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Okay. Stop. She's brand new at relationships. We've been happily together a year and a half, and it was during a rough patch. We spoke about it, again, and she proved fine with it. She said she knew she shouldn't feel insecure over it.
Here's what we don't do: "Deal breakers" over porn. I don't dump my girlfriend or say "grow up" whenever she has an issue.
I should note she actually uses wusfeetlinks for the forum, read this post, and broke down weeping for a very long time.
I shouldn't have posted this. I apologize. I posted because I felt I share a common focus with most of you who have been happily married for years. What I WASN'T looking for was a bunch of harsh comments condemning her so heavily. I wasn't RANTING. I didn't say "MAN MY GIRLFRIEND IS A BITCH!" I put down "An interesting compromise." I don't know if those words sound like the words of anger to any of you, but if they do, then perhaps you should take another reading course in college.
I was just asking what you guys would say or do if your wife or long-term lover mentioned the compromise to you, or started to feel jealous or insecure concerning your porn. That's it. Nothing more. Maybe a good way you'd descrive it to her. Or something less harsh.
But, gosh dang it, I wasn't drunk-ranting, I didn't need these kinds of posts.
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Now you've gone and contradicted yourself on at least two levels here. One; she gets jealous over you looking at feet, but yet she's browsing wu's. Two; you've asked for our opinions and we've posted and now we're all "harsh" for our own opinions. Most of us have been in more than one relationship and some here been married many years. Hence the post from the few that began with "My wife". How can you be completely brand new to a relationship and be in one happily for a year and half? I don't count that as new, but maybe just been in one?
Knowing i come across like an asshole at points, especially in some posts, i even read back to the one i just did post. I didn't find anything harsh about it in any sense, and even provided examples as to why she may be jealous or feel threatened for a good reason. And just because you put the post topic as "an interesting compromise" does not in anyway change the topic of the post, nor it's direction or the opinion people would give you about it.
It appears to me that she read the forum, got upset about it and now you're here to defend her and make yourself look a little better. And if it was any of our faults you left out the part about it being "during a rough patch" in the original post, i guess you may need to take some more courses in college. But if you're leaving out parts of an equation and getting the wrong answers, you need to plug the rest in before it all equals what you want. But you got the answers you asked for, they just didn't agree with you or what you or your girlfriend wanted to hear i'm guessing. So apparently we're all assholes for it now?
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1. How can she prevent you from looking at feet of the girls in the Mall, store, at work, or out there? There are tons of girls every day you'll see who wear flip flops, sandal, open toe shoes. There's no way she can ask you to "SHUT" your eyes everytime some bare feet present themselves in public. And she would surely know that you're LUSTING over those feet. What's she gona do about it?
2. You can always view feet online, when she's not around and wipe the internest history and cookies.
3. I would tell her, fine I won't look at feet on internet (I'd lie though). But you'll have to satisfy my foot hunger everyday. That means not that I get her feet every time I want them. But SHE PRESENTS her feet to me for fun ON HER OWN, WITHOUTH ASKING - EVERYDAY, sometimes 2-3 times a day. THAT would be considered satisfying my foot hunger.
I'm all about being FAIR........this kinda arrangement sounds quite fair for both parties.
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I'm sorry you/your gf found my post inflammatory, it wasn't my intent. Relationships are all personal preference in my book... I'm in a wonderful open marriage, but I respect our fellow board members who are strictly monogamous; different strokes for different folks! In my case, my wife imposing limits on what I view or do would be a "deal-breaker". I would assume that if your gf dated other men (like my wife does) you would bolt... I hope that idea isn't offensive to anyone on this board. I question your interpretation of the ensuing posts. I think most were (some more tactfully than others) expressing their support for you rather than condemning your gf... Wu's is my favorite board because it is such a welcoming fraternity! The atmosphere is generally congenial, and we never devolve into the "flame-wars" that are so common elsewhere on the net. At any rate, I thought this was an interesting thread, and I sincerely hope the pain it caused in your relationship is productive. When you solicit opinions in the future, beware they may not agree with your own. I hope to see more posts from you in the future!
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I agree, archadmirer. A big help. Wow. What a wild relationship you must have! (Definitely a deal-breaker for me!).
I apologize if my own post was harsh. Just her crying was a bit of an upset, that's all.
I really like wusfeetlinks. When I first discovered my fetish and thought I was insane I found this forum and felt so much more relieved.
It isn't contradiction that she views the forum. The talk section doesn't have pictures of feet all over it (the icons do, but that's different).
Anyway, the issue has been resolved. Thank you for your opinions and help. They're certainly a wide variety of responses, and I'm glad we have such a diverse community.
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