I have a friend, Maria, who works in one of the retail places near my apartment. We are "Friends", but haven't yet gone out on a date. I'm not sure if we will, because she has some trust issues, but that isn't the point of my post.
I'm not sure how the subject came up, but I was talking to her the other day. We know most everything about each other.. personally. Yet, I somewhat awkwardly said.,. "I have a.. fetish" She guessed.. "Feet" I sheepishly nodded my head. She started to laugh. I expected her to say something like "You're crazy".. or "Now that I know this we can never go out". Instead.. she was surprisingly supportive. She said something like "Feet is no big deal. If we do get involved, I'd let you kiss my feet.. but.. ah.. I have really ugly feet". (I haven't seen her feet yet, because she wears closed toe shoes) I said something like "Let me be the judge of that. I'm sure your feet aren't ugly, because the rest of you is very pretty".
I'm not sure what's going to happen with this. If we don't end up serious, I don't think it will be because of "Feet".
My point of this post is... If you want to get serious with someone, but haven't yet.. have any forum members confessed their fetish to a "Friend", who you haven't at all been physical yet, not knowing how that friend would react?
Anyhow, just wanted to post this. I will be interested to see the replies. Thanks.
Posted by abow (Member # 21509) on :
I shout out my confession of my "fetish" from the roof top, all day every day!
It's really not a big deal, and she seems supportive just give her some time, you'll get there Posted by Peter, Peter (Member # 40235) on :
A majority of girls say they have ugly feet, that's just a normal thing. But if she is cool, which it sounds like she is. Then it's all good, Keep us posted please.
Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
Good story! She knows about your fetish, and she's obviously sympathetic, so maybe she will let you look at her feet, and even massage them.
Posted by NorcalfeetStudios (Member # 732) on :
You'll never know if you don't try, I'd say tell them all. You are bound to get one that will indulge you.
Posted by MitchC (Member # 20084) on :
Thanks for the support, guys. I'll keep everyone posted.
Posted by KinkyKevin (Member # 46273) on :
It's always feels great to let out that confession due to the honesty.
Some guys take years to admit the truth, or sometimes even repress the anxiety for longer.
The rewards will be reaped by being open like you have done!
Posted by NorcalfeetStudios (Member # 732) on :
quote:Originally posted by Peter, Peter: A majority of girls say they have ugly feet, that's just a normal thing. But if she is cool, which it sounds like she is. Then it's all good, Keep us posted please.
Yeah I don't get it...when they actually have nice feet and won't permit you to inspect them a little closer...plenty that will though!
Posted by MitchC (Member # 20084) on :
With her trust issues, and the fact that we haven't gone out on an official "date" yet, even though we talk for hours every week, I don't think I could bring myself to ask to massage or play with her feet, unless either she offered me to.. or.. we were bf/gf, and we were intimate in other ways. If the latter happened, which I hope it does, I would remind her about my foot fetish, ask to give her a foot massage, and take it from there.
I haven't seen her since I made this thread, and she doesn't work over the weekends. Hopefully on Monday, I can see her, and continue to move this in the right direction.
Posted by GQguy (Member # 16534) on :
Ask her out already!
Anyway, yes....I don't mind talking about my fetish with anyone. It's really not that big of a deal. Some people will say eww gross...but that doesn't bother me. It's fun and liberating though to talk about your foot fetish without worrying about the judgement of others.
Posted by MitchC (Member # 20084) on :
I did ask her out, many times. She says that she likes me as a friend, but doesn't want to get serious with anyone. I don't think its me. She just has issues.
All I can do is talk to her, wait and see. I don't want to make a pest out of myself, where she gets turned off totally and doesn't want to talk to me.
Posted by Iowas foot slave (Member # 28971) on :
All of my friends know of my fetish. I don't hide it. I try to find a way to work it into a conversation. I usually wait until I know the person for a few weeks so it's not as much of a shock. If the opportunity is there, I'll open up about it sooner.
Posted by jamaicanfeet (Member # 16678) on :
It's never wise to confess your fetish to a woman unless you've actually seen her feet and know that you want them. Suppose you confess to her and tell her what you want and what you want her to do and she's cool with it and when she takes off her shoes they are TOTALLY not your type...what next?
Posted by jediofthefeet (Member # 1463) on :
quote:Originally posted by jamaicanfeet: It's never wise to confess your fetish to a woman unless you've actually seen her feet and know that you want them. Suppose you confess to her and tell her what you want and what you want her to do and she's cool with it and when she takes off her shoes they are TOTALLY not your type...what next?
Up until your post, I didn't consider the devil's advocate viewpoint. Its good to expand your horizons beyond types. There would have to be other traits about her feet to make up for whats missing. Women always say a guy, even you, is not her type. Attraction has nothing to do with types. If you can get her attracted to you, the type thing gets blown to bits.
