Ok this is very hard to say and embarrassing to admit but here goes. I have a major foot fetish and it's causing me so much stress, I really am struggling to accept this. The main problem is it takes away the sexual attraction to other parts like the female genitals, it's like i like the feet in the way I should like the vagina, boobs etc. I am already a shy person (maybe due to this) I have bad anxiety and opening up to a potential lady seems so scary she will think I'm a god damn freak, also I struggle when it comes to sex as I need to think of feet to get hard. There's a girl I really like at the moment but she is a known cheat, the reason I like her so much is she has pursued me for so long (2 years) bought me gifts etc but I haven't slept with her as I know I'd be rubbish and struggle to get it up but I know she wants it so bad and I really want to rock her world but can't it's making me feel terrible to the point where I don't think I'm ever going to be able to have a relationship, I'm 27 now and family & friends are already thinking I'm weird for being single for so long, I have became severely depressed had to take time off work (from a job I hate) I haven't been eating much at all, I look a mess, I feel lifeless, I have been thinking of suicide a lot but am scared to do it , I do think I would rather die then live this hell & grow old alone, please talk to me I'm so lost in unreal, I want this pain to end so bad Posted by Patrick (Member # 1169) on :
None of that is worth the thoughts of suicide. I think many of us guys have experienced some aspect of what you describe above - probably varying levels.
I've always had a strong fetish for female feet and while I don't think it overly consumed everything, it has been overly strong. Perhaps you need to check out some other kinks you might have that don't concern feet and it might make you more into other things. For example, I really love going down on a girl like no other. So instead of thinking of nothing but her feet, there is something else to be into about a woman. Try exploring some other kinks.
Patrick
Posted by blackmagict34 (Member # 41319) on :
you have a foot fetish. all of us at wus do. You need to display the confidence you have here at wus by sharing your thoughts with us, with her. If you dont think you cant "get off" on any of her other.body parta, but you want to rock her world( i assume you mean nail her so good she speaks languages shes never spoke before)...then combine the two. go into missionary posistion, have her raise her legs and prop her feet in your face..from my experience its a great sensation for the man, and because feet turn me on like no other, its like im supercharged and she gets hell of a ride, while i get her feet...its a win-win
but most of all, start with being honest to yourself...then be honest with others about your fetish...some girls will thinks its WIERD..many will not, you woll find every1 has their kinks, and the sooner we embrace it and be honest about it, the easier.life is...atleast thats my way of looking.at it
Posted by oneagain (Member # 35859) on :
You're thinking too much about it...it doesn't matter if it is feet or tits or ass...you get too consumed with something you're going to run into trouble!
As Patrick mentioned...try to tone it down some and branch off.
Posted by lexisfeetrule (Member # 30390) on :
This is very strange. I would say that I have a very strong foot fetish, but I still love all parts of a woman, (Boobs, buts, pussies, legs, eyes, lips, smells, hair, etc). I don't see how you could just like feet and only feet.
But, perhaps you have to get therapy. I have heard of people getting therapy to get rid of their foot fetishes or their obsession, but, I would never do that because I don't see liking feet as a genuine perversion. There are far worse perversions out there and a huge percentage of men like women's feet.
But, if it is causing you this much stress, then perhaps you should consider talking to a therapist. They can do CBT or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
I love women's feet, but I would never go so far as to steal a woman's shoes or sexually assault a woman like these creeps in the news. So, perhaps it is best for some people to get help. I'm not saying that you would resort to that, but, if it is causing you this much stress, then talk to a therapist and see what they say. Maybe they can help you manage it.
Posted by NorcalfeetStudios (Member # 732) on :
There's nothing wrong with ONLY liking feet, you're not gay or a psycho man. Just deal with what hand you were dealt and live it, if feet make you happy just pursue women for feet. Later in life you may change, but for now just live it up.
Posted by Fair Adam (Member # 13350) on :
Please don't even think about suicide, it would only hurt those who love you, like your friends and family. I know some guys like yourself, who are only interested in feet sexually, and I say if it doesn't hurt anyone, where is the harm? I know you say this girl want you badly, but just remember that no of us is responsible for anyone's happiness, save our own.
Posted by Kokaith (Member # 22763) on :
Here's a question, and it's not one to bust you out or embarrass you, but have you been with a woman and had sexual experience at all or is this something that has kept you from doing that? The thing is this, it's all in how you communicate it. Just jumping out and dropping it on someone who is not familiar, it might come as a huge surprise. The fear you're feeling is rejection from being labeled. Let's take this girl you're looking at now. You obviously spend time with her. Why not try giving her a foot massage and see where that goes? Kiss her toes if she's accepting. If it's something you can make enjoyable for you both, it will go over well. A lot of people on here grew up in a time when fetishism of any kind was regarded as stigmatizing. With the internet now, most people are familiar with paraphilias and people in general tend to be a lot more open about them now.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
I do find the ass legs and kissing nice but just not arousing as feet , I have had sex with girls before yes but it was difficult to achieve arousal and I wouldn't say I was fully hard a few times, If I liked pussy in the same way I love feet I would be better In bed, and this girl who's really into me doesn't have great feet & she hates them being touched, so to be honest I think sex would be bad with her , it is holding me back in my sex life because I do feel really anxious about opening up cause girls will think I'm weird or reject me/tell people about it
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
It has held me back from sex for about 5 years though, as I feel super anxious about not performing, I fear this could lead to me living a lonely life.
