered my mind. After everything I've experienced, why would I wanna change anything? When I look back on my life, I can't think of anything--past or present--that's been so horrific that I'd want to erase it all (including IRAQ) from my memory.
but I digress...
Bottom line, there are gonna be people who disapprove of your fetish and/or judge you because of it. They're not going anywhere! The decisions I've made, the people I continue to meet along the way (especially the folks here @ Wu's) have given me a lifetime of memories!! I have no regrets.
Posted by FtLckr26 (Member # 13998) on :
I love my attraction to womens feet. There's no way I would change that if I could. Its just a beautiful part of the body and you can go anywhere and see hundreds of bare feet or partially covered feet.
Posted by DSW (Member # 35008) on :
The only way that can possible happen to me is if someone LITERALLY pointed a gun to my head and forced me to take a pill that'll erase my foot fetish desires.
Posted by Paranoiavii (Member # 9882) on :
The whole fetish has its ups and downs. On the one hand, you go through life wondering if you are different from the norm, where it came from, why you have it etc. Then there's always some nutjob in the news getting caught jacking into some girl's shoe closet. Some girls get REALLY put off about it, almost to the point of being insulting. When I finally did get the courage up to talk about it with close friends, they'd give me looks every time a foot fetish joke popped up on tv or in a movie. It's embarrassing.
But over the years, I've let my fetish work for me a little better. It helps to weed out the close minded girls, ones who I wouldn't want to date anyway. And in some ways, it makes it much easier to get off. A girl is 100x more likely to show off her feet than anything else, and some view it as a positive thing, making you unique amongst countless other guys.
I can't say for certain I wouldn't change my fetish if given the chance, but I can say that to lose it would make me an entirely different person in a much different world. I do wonder what it would be like, but I don't regret it.
Posted by ddash1985 (Member # 18676) on :
I wouldnt change a thing. Some people are weirder and creepy about it tho.Thats what I hate about some foot fetish guys.
I am a real cool and chill guy.I have never lost control or acted crazy when working with models.Some do get me really excited tho.After working with so many models my foot fetish has kinda died down even tho I get to mess with so many women and their feet now.
Its odd but I love it and it makes me a little bit of money.I never thought that would happen.
Posted by Fwrinkledsoles (Member # 101) on :
I have never tried to change and I will never change. My first wife had problems with my love for woman feet and she was jerlous, and compliant alot,especially when she find my leg show magazines. My second wife was okay with it but she wanted me to keep in in the closet. However, my third wife is all for it and ecourage it and she is okay with me playing around with other woman feet. And, I am often given her foot messages and painting her toe nails. Also, I really came out by telling her mother and father about how I like women feet and they seem to understand. Remember, guys and gals 82% of us are very nice people who enjoy the desire for women feet. ---------------------------- By far, "White Women Wrinkled Soles are the Sexiest of them all." Posted by baalfootish (Member # 33991) on :
Hell no. I've been cool with my foot fetish since I was 14. Didn't work it till I was 17 and I have ever enjoyed it since. I personally am very open about my foot fetish and there just isn't any stigma for me. And I find that fellow foot freinds who are totally cool and open with their fetish also don't have to worry about the whole stigma/mockery/your weird. For me heads crack a smile when I yell at my girl not to walk around barefoot cuz I don't want dog dander rubbed in my face. And FRUSTRATION? What do you even mean by that? If you weren't into feet you would still look at a hotty with a fine ass and be just as frustrated about not being able to touch or tap that, at least women love foot massages (and girls who don't know about foot fetish are usually willing to get a foot massage from a freind) and during the warm weather its the equivilent of women walking around topless all the time and not caring. There are a lot of things I would change about myself, like overdrinking, but I love my foot fetish. I love that I love feet. There is just something sooo sensual about foot worship and its so empowering to women and yet gratifying to us that I feel we are privy to something the rest of the world is not. For this same reason I respect all fetishist even if I don't agree with their particular kink (showers, really?), we're not afraid to be ourselves.