Mitch, sounds like your friend is trying you...giving you a s--t test. She said if you two got involved, she'd let you kiss her feet. Yet after you've asked her out, she said she wants to only remain friends. Screw bf-gf, just hang out and show her a fun time. Think out of the box when you come up with ideas for places to go and things to do. And don't ask to massage or kiss her feet, just do it. You would wait until she offered. That is like waiting for her to offer you to kiss her. Some things you just do. When you wait too long, or ask, girls see you as less than a man, and that is not attractive to them.
I've either admitted my like for feet to a "friend" beforehand, or shown her my like.
Posted by MitchC (Member # 20084) on :
Jamaican, I never thought of that.
jedi, that's what I plan to do. I see her for hours on end every week. I'm going to continue to hang out with her, and just go with the flow.
I was shocked.. to be honest..that she didn't freak out when I told her I have a foot fetish. At least I know that's not a impediment.
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
At the risk of sounding like a wizened old codger:
When I first saw the phrase, "Welcome to the Friendzone", I knew exactly what it meant. Heaven knows, I've been stuck in that nebulous region many times over the years. I have had some happy endings that resulted but the vast majority, in retrospect, were a hideous waste of time, effort, and emotion.
Your situation does offer some optimism; certainly, you should keep your lines of communication open. You should not, however, waste your time waiting for her to make any kind of decision.
The Summer is at hand and there are so many other opportunities that will be coming up. Please, pursue these - and actively seek others - while you await her uncertain verdict.
While we all err in the appropriate timing of our self-revelations, I would say yours was a bit premature. The longer you take to demonstrate that you are a regular guy the more comfortable she will be with your quirks/fetishes.
But I go on too long.
Posted by Turm (Member # 1048) on :
I always make sure the conventional stuff is underway before the foot kinks begin, but that's just me.
I agree with Toetapper, explore all your options!
Posted by MitchC (Member # 20084) on :
Toetapper, I see your point, and thank you. I'm not fixated on her. I just like her. Also, this is the first time I've ever confessed my foot fetish to a girl in r/l before being physically active with her otherwise.
Thanks, Turm. I will take what you guys said under advisement.
Posted by houseshooz (Member # 10572) on :
Personally the only ones I let in on my foot fetish are the women I'm sleeping with. As far as I'm concerned it really doesn't involve anyone else so why bring it up to anyone else?
It's cool that you two have talked about it and you know she's cool with it. I think it makes far more sense to bring it up before things get serious that way you don't waste a lot of time and get emotionally attached with someone who isn't a good match for you.
Posted by MitchC (Member # 20084) on :
Thanks.
The only reason we aren't serious yet is that she's balking. I know she likes me, but just doesn't want to take "That step". Hopefully, that will change soon.
Posted by XXX toes (Member # 46190) on :
quote:Originally posted by houseshooz: Personally the only ones I let in on my foot fetish are the women I'm sleeping with. As far as I'm concerned it really doesn't involve anyone else so why bring it up to anyone else?
It's cool that you two have talked about it and you know she's cool with it. I think it makes far more sense to bring it up before things get serious that way you don't waste a lot of time and get emotionally attached with someone who isn't a good match for you.
WORD!
Posted by rburgundy1215 (Member # 34982) on :
I think part of it is all how comfortable you are in admitting you have a fetish. For example, I've been seeing this girl the past week, not like dating, but merely hanging out and it wasn't until just the past couple of days that we started getting flirty and physical. She was actually the one who asked me if I had a foot fetish when she noticed I'd keep kissing her legs and feet. I asked if she thought it was peculiar, but not in a skiddish ashamed sort of way, more in a teasing matter, to which she admitted she actually enjoyed it. Saved me the trouble of having to initiate having to admit it myself Posted by MitchC (Member # 20084) on :
I should also point out something.. that's not exactly on the topic of "feet", but indicates my situation with her.
She's asked me very personal/sexual questions, and told me personal and sexual things about herself, that are far more daring than "feet".
My true feeling: She likes me as a person, and even though she trusts me, she's either afraid to get involved, for fear of getting hurt. Or.. she just doesn't want to be tied down, as she likes her independence.
I don't plan to stay fixated on this girl. I will see her whenever it happens, and keep my eyes open. If something happens with her, fine. If not, I'll keep looking. That's about all I can do.
Posted by Sol (Member # 2476) on :
I don't understand why you use the word "confess". Do you "confess" to a girl that you prefer ass to breasts? Do you "confess" to a girl that you enjoy doggy position?
It's a stupid word associated with shame and regret and shouldn't belong in any sentence related to foot fetishism.
Posted by MitchC (Member # 20084) on :
Sol, while I see your point.. many "vanilla people who aren't into feet or fetishes, don't understand people with foot fetishes. Feet are often thought of as ugly, smelly, etc, to those who don't like them, and many people are often like OMG gross, feet.
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