Posted by ChrisC (Member # 31497) on :
No need to be ashamed, I think it is quite normal to be attracted to feet no matter what society thinks! After all why do women have sexy summer sandals and sexy high heels and generally have loads of shoes, to show off an attractive part of their body
But if you mention this it is dirty, you are a perv, that does not make any sense. In truth I have only ever told one person about my fetish ( a trade of big secrets) and I would have to be in a stable relationship before I did confess
But I am not ashamed just wary of others reactions, it would be awkward to be around the feet of anyone that knew too. At least it is not S&M or some other horrible kink! it is the most common and I assert it is normal for a man to find women's feet attractive!
It is only a fetish when that is the ONLY thing you can get off to
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
While It may not be the only thing I'm attracted too it is certainly Maine point of arousal. It's killing me inside that I can't just have a normal sexual relationship with a women, if this girl I liked just bent over & pulled her knickers down and said do me now, I would not be majorly turned on maybe just a bit and would not be rock hard, this is the problem!
Posted by Kokaith (Member # 22763) on :
Fear and anxiousness will effect sexual performance. If you're already anxious, it will be more difficult. One of my first gfs wasn't entirely understanding of fetishism at first. I gave her a lot of sex, but a lot of it didn't feel entirely fulfilling. Then one day...I bent her legs up and put her feet on my face while we were doing it. That quickly became both of our favorite position. We were together for six years.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Yeah maybe my anxiety is really not helping, what tips would you guys give me to gain confidence of performing normal sex for a while before I bring up the feet thing.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Do you have any problems performing sex in all other positions guys?
Posted by neverenuff75 (Member # 47586) on :
so why dont u think about them while having sex with her and just keep it your secret. or let her know. tell her your problems in a mature manner, take some anxiety pills, or practice with a few random girls you know but dont like much.\while thinking of the feet keep focusing on everything else, and start embracing it, time will probably straighten it out.if it doesnt then i guess you might wanna consider accepting just messing around with girls for their feet, suicide is something you should really rethink and rethink several more times, theres only one life.
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
Have sex with her and involve positions that involve her feet( missionary, throw her feet up by your face and gently kiss them, doggy style, grab her by ankles to be able to look at the soles while you fuck her) then the more you fuck her the more you start incorporating her feet into sex she'll get the hint. Probably be more accepting of it too if you make her cum, as opposed to just sitting her down and dropping a bomb like that on her or giving her a foot rub and just start sucking her toes...it'll be a rare woman that would like that by the way. Think about it, chick offers to give you a massage and just starts sucking on your toes it'd creep you out no?
Posted by Derfjmeister (Member # 875) on :
First of all...Just relax and not stress out over sex and/or your fetish...Focus on friendships and relationships,build a comfort level with her. When I was a young man I used to think that feet was the only way that I could enjoy sex...Focus on her and not your fears of not "performing normally" Normal is such a gray area as far as sex goes. Like the gentleman above my post has said,there's a lot of ways that one can incorporate foot fetishism into a sex life. Trust me,suicide isn't an answer..It's not as bad as you fear it is,I'm living proof of that. You're anxious about your performance and that mental aspect is hindering you..Don't think "what if i can't??" I think you'll be just fine if you simply don't think about it and relax and let nature take its course.
Posted by Kokaith (Member # 22763) on :
What Derfjmeister said.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
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Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Problem is because I'm anxious about it I think I kind of lose my erections easily, I have been with a few girls and quite a few times I have struggled to get up for it at the start, once I'm going I'm not too bad but then if we swap positions it goes soft again, I am honestly not that aroused by vagina, I like the legs, and arse but vagina and boobs do nothing for me
Posted by 88Fierofootguy (Member # 47468) on :
I tell women right out of the chute that I like feet. Do I appreciate a nice pair of tits? Absolutely, but it's not a deal breaker. If a chick has nasty feet? Deal breaker! 9 out of 10 women LOVE having their feet rubbed. I have one female friend who hates her feet and hates people touching them. But, because she knew about my fetish, she let me rub her feet. Just be honest up front and if it's meant to be then you'll both get what you want sexually.
Posted by 5thgear (Member # 46148) on :
Have you had your testosterone levels checked? The first thing I'd do in your situation is get them checked and if they're low then get on testosterone replacement therapy. Years ago I had lower test than what I have now. My levels weren't very low and I wasn't in a serious depression/anxiety but I took steps to increase them. I quit masturbating frequently, starting eating test boosting foods, and exercising. My nervousness about admitting the fetish melted away and my confidence increased dramatically. That will help you with your erections too. That's what I'd do before getting put on medication if you're not already on it.
