I need some feedback from my feet fetish family. I record candidly a lot and am pretty good at it. It's just that I struggle, a lot as of late, about doing it. I know there is a demand for candid stuff. I also know that the subjects are gonna shoeplay etc. whether I record it or not. The feet are in plain view for everyone to see. I don't do upskirt , just not my thang. Anyway, I just wanna know if any other candid recorders experience this feeling of guilt. It may sound funny, but I actually don't mean any harm. I used to feel this way from just watching too. I realize there aren't a lot of candid recorders out there. but I hope someone replies. Thanx
Posted by Talos (Member # 39913) on :
Best advice I could give is just to rhetorically ask yourself "who gives a shit" and go with it.
Posted by sickvik (Member # 1319) on :
Thanx man.I appreciate the feedback. I assume your avatar id from a metal band.I love metal too
Posted by Steve Mason (Member # 24827) on :
I'd say your guilt is perfectly normal. As for the question "who gives a shit", well, the answer is obvious - the ladies you are recording almost certainly would "give a shit", that's who. No one is raised with the belief "Anyone can record me, without either my knowledge or consent, in anything I do, anytime they want to and no matter how trivial it may seem, and I shouldn't feel oddly about that; I'm the one with the problem."
Despite the fact that it's all done in public and that you're not doing up skirt stuff, etc., you're still invading their personal sense of privacy, and you know it. Even the audience for that kind of stuff knows it - in fact, the "sneakiness" of it is actually part of the draw for them, in many cases. It's voyeurism in its most pure (and amoral) form - spying without knowledge or consent. Anyone who says that's "totally cool" would almost certainly not feel the same way if the tables were turned and they found out that some stranger was spying on them during their own petty daily activities of any kind, especially if it was being recorded and posted on the Internet.
I'm not saying you should stop. I'm just answering your question in a way that is both logical and not self-serving. The choice of how to handle any guilt you feel is yours and yours alone, not that of anyone here...especially fans of that kind of shooting, because their answers will be predictably self-serving. Of course they would say you have nothing to feel guilty about. Why? Well, because they want you to keep doing it...in part because they don't record that kind of stuff themselves, for the same reasons that are making you feel guilty.
Does that make sense?
[ July 02, 2012, 05:57 PM: Message edited by: Steve Mason ]
Posted by sickvik (Member # 1319) on :
Yes it does make sense and thanx for taking the time to reply. The thing is I used to feel this way even watching. I guess what you are saying is that even though they are in public, I don't really have the right to invade their privacy. That is good enough for me. Thanyou again
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
Wow. Steve NAILED it.
I have a buddy that shoots candids using his smartphone, he downloaded an app that makes his screen look like it is off, completely blank and he just can tap his button to take the pic and no sound or flash goes off. As awesome as that sounds I felt kind of on the fence about it too. He doesn't seem to show remorse or guilt on his part if that helps in your decision making...
Posted by sickvik (Member # 1319) on :
Yes it does make sense and thanx for taking the time to reply. The thing is I used to feel this way even watching. I guess what you are saying is that even though they are in public, I don't really have the right to invade their privacy. That is good enough for me. Thanyou again
Posted by Mr.SoleLvr (Member # 21192) on :
Well said Steve, i think there is a lot more to it than just shooting candid pics/vids, i have taken a shot or two when there is a dynamic set of feet ifo me in a line-up and such....however there is a rush when shooting stuff like candids and it is almost like an addiction, once you get your fix you tend to feel guilty about it. Maybe dial back the candids and start doing more legitimate shoots?
Posted by sickvik (Member # 1319) on :
Glad to hear you understand how I feel. Glad I have a place to come and vent my feelings without being persecuted. I don't know about the legit shoots though.Maybe later on.
Posted by Talos (Member # 39913) on :
Maybe I sounded a little harsh. I was a bit pissed at the world yesterday. I don't know, maybe I'm selfish. I've taken candids before and was only worried about if I got caught. But then again, candids aren't really my thing.
[ July 03, 2012, 01:17 AM: Message edited by: Talos ]
Posted by larrrr (Member # 42092) on :
As long as you feel guilty I'd say there's nothing to worry about really. You of course just don't want to get caught.
Posted by sickvik (Member # 1319) on :
I have been caught. I got banned from a park for 1 year and I actually got caught recently, but I got the hell out of the mall and there were lots of people there and will be for the next few days. The thing is that it isn't illegal and all they can do is tell me to leave or ban me. Getting caught comes with the terrritory I am afraid. I just need to slow down. Been a litttle reckless lately.
Posted by Toe Sucker II (Member # 1720) on :
Guilt is very prevelent in our world.
Let me give you an example... Jerking off to the sweet scent of my aunts pop socks and flip flops was a new low I reached recently. My aunt was away, so I decided to raid her dirty washing basket and shoe rack. I boiled the kettle so the steam could infuse the nylons and flip flops again. My face still smelt of her feet for hours. It was incredible at the time but the guilt sRet in.
I think a lot of people have said the right thing... Who gives a fuck?! As long as the person you're targeting doesn't have a remote clue as to what you're doing, you're fine.
Enjoy the fetish. It's kinky and perverted for a reason; which I love the most!
Posted by sickvik (Member # 1319) on :
Wow what a story. I think I would feel kinda bad if I did something like that too...afterwards.I think when we are doing the deed we don't think about the consequences of our actions later. The fact that we feel guilty least shows that we have some level of having a consciousness. Though the act may still be deemed wrong.
Posted by larrrr (Member # 42092) on :
I don't think I could deal with getting caught doing that. I've never had the urge to take candids, but I have rubbed one out at times in public places. When I was in middle school I sat in the back of a class and a girl I had the hots for sat a row over and a desk up from me. I never saw her feet until one spring day when she came in wearing sandals and I was frozen in hardness at how cute her feet were. The ac blew directly on me so I'd bring a jacket. Anyway, the urge overcame me. The teacher was at her desk not paying much attn to the class as she was writing while the class had a note writing assignment. I had one arm not in the sleeve of my jacket and it zipped up so I slipped that hand into my pants. I enjoyed doing that for the rest of that year. That was the only time I took a huge risk.
Posted by sickvik (Member # 1319) on :
Well God that had to take some balls! Getting busted sux ass!!, but if ya gonna play the game ya have to accept the rules. In my opinion doing what you did takes tons more guts!! Now I could NEVER do something like that. Imagine if the teacher had called on you or something and you would have been exposed in front of your classmates and peers! So if you ask me , you have the bigger balls! That is tons riskier than candids
Posted by larrrr (Member # 42092) on :
Ah, but I never dropped my pants and my jacket hung over my waistline. I wouldn't of done it if all of the right factors didn't come together. What you're doing takes balls.