And lastly, the statistic is a third of men have a foot fetish. I think the only reason there is a stigma about foot fetish is because a lot of guys aren't comfy with themselves having it and throw the very notion of loving feet under the bus. Just like the main reason for hate against gays is the so called 'macho' guy who's a closeted homosexual and is more pissed off at himself for having these predilections and not coming to tearms with them so he hates on em. Hell when I was 14 and was staring at this hotties feet cuz she always took off her heels in class (yea one of those, 15 boricua and crazy heels) I remember jerking off thinking about fucking her feet. And I was YOUNG, not sure if this meant I was really into feet, but I knew I was and just didn't like the 'stigma' (my sister thinks to very sight of any feet are disgusting) but even back then I was cool with it cuz (lmao) I remember realizing that I may not be able to touch her feet but I can see them and have an accurate memory to jerk off too instead of trying to visualize hypothetically what my classmates boobs look like. And I realized that pretty much NO women are covering their feet against lookers the way they cover up their breasts and cooch. And honestly if your are sexually frustrated, blaming the fetish isn't cool. I was 14 and hadn't figured out how to get laid yet so was just as frustrated. Feet are cool! And I love that women who would never think of posing for porn have no qualms about posing their feet (well unless they knew we were jerking off all over ourselves looking at their soles )
Posted by Jay the Footman (Member # 42837) on :
Man I agree with ya'll. I wouldn't change it either. In fact, having a foot fetish has actually motivated me to accomplish and do other things just so I could eventually have even more foot fetish experiences down the road. I believe if I never had a foot fetish to start with, I probobly wouldn't get out much. lol
Posted by Talos (Member # 39913) on :
I wouldn't change it, but I do wish I had a thing for hands. They are a lot more accessible.
Posted by hyperion2424 (Member # 39397) on :
Talos: I have a hand thing. I usually use hands as a barometer for feet when I can't see the latter. I especially like pics where the girl rests her hands on the tops of her feet.
You could probably develop an appreciation for hands if you look at them long enough.
t
Posted by BlackHxC88 (Member # 15094) on :
quote:Originally posted by Jay the Footman: I believe if I never had a foot fetish to start with, I probably wouldn't get out much. lol
i don't get out much with it, so i feel that if i didn't have it i would feel a bit more confident about doing anything social
Posted by FootBoi88 (Member # 43020) on :
It's just a part of me that I cannot let go, like my penis! Lmao Posted by Alcarde (Member # 44028) on :
Well yeah hyperion2424, maybe I'm not as big as I'd like to be in my city, but the idea of letting out to the world of my fetish would make my family life, a bit more challenging. My mom would think its some sort of huge mental thing and contact her local church to fix me. Yeah, she's like that. Also, when I do more restaurant reviews, the owners would likely bring out a waitress, have her sit next to me and have her kick her shoes off, take her socks off and then look at me and ask "do I have pretty feet?" While as heavenly as a fantasy that is, it would take out the honesty that I practice when I review a restaurant. Same thing goes for when I'm talking to other chefs or restaurants about my food. I think the view of me, as a professional chef would deteriorate quite quickly if I told someone that not only did I make a sugar free coconut cream pie with less calories than a meal at McDonalds, but I also let a troop of women stomp it and then ate and licked every delicious morsel from their sexy and tasty feet.
I enjoy it, when I think of it. I know it is fun going to a strip club and watching the stripper try to flirt and seduce me by conveniently taking her top off or asking if I like her tattoo or something like that and being impervious to her attempts. I like being able to be open and have conversations with other women, knowing that I'm married and that it doesn't matter if they are showing cleavage or not because I don't really care. I think, as I posted earlier, sometimes I wish I could turn it off, but I am happy with it the rest of the time.
Posted by hyperion2424 (Member # 39397) on :
Mmmm, pie......
Like you Alcarde, I have heavy public contact in my job. If my proclivity got out, I'd be "foot guy," and none of my other accomplishments nor anything else would matter. Sometimes I imagine the girls I'm in contact with doing the hardcore flirting like you describe, but man, what a hassle it would be if they all tried that. I'd NEVER get any work done.
As far as I can tell, Patrick is the only dude whose day job accommodates the fetish. For lots of guys on this board, the fetish IS their day job. G-d bless them motherfuckers, too.
I haven't been to a strip club in about a dozen years, but I hear what you're saying about striking up conversations. Happens a lot in airports. Harmless fun, keeps my reparteé sharpened.
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