Now most of my sexual experiences have come from call girls but before that I felt hopeless about ever being able to open up to a female about this fetish. Once I finally did to an escort, it was a major relief. Now I've been with over 40 different ones and I've actually become just as aroused by vagina. I've picked up a couple of other girls that weren't prostitutes and I had the confidence to tell them.
Me though, the way I feel is so what if they think I'm a freak bc I want them to.
Just sit down with her and tell her. If she cares about you, then she'll accept it. I doubt she'll laugh at you and try to make you feel low. Once you open up it may be a major relief.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Yeah maybe my testosterone is low as I'm depressed, the main thing that sucks about this is normal penetration should arouse me the way feet do but sex doesn't turn me on all that much having feet in my face gives me the rapid heartbeat and massive arousal where it should be when a girls lying naked there, it's like I'm basically wired up all wrong Posted by mywifesfeet (Member # 2630) on :
Maybe you should just tell this chick that is pursuing you that you would like to give her a foot massage. Most women LOVE foot massages. Then, when she sees that you have a hard-on she will probably be intrigued. Try changing gears and just admit your foot fetish to lots of folks. I do, and I get TONS of foot action. My wife is not a jealous type, so that makes it easier for me than most guys that are married, but because I am so open about it I never get any rejection at all. I have rubbed TONS of women's feet that are our friends and they all seem to be cool with it, even getting into posing for pics for me. This happens because I am open about it, matter of fact about it and also I am not a creeper about it. SO many men have a foot fetish, it is VERY common. You are not weird. My wife has AWESOME breast and nipples, but I still dig her bare feet more than her breasts and Vajay-Jay. DON'T FEEL WEIRD! You are fine man. Suicide is a very permanent soluttion to a very temporary problem. You have a lot to offer this world, DONOT die over this. It is NORMAL dude. I have had a foot fetish since at least 4 years old. I embrace it and so should you. Suzie, my wife, says that women LOVE compliments. Digging a woman's bare feet is an easy way to give them and show them a compliment. Women are often WAY more accepting than you think in most cases. Start PM-ing me and I would be happy to chat with you on this whole problem. Seriously man, no worries. You are normal and I have heard from several women that foot guys are the best lovers. If they will suck their toes, they will suck anything on their body. You just need support and a confidence injection.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
This girl hates feet & doesn't like it when I tried to rub hers, I haven't told her I like feet because she seems so against them, I'm 90% certain she would reject me if I told her I'm Into feet, she just wants straight forward sex, which if I have her it would be rubbish as I don't have a rock hard boner without feet , it's like 80-90% & sometimes lose erections a bit, it's not passionate, this is really really getting me down because I wanna give her a good time & do like her persistence but I'm afraid she just really does not like feet & would totally be weirded out. I am honestly considering suicide as I can't see any women wanting to stay with me when I always need there feet for good sex.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Am really truly fed up today
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Please talk to me people , why don't I find any arousel at all over sex?
Posted by Cloyster (Member # 33045) on :
Hate to tell you man, but fetish or not, everyone experiences rejection in their life. Its an unavoidable thing, but if you have the courage necessary to put yourself out there you will eventually find someone. It may not happen for months or even years, but the only time you lose is when you give up on yourself. You will never know unless you try. As a fetishist with panic disorder, i can understand your anxiety. It can have effects on unexpected parts of your life, sexual included. Trust me man, things will get better.
Posted by LovelyLadies (Member # 5079) on :
lol, you sound like a clone of me. I had all this trouble prior to meeting my wife. The same exact thoughts and I was also extremely shy. It was hard enough for me to break the ice and start conversations with a girl, let alone the idea of bringing up my liking of feet with a chick. After a few months of dating my wife at the time and dropping small hints of my liking of feet and over time she eventually accepted it and actually loves all my little stuff with her, I had the same issues. Trying to have sex, I couldn't get it up much at all unless there was feet involved. She has big boobs that I know most men would die for and they don't do much of anything for me. Unless were in a position where I can touch her feet when we have sex, I'm pretty dead down there. Someone also mentioned testosterone levels and this was true as well in my case. When I met my wife, I was loaded with test and a horny bastard who was getting hard with her just making out and thinking or getting a peek of my wife's feet. Then it got to a point where I was having a lot of difficulty in bed, even with her feet involved. I got on some testosterone booster pills which also helped me at the gym, and now when I'm in bed and feet are involved, I get hard as a missile. Higher testosterone levels will also improve your general mood greatly I notice as you'll have less depressing thoughts. Crazy how the mind works. While I can understand your frustration, this is never something to think about that could make you contemplate ending your life. You have to remember, sex, and emotions related to it are just a part of life and not everything. You can spend your entire time worrying about it, or let it come naturally as it eventually did for me. I'll be honest, I was a late bloomer in regards to sex and being with a girl, but when the time comes, it'll come full steam a head.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Thank you for the replies they do help, lovelyladies, your wife was ok with you finding it hard to have an erection without feet? How old was you when you met her? I'm 27 now and I'm so tired of being alone I just want to meet someone who accepts me this way, this girl I like I know she is seeing someone else I'm meant to be meeting her today she has had her phone off all yesterday and it's still off, I'm in a living hell at the moment, I have huge feelings for her but I know she's not somebody I can trust, but I still love her as she's been there for me a lot, she is a compulsive liar though and also hates feet, I'm severely depressed and she knows this she knows how much I needed to see her and she just ignores me like that? She even knows I'm feeling suicidle but she don't know about my fetish, she knows all this & I have been texting her everyday but I can tell she is with someone because always on Friday/Saturday she ignores me or barely replies, I can't stay away from her though because I love her & I'm so depressed/lonely, if she was totally single & I trusted her I would tell her about my feet thing, but I think if I did she would be grossed out, not be comfortable with it still see the other guy & most likely stop seeing me, I know it's a big step but really am contemplating suicide as everyday is hell for me, I am SEVERELY depressed, from when I wake up til when I go to sleep, I am so mega lonely, & reaching for this girls love but she just wants me to shag her tbh, & her keep lying and seeing this other guy, me not being able to have normal passionate sex it's killing me, I want out.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Help me Posted by BareSoles84 (Member # 45910) on :
I don't mean to sound indelicate, but honestly, I'm not sure what kind of answers you are looking for at this point.
