Amongst many things I've yet to experience with a woman is getting to worship their feet, or even get a footjob. Sure I've given a couple brief massages but that's about the extent of it for, beginning to think nothing will ever happen and ad services and such are out of the question. The only"foot action" I get is a friend who, despite being married, sends me pics of her new pedis when she gets them and let me smell her shoe after we had a long day walking. Other than that she won't go further as again she's married. Feel hopeless really Posted by NEWYORKGUY (Member # 47889) on :
The key is you must relax about it, not treat it like it is such a big deal. Try not to make it an obsession. Dating girls, being a good, decent guy and not an over the top fetishist, is a good place to start. You begin slowly, at some point, when alone, offer a foot massage, and tell her how pretty her feet are. Then gradually step it up, gently kiss them, tell her how excited she makes you. Tender, gentle, caring, works with most girls. IF dating is hard, you have strip clubs, and in many cities foot parties. With friends, if you are confident and funny, and loose and not uptight, you can create opportunities, to make fun of their smelly feet, shoes, etc. Tease them, tickle their feet, talk about feet, manuever conversations to get more of what you want. Be more confident, chill, and make fun of yourself, and take a lot of the pressure off! IF you make fun of yourself, they have less of a need to do that to you, so, don't be defensive and not too offensive!
Posted by longhitter04 (Member # 2391) on :
May I ask your age?
Posted by feetiesandtoes (Member # 32674) on :
NEWYORKGUY said it right. Strip clubs, escorts, foot parties, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Craigslist...
Posted by RJ82 (Member # 20037) on :
quote:Originally posted by longhitter04: May I ask your age?
I'll be 35 this year
Posted by RJ82 (Member # 20037) on :
quote:Originally posted by NEWYORKGUY: The key is you must relax about it, not treat it like it is such a big deal. Try not to make it an obsession. Dating girls, being a good, decent guy and not an over the top fetishist, is a good place to start. You begin slowly, at some point, when alone, offer a foot massage, and tell her how pretty her feet are. Then gradually step it up, gently kiss them, tell her how excited she makes you. Tender, gentle, caring, works with most girls. IF dating is hard, you have strip clubs, and in many cities foot parties. With friends, if you are confident and funny, and loose and not uptight, you can create opportunities, to make fun of their smelly feet, shoes, etc. Tease them, tickle their feet, talk about feet, manuever conversations to get more of what you want. Be more confident, chill, and make fun of yourself, and take a lot of the pressure off! IF you make fun of yourself, they have less of a need to do that to you, so, don't be defensive and not too offensive!
I've honestly never had a girlfriend and being a bigger guy it's hard to approach women period for me....A lot of my female friends know about my foot fetish and have no issue with it but never have been able to get much out of them tho actually one did let me smell her feet after work they had a popcorn smell to them....Idk I just feel like a perpetual single guy and it frustrates me feeling like I'll never get to indulge in the things I'd like to do
Posted by NEWYORKGUY (Member # 47889) on :
I am a guy, now married for 21 years. I am 6'1 260 pounds, which you can consider a big guy. I got married at 33yo. Prior to that, many years before...I was you! I was ashamed of how big I was, how I looked, thought I would always be single, nothing works out for me, and so on. I SHARE THIS TO HELP YOU! Your problem is ALL IN YOUR MIND! You have to get your thinking to be more positive, and confident. FLIP THE SWITCH! STOP BEATING UP ON YOURSELF! YOU ARE AN AMAZING PERSON...AND KNOW IT! Woman respond to CONFIDENT guys! BE THAT GUY! YOU CAN DO IT! ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING! STOP.....HURTING YOURSELF....LOVE YOURSELF! Whether you lose weight or not, get your mind right first! YOU DESERVE to have what you want! You will get it...BELIEVE ME YOU WILL...with MORE SELF BELIEF, CONFIDENCE, SINCERITY and HUMOR! RELAX....be a fun, confident YOU! You will be shocked how things start going your way! THERE IS A MOMENTUM TO LIFE....CHANGE YOURS TODAY......WANT IT....GET IT, TRUST ME!!!!!!
Posted by longhitter04 (Member # 2391) on :
quote:Originally posted by RJ82: Idk I just feel like a perpetual single guy and it frustrates me feeling like I'll never get to indulge in the things I'd like to do
My friend, you need to break the cycle. You don't have to be "perpetually single", as you put it.