I have read 3 pages of very good and informative advice from several members in this thread, but all you keep repeating is "Help me". I'm not sure what else can be told to you that hasn't basically been said already, and how much more help can be offered on this forum. You have been given very good advice on here.
Perhaps the next step for you is actually seeking therapy or getting professional help.
You need to be happy with yourself first before you can be happy with someone else. How can you expect someone else to like you if you don't even like yourself? Accept that you are what you are, and just own the qualities that you have. Don't question whether you are good enough for someone else, but whether they are good enough for you.
You need to start anew, and step 1 is forgetting about this current girl that treats you like crap, but you claim to love. She is only contributing to your depression and unhappiness. I honestly think you have no hope of being considered a sexual entity in her eyes because of how desperate and insecure you are coming across and honestly, I'm surprised she doesn't have a restraining order against you based on your last post. Forget about this girl, leave her alone, and stop letting her drag you down. Start fresh, and that time is now.
You have been given sound advice. The choice is yours now.
[ May 26, 2014, 03:00 PM: Message edited by: BareSoles84 ]
Posted by KlassFX (Member # 46337) on :
What is the damn problem?
Step 1. Get up Step 2. Take a shit Step 3. Eat food Step 4. Set up arrangements with chicks Step 5. Sniff feet Step 6. Go to bed
Repeat until death. Mission accomplished.
I could be wrong, anyone is free to correct my gameplan.
Posted by solemansince74 (Member # 24760) on :
I have never been on one, but I hear there are foot fetish dating sites. You'll have to do your own research on this, but why not join one?
At least the girl will know exactly what your looking for AND will be accepting of your fetish. The rest will come naturally.
Posted by lovedemsoles (Member # 44417) on :
My advice?
Stop jerking off for a while. I know it's easier said than done, but if you struggle with the thought of doing this, hop on Google. Read up on some feedback from guys who've done the same thing and use the results to motivate you. Different things work for different people, so I'm not guaranteeing anything...
But for me, any time I made a commitment to stop jerking off, my overall demeanour and focus changed for the better. I was able to connect with girls emotionally instead of viewing them as an object.
My point is, if you stop jerking off then you might learn to appreciate the other things women have to offer. I'd say it's worth a shot considering the point you're at right now.
Posted by Fwrinkledsoles (Member # 101) on :
You need to find you many women as I did when I was your age. I say bang her one more time and play hard to get the next time and tell her about your other women who appreciate a man who enjoy women feet because it is fore-play. Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
I know I am probably doing people's head in & I do agree there has been great advice on here, just seems to me that my libido and confidence is so low, even when masturbating I don't have a full erection more like a soft one, it feels difficult to get an erection, when I get into the bedroom with women I get really really nervous because I know the vagina and boobs don't do nothing for me, added to the fact my I'm not horny as I was at like 13-20 years old, I don't ever get random erections anymore, is this due to depression? Thing is if a girl rubs her feet in my face I do get hard just not proper fast...
Posted by 5thgear (Member # 46148) on :
We can sit here giving advice for weeks but nothing will change until you make it.
Just go to the store and get a test booster and some 5htp. I don't know what kind of lifestyle you live but the right diet and exercise will help as well. Just google "foods for testosterone". Low testosterone levels are linked to depression and definetely low libido and erectile dysfunction.
In my mid to late 20s I had a hard time getting it up. I was a frequent masturbator. I changed my diet and quit masturbating frequently and now I wake up nearly everyday with morning wood. I'm able to get hard naturally and over time I developed a turn on for pussy.
If you try the above and it doesn't work out then seek professional help. This is fucked up to keep reading.
Posted by toesuckr4u (Member # 47312) on :
When i was 27, i was married for 5 years and had 2 kids. Your generation seems to stay single even in their 30's. Not to worry! I also have an intense foot fetish. This comes with being born under the sign of pisces according to sexual astrology by martine. Each sign has a sexual preference. You cant help what you like so accept and move on. If you have to find working girls ( ladies of the night ), So what! The more you find satisfaction, the more you will come to grips.
Posted by Fair Adam (Member # 13350) on :
quote:Originally posted by BareSoles84: I don't mean to sound indelicate, but honestly, I'm not sure what kind of answers you are looking for at this point.
I have read 3 pages of very good and informative advice from several members in this thread, but all you keep repeating is "Help me". I'm not sure what else can be told to you that hasn't basically been said already, and how much more help can be offered on this forum. You have been given very good advice on here.
Perhaps the next step for you is actually seeking therapy or getting professional help.
You need to be happy with yourself first before you can be happy with someone else. How can you expect someone else to like you if you don't even like yourself? Accept that you are what you are, and just own the qualities that you have. Don't question whether you are good enough for someone else, but whether they are good enough for you.
You need to start anew, and step 1 is forgetting about this current girl that treats you like crap, but you claim to love. She is only contributing to your depression and unhappiness. I honestly think you have no hope of being considered a sexual entity in her eyes because of how desperate and insecure you are coming across and honestly, I'm surprised she doesn't have a restraining order against you based on your last post. Forget about this girl, leave her alone, and stop letting her drag you down. Start fresh, and that time is now.
You have been given sound advice. The choice is yours now.
I have to agree here. you've gotten some very good advice from just about all contributors to this thread, and repeating "help me" again makes me want to think that perhaps you're not processing the information, or outright dismissing it? Perhaps it is attention you crave? Don't mean to sound rude, but if you don't find the advice given here helpful, maybe you should seek professional help...
BTW, if I wanted to give a big "fuck you" to the members is this forum, I would ask for advice, and after getting much, would ask again, like I got nothing in the first place. See my point? It's irritating.
Posted by FootLongSub Zero (Member # 19380) on :
Hey dude, sorry you feel this way. Feeling serverly depressed and alone would really suck as I could only imagine. You feeling super anxious about possibly not performing sexually, anxious about losing an erection, feeling lifeless, family and friends thinking you're weird still being single at 27, fear of leading a lonely life, struggling to accept your situation, growing old alone, fear of not having a potential normal relationship, thinking you're wired up wrong. No wonder why you're having suicidal thoughts. I feel depressed and heavy inside just typing this paragraph. If I felt this way for too long, I'd probably have thoughts of suicide myself. It's pretty much shit don't you think? Wouldn't it be good if you could take all these feelings out of you, hold it in your hands, put it into a bag, tie it to a rope attached to a massive helium baloon, let it go and feel all the weight lifted off your shoulders as you watched if float away. Be good wouldn't it?
Onto this girl. She's persued you for 2years and has bought you gifts. Do you think this outweighs your facts of her being: * a known cheat * hates feet * doesn't like it when you tried to rub hers * somebody you can't trust * a compulsive liar Do you really think this is the girl for you? Do you think you'd have a healthy relationship together? You like feet and she hates it, do you think this is a conflict of interest? Would you be truly happy if this girl was in your life.
I've learned that you just can't stop thinking about something. Example: Don't think of an angry purple elephant standing right in front of your house.... Just stop thinking about the purple elephant.... stop it.... Try hard as you can to stop thinking about the purple elephant. Doesn't work right? The way I've learned to stop is to change your focus. Now think of a white horse, your favorite female celebrity riding barefoot along the beach smiling at you. Purple elephant doesn't seem as significant now does it?
Now imagine a life with all the female feet you've ever wanted hot chicks feet all over your face, private parts and what-not or have a special woman who really likes feet and indulge you with what ever foot fantasy you've ever desired. Do you think this would be a better life for you? Do you think this would be a healthier way of thinking?
Now with your current situation of feeling all these shitty emotions you have, along with this one girl who hates feet. Do you think you'd be the man you want to be if you continue down this path 10yrs from now? youd be 37, what about when you reach 47, now 57,....67...77.....87. Now think if you changed your thinking and emotions "today", to all you've ever wanted in life, all the feet you could ever hope for down this path 10years from now do you think this would be a better man if you went down this path compared to the other pre-supposed path? I think you may know the answer to that now.
What I think would really help if you want to try is to feed your mind. Watch motivational material everyday about 10-30mins. This should give you a good paradigm shift for the better. You feed your body everyday, you shower everday, you brush your teeth everyday, why not feed your mind everyday? It won't happen overnight, but you gotta have faith in yourself you WILL get over this if you choose to. It's your life, your choice.
I ain't a religeous man, but watch this video once everyday if you can.
I too suggest you watch a RSD_Tyler vid once a week. I do.