First of all, forget about your foot fetish for a second. You need to take some time and invest in yourself. That entails getting yourself in shape, investing in proper clothing and practicing impeccable male hygiene. Learn how to attract women. Turn yourself into the man you want to be. It can be done.
You mentioned you are a bigger guy. I can appreciate how that might affect your self confidence. However, there are measures you can take to address weight gain. I understand some people have weight issues that may be out of their control. Please don't use that as an excuse to give up. You can still do something about it.
I also understand that what I am writing about may seem like a huge undertaking for you. And it is. It requires discipline and commitment. However, I promise you that it will pay off in spades. I guarantee it.
This will help you gain self confidence and a belief in yourself. In turn, it will also give you success in attracting women. You don't need to look like George Clooney to attract women, I promise you. Self confidence goes a long way. Once you start having success with women, the rest will fall into place, including indulging in your fondness for pretty feet.
Some of the advice you've been given will not help you in the long run. Sure, you can "contract" women to fill your need for foot fetish activity, but it will only satiate you for one fleeting moment at a time. It will not address this problem, and you'll continue down the same path that you feel you are on.
I hope that at least some of what I have written will resonate with you. I'm happy to chat if you feel the need to. Feel free to pm me. I'll offered whatever advice you think may help.
Best of luck to you.
Posted by NEWYORKGUY (Member # 47889) on :
SORRY if I sound like I am preaching or ranting, or, saying too much, or, possibly annoying you, but, I FEEL YOUR PAIN and TRULY want to help! NEWS FLASH...GIRLS are people too! They have insecurities, body shaming issues, lack inner confidence, in truth, they are as big of a mess as us guys! Pressures, competition, catty-ness, social media...so much, right? What does that mean....DO NOT WORRY ABOUT BEING JUDGED or TEASED! You are BETTER than THAT! HUMOR...deflects so much of all of this. The right GIRL when you find her, will lift you up, not put you down!!! YOU may have to go through TEN GIRLS to find her..BUT, IT WILL BE WORTH IT! TRY! Do not be affraid TO DATE! SO WHAT....IF IT DOES NOT WORK OUT....TRY AGAIN....NOTHING IS REALLY LOST! WILL + DETERMINATION + EFFORT = SUCCESS....IT MAY TAKE TIME...STAY THE COURSE!!!!
Posted by RJ82 (Member # 20037) on :
Thanks for the advice guys it's truly appreciated any advice from the few women around here? Posted by longhitter04 (Member # 2391) on :
I would take caution on advice from women, about women. Unless she is a lesbian, she can't tell you how to pick up women as she's never done it.
Advice from a woman will instantly put you in the "friend zone", thereby eliminating a relationship that is sexual in nature.
Posted by silverstar (Member # 50226) on :
A lil off the subject of your question, but I would like to know the details of how you got your friend to let you smell her shoe?
Posted by RJ82 (Member # 20037) on :
She always told me her feet didn't have a smell, and I kept telling her I couldn't believe there wasn't some sort of smell to fhem....so the day in question as she was driving the subject got brought up again, so she took off a shoe and handed to me and the rest is history lol
Posted by silverstar (Member # 50226) on :
Nice work. Sometimes, there just are those moments.
Posted by RJ82 (Member # 20037) on :
Yup and it honestly didn't have much of a smell either, told her I needed to smell her actual foot out of socks for it to be definitive lol
Posted by silverstar (Member # 50226) on :
Yea lol you would definitely need to sample that. Does her husband know she takes pics and stuff for you?
Posted by RJ82 (Member # 20037) on :
Nope
Posted by silverstar (Member # 50226) on :
That's interesting. I had a friend who would send pics of her feet when she did her nails or of new shoes. Bf didn't know either.
Posted by RJ82 (Member # 20037) on :
Yeah I'm surprised she did it the first time and now she just does it, she's even sent me pics trying on shoes to get my opinions and usually asks for ideas of what her next pedi should look like
Posted by silverstar (Member # 50226) on :
That's awesome. I wonder if her husband doesn't pay attention to her feet and she likes the interest in hers?
Posted by RJ82 (Member # 20037) on :
It's possible all I know is she likes her feet and even told me me she loves the smell of her feet
Posted by silverstar (Member # 50226) on :
Whoa really? Lol and what smell is that?
Posted by RJ82 (Member # 20037) on :
I tried to get her to describe it and all she says is they smell like her feet lol....i ever get the chance I'll let you know what I think
Posted by silverstar (Member # 50226) on :
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any advice from the few women around here? ![[Laugh]](graemlins/laugh.gif)
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