I also suggest you write yourself a bucket-list of things you've ever wanted 'to do/or have' before you die. Should be a massive list. Narrow it down to 100 and start checking them off 1 by 1. Please keep in mind that you have a choice to live and some who are diagnosed with terminal illness have only a few months or weeks to live and they don't have a choice. Think of the people who are blind, blindfold yourself for one hour and try to do normal tasks, it's hard, ive tried. When I took the blindfold off, I was so greatful for my eyesight. Please also think of the people who are deaf and those who are stuck in wheelchairs for the rest of their lives. You'd feel greatful of the fact that you can walk and run.
I hope this helps. If this does help you, all I ask is you help someone else in future with the same problem you will get over if you choose.
FootLongSub Zero
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Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Don't get me wrong guys I'm not looking for attention & I do really appreciate your replies they have been very helpful to me, I'm just mega run down, it doesn't help that I have grown very strong feelings for this girl even though I do know she's not right for me it's hard for me to let her go as I'm so lonely & feeling down which makes me more needy.
Footlongsubzero, you totally get me & your reply has helped me a lot, you can see why I'm feeling so hopeless and just want the pain to stop. I have to try stop thinking so negative, being in depression makes it very hard to feel positive, I have a doctors appointment today & I am gonna tell them how bad I am. Thank you for all the help everybody, I really do appreciate it.
Posted by 5thgear (Member # 46148) on :
Good move. Keep us posted.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Well I went to a doctors told her how bad I'm feeling she has put me on citalopram 10mg and is saying I should see a therapist I'm on the waiting list.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Can I ask you guys? Do you have any problem having normal sex without feet involved at all & is it still good?
Posted by 88Fierofootguy (Member # 47468) on :
Sex involving feet IS normal sex to me. If you're with a chick that hates having her feet touched and thinks your love for feet is weird? You're with the wrong girl... Sex has to be pleasurable for both involved.
I've had sex without feet involved. It took forever to get off and I had to do a LOT of thinking about hot chicks I knew with sexy feet. Aint worth it...
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
quote:Originally posted by bluetoelover: Have sex with her and involve positions that involve her feet( missionary, throw her feet up by your face and gently kiss them, doggy style, grab her by ankles to be able to look at the soles while you fuck her) then the more you fuck her the more you start incorporating her feet into sex she'll get the hint. Probably be more accepting of it too if you make her cum, as opposed to just sitting her down and dropping a bomb like that on her or giving her a foot rub and just start sucking her toes...it'll be a rare woman that would like that by the way. Think about it, chick offers to give you a massage and just starts sucking on your toes it'd creep you out no?
Apparently I typed chinese because you disregarded this advice. You say you have a problem getting hard/keeping it hard because you are not touching feet/seeing them during sex or sexual activities, I just solved your dilemma. You are not alone in the fact that you need feet involved during sex, every guy with a foot fetish is the same.
Posted by Fwrinkledsoles (Member # 101) on :
Women feet and her wrinkled soles is sex to me in my whole life.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
No I didn't disregard your advice bluetoelover, it is very good advice, what I want is too be able to have normal vanilla sex without feet involved but I have noticed it takes me a lot of effort to get an erection & when I do it's not 100% hard & throughout sex I have to think about feet, & thinking about keeping it up, it's very frustrating to me because the sex is not rough or satisfying to me or the girl, obviously if they started putting there feet in my face I would get harder & shag harder but that means feet are gonna have to always be involved, I guess what I'm saying is I wish I could have normal sex in a passionate good way, what I was wondering is can you guys do that or do feet need to be involved. This girl I like I just can't leave her alone she is so caring to me, been there for me, & I know she wants me to shag her so bad but as you know she doesn't think much of feet, it's a shame her feet are actually small & pretty, I rubbed them once even though she was jumpy a bit but her feet are very soft & smooth, anyways no way she would be cool with me sucking/kissing them, I'm being honest guys I think I'm not good at sex if it don't involve feet so it would be a huge let down for her, I know deep down she's a liar but at the same time I do believe she has feelings for me or she wouldn't of chased me for 2 years, in bed with me she hugs me so tight & gives me tons of kisses, she has gave me loads of handjobs, I actually think she deserves a good fucking from me to be honest, it's frustrating me so much because I 99% know if I said I have a foot fetish and during sex I want them in my face she would be horrified.
Posted by Joblom (Member # 44045) on :
quote:Originally posted by Fair Adam: [QB] Please don't even think about suicide, it would only hurt those who love you, like your friends and family.
It will end his pain though.
I'm a somewhat similar boat as you, OP. Somewhat. I wouldn't say foot fetish eliminates my attraction to other parts of the female form, but it is a source of anxiety for me. Always has been. Probably because I had it when I was a toddler and was encouraged to hide it by my mother. So I got used to that and I've hid it ever since.
I understand the crisis you are having about loneliness and relationships. Again, I'm in pretty much the same boat you are but a year older. However I think the solution is to understand how I got this far: I'm really just not that compatible with most people. Even if I had a significant other I think I'd become sick and tired of them in a short time. I'm a very solitary person.
Reach out to others if you must. Rejection, if you find it in some cases, won't be nearly as painful as you imagine it to be. Otherwise, do what I do and enjoy the porn and distract yourself with things you enjoy.
Posted by 5thgear (Member # 46148) on :
quote:Originally posted by Thisisme4373: No I didn't disregard your advice bluetoelover, it is very good advice, what I want is too be able to have normal vanilla sex without feet involved but I have noticed it takes me a lot of effort to get an erection & when I do it's not 100% hard & throughout sex I have to think about feet, & thinking about keeping it up, it's very frustrating to me because the sex is not rough or satisfying to me or the girl, obviously if they started putting there feet in my face I would get harder & shag harder but that means feet are gonna have to always be involved, I guess what I'm saying is I wish I could have normal sex in a passionate good way, what I was wondering is can you guys do that or do feet need to be involved. This girl I like I just can't leave her alone she is so caring to me, been there for me, & I know she wants me to shag her so bad but as you know she doesn't think much of feet, it's a shame her feet are actually small & pretty, I rubbed them once even though she was jumpy a bit but her feet are very soft & smooth, anyways no way she would be cool with me sucking/kissing them, I'm being honest guys I think I'm not good at sex if it don't involve feet so it would be a huge let down for her, I know deep down she's a liar but at the same time I do believe she has feelings for me or she wouldn't of chased me for 2 years, in bed with me she hugs me so tight & gives me tons of kisses, she has gave me loads of handjobs, I actually think she deserves a good fucking from me to be honest, it's frustrating me so much because I 99% know if I said I have a foot fetish and during sex I want them in my face she would be horrified.
Well if your dick won't get hard then she'll start to maybe suspect that you're gay. Would you rather that or have her know that you need her feet? Can you get up by looking at her feet? If so, then put a pillow under her lower back and go into the missionary position. Start with her feet on your chest and then grab her ankles and pull them into view. That position is known to really stimulate a woman.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
I don't just get automatically hard from looking at her feet it's like I need stimulation also, I need to jack it got a bit, it's like this depression or my testosterone is very low, i feel very anxious about sex because I think it's gonna be a flop which is making it harder to stay erect, also yeah I'm thinking she maybe thinks I'm gay for not shagging her yet. Honestly dudes I feel hopeless, I'm really down about all this.
Posted by bluetoelover (Member # 14736) on :
You need to embrace your love for feet then. Easier said then done sure, but being ashamed about something you can't change about yourself isn't going to get you anywhere. Sit her down for a serious talk then, you don't have to go into crazy details of what you want to do to her feet but tell her your strong love for pretty feet, quickly remind her that its not just her feet that you love but her whole body and go from there. Ask her if you could start slow into it by giving her a foot rub. Then after doing that for awhile give her pecks on her toes not full on slobbering. Then just steadily ramp it up from there. If she truly likes you she'll embrace it too. Remember, your not asking to tie her up stick shit up her ass, it's just feet.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Just worried that even if I do that I won't stay hard to penetrate her once I move away from the feet
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
I think I need more confidence, n maybe try to be less anxious about it,
Posted by catsman (Member # 10269) on :
rarely do I have sex that does not involve feet in some respect, whether it is foreplay or all out assault feet in my face as I come. My lady not only understands I have this super attraction to her feet and the aroma they emit, but absolutely loves all the attention I give her feet...sexual or not. Sometimes, we are just laying in bed half way asleep and she throws a leg over mine to give my access to her soft foot because she knows I will not refuse to rub that gorgeous little puppy. It's part of our life, feet in sex is normal sex for us. I'm sorry you have yet to find that special lady, but you have to be open about in a good way and you might surprise yourself.
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Little update here.
I have still been seeing this girl, she lets me rub her feet a lot now, honestly her feet are so sexy, they are perfectly shaped, the soles are so soft, her toes are all perfectly shaped, but she doesn't do them up, she's not really into the foot rubs but I think she knows I like doing it so lets me, there's still the big problem of the fact that I know deep down she's a liar, she sees other guys n always messaging, hiding her phone etc, it's complicated because I have feelings for her & cannot leave her alone.
I'm suffering with bad depression, it makes me feel really down & lonely which makes it impossible to leave her alone, I have become quite clingy Infact.
I have also started reading online about circumcision as I had that when younger, it says that loads of sexual nerves are amputated, this has made me further depressed as this could be why I struggle to get aroused? My life is such a mess...
Posted by DeTrOiT (Member # 37598) on :
You're gonna have to make a decision...Either your are going to take control of your life or not...You are creating a mental environment that is like a vacuum and it's going to be hard to escape unless you reprogram your mind...You are 27 and very young man...Your problems are all in your mind AND THEY ARE ONLY AS BIG AS YOU SAY THEY ARE...Also the way that you are acting about the young lady is creating an environment that's going to be destructive for you...THE ENERGY THAT YOU ARE GIVING OFF WILL MAKE HER WORSE...Here are a few simple things that should help and some have been expressed to you already..
1. STOP JACKING OFF PERIOD... 2. START WORKING OUT, LIFTING WEIGHTS (naturally boosts testosterone)
3. Stop being so soft and emotional...man up because women hate crying and complaining men.. 4. Demand what you want out of your girl... 5. Learn to love yourself...This is the only way a woman can love you... 6. Don't be a Sleb Rock (from the Flintstones) No one likes being a round a person who is always depressed because the energy field around them is a downer. Remember that negative energy can be felt by those around you...If you don't create the right energy field, LADIES WILL BE RUNNING FROM YOU....
Posted by Thisisme4373 (Member # 47637) on :
Thank you for the reply, yes I do need to stop being so clingy, she seems to always be playing mind games.
also is anyone here circumcised? Seems to be hard for me to get aroused easily...
I need to get a grip, I have been smoking marijuana with my cousin to release stress & I think that's mad me more paranoid/anxious/depressed.
Posted by BareSoles84 (Member # 45910) on :
quote:Originally posted by DeTrOiT: You're gonna have to make a decision...Either your are going to take control of your life or not...You are creating a mental environment that is like a vacuum and it's going to be hard to escape unless you reprogram your mind...You are 27 and very young man...Your problems are all in your mind AND THEY ARE ONLY AS BIG AS YOU SAY THEY ARE...Also the way that you are acting about the young lady is creating an environment that's going to be destructive for you...THE ENERGY THAT YOU ARE GIVING OFF WILL MAKE HER WORSE...Here are a few simple things that should help and some have been expressed to you already..
1. STOP JACKING OFF PERIOD... 2. START WORKING OUT, LIFTING WEIGHTS (naturally boosts testosterone)
3. Stop being so soft and emotional...man up because women hate crying and complaining men.. 4. Demand what you want out of your girl... 5. Learn to love yourself...This is the only way a woman can love you... 6. Don't be a Sleb Rock (from the Flintstones) No one likes being a round a person who is always depressed because the energy field around them is a downer. Remember that negative energy can be felt by those around you...If you don't create the right energy field, LADIES WILL BE RUNNING FROM YOU....
Best advice in this thread.
Your life is not a mess. It's only a mess because you are letting it be a mess, and you are creating problems in your mind instead of coming up with solutions. You keep saying you understand the advice people in here are giving you, but each time you reply, you still complain and whine.
This may be insensitive, but seriously, man the F up dude. You sound more like the girl in this "relationship" than this female that you can't let go of.
I seriously think that step 1 to changing is you need to leave this girl alone. She is only contributing to your messed up life as you call it.
But I foresee you not doing that, so you can expect more pain and depression in your future. You have been given great advice, and even kicks in the ass in this thread. Yet, you have not applied any of it, and just continue doing what you are doing. I already told you that this girl is only contributing to your unhappiness, yet you still keep posting how you can't leave her alone.
If you're not going to actually apply any of the advice and kicks in the ass that have been rendered to you in this thread, then I don't want to hear about how "messed up" your life is.
Posted by Toetapper (Member # 6473) on :
This idiot came to (trolled) this site back in 2008 with much the same act that he is presenting here.
He had the screen name of "Thisisme373" at the time. I'm bad at searching members here but, fortunately, I found a couple of PM's I had with Fate111 about my replies to him.
I bought into his tripe, at first, but subsequently watched his posts discuss his bumbling behavior directly contrary to ALL advice given.
At last, I did take him to task - despite my concern that my reply to him would be so harsh that I might engender some animus among the members here. I was surprised by the support I received.
I can't guess at his motivations; attention-getting, maybe...might be he just enjoys getting some sympathy from foot fetishists. Wouldn't surprise me if he has been doing this at sites that focus on bare shoulders or the like.
I've seen the genuinely expressed desire to help in other threads that I see here. Those here at Wu's are a great bunch. I think that we are being duped here.
I hope that the ancient thread can be dredged up to support my claim.
My belief is that "Thisisme4373" is a sham and I hope he will be ignored.
OK, PM me with your "cold-hearted bastard" comments.
[ June 10, 2014, 12:39 AM: Message edited by: Toetapper ]
Posted by combine_hunter (Member # 39526) on :
I hope this helps.
Posted by Patrick (Member # 1169) on :
Closing the topic. Everything that can be said has been said at this point. If it's a trolling thread, then it needs to stop anyhow. If not, take the advice and do with it as you will. Hope all works out.
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it's making me feel terrible to the point where I don't think I'm ever going to be able to have a relationship, I'm 27 now and family & friends are already thinking I'm weird for being single for so long, I have became severely depressed had to take time off work (from a job I hate) I haven't been eating much at all, I look a mess, I feel lifeless, I have been thinking of suicide a lot but am scared to do it , I do think I would rather die then live this hell & grow old alone, please talk to me I'm so lost in unreal, I want this pain to end so bad ![[Cheers]](graemlins/cheers.gif)
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