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brek44, ever thought about a divorce? I mean we are only on this earth for so long and to go without sex or indulging a foot fetish while being married is CRAZY!! If your wife is not willing to compromise at all why stay?
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I'm not a youngster like you guys. At 54 sex is not as important as it use to be. Family is why I wouldn't divorce. We have a good relationship, just not a sexual one, or a fetishist one. Life is not all about sex. At 50 I had a major stroke on my brain stem, so I'm usually too sick to worry too much about anything. That is part of my hell I guess.
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To me it looks like a big part of the original poster's issue with foot fetishism is social acceptance. If that's the case, stop worrying about what mainstream society thinks. Some guys like getting enemas, others like being humped by their girlfriends or wives with a strap-on, and still others like to be tied up and smacked in the nuts with a ping pong paddle. Enjoying feet is tame in comparison, and a lot of the non-foot people who are quickest to condemn it probably have their own sexual perversions that they're too afraid to bring up outside of their own bedroom.
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quote:Originally posted by Diabolicus: Breasts aren't meant to be sexual at all, neither is an ass or a set of lips, or pretty eyes. Everyone has turn-ons, it doesnt "freak everybody out".
Yes, it is natural to have a fetish, many people have them. Seems like you need to read less of the bible, or watch less Dateline NBC.
BTW: Ajantis, there is nothing wrong with pink shirts. I wear them all the time, and I believe I am pretty manly either way. Colors are just colors, and fetishes are just fetishes. Seek therapy.
You're a fool. I understand fully that colors are nothing more than the brain's interpretation of photons of differing energies in the visible electromagnetic spectrum. My point was not that pink is in anyway an inherently feminine OR masculine color, which is a preposterous assertion. It is interesting, though, that ten years ago you would have been laughed out of the room for wearing pink and now you aint cool until you do.
My point was that it seems you need to fit some arbitrarily defined set of criteria before people will even consider thinking about you in any romantic or sexual sense. Dress a particular way, have particular interests, etc. Call it a generalization if you wish, but that doesn't mean it isn't an observable trend.
I was speculating, half tongue-in-cheek half grinding teeth about the reasons women find me utterly ignorable and was saying that having a foot-fetish, therefore only ever exacerbated the difficulty I experience in this area.
Maybe you should try and re-read things a few times to make sure you've got it, before you decide to question the mental function of others
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quote:Originally posted by ajantis: In my experience, this fetish has been nothing but a burden and an horrific curse. It has never had any kind of remote gratification and has only ever brought about pain. Women find me thoroughly ignorable as it is (I don't wear pink shirts, or something). So, this fetish only ever exacerbated the difficulty I naturally feel speaking to women. If there existed a pill I could take to reverse the effects, I'd do so in a second. Granted, I would probably feel differently if I had ever been allowed to partake in any of the activities that supposedly go along with it. I think people who are in happy relationships with women who like to please them are, understandable, not fully conscious of the problems this thing can amplify. Eh, those are my thoughts.
Dear ajantis, whether or not something is a curse to us or causes us pain is totally up to us as the individual.
You can learn to act and react differently. It isn't easy but it can be done. Each one of us is special in our own right and we all have different issues, likes, dislikes and in some cases -- very strong opinions!
I am not in a relationship at the moment and although I don't need feet to turn me on, I have reaped much pleasure from knowing that my feet can provide a sexy stimulant that turns men on. There's nothing wrong with that.
If you think of your FF as a curse, it will always be a curse. However, it is a part of who you are and if you try to ignore it and cover it up, you will be the only one who suffers in the end. Like anything, it is a learning experience to come into your own sense of being that will embrace your FF -- take your time, there's no rush that says it has to be perfect right away.
But if you try to repress something you truly enjoy and love...you are cheating yourself ... and cheating some wonderful girl/woman who might just enjoy it with you.
Patience...take heart and listen to the wiser, more experienced voices that are trying to guide those of you who are uncertain and unhappy with your FF.
Just accept yourself for who you are and then others will too. Those who don't aren't worth having in your life anyway.
Hang in there and don't give up
Wow, thanks for taking the time (and thought) in such a lengthy reply. The thing is, though; You said "But if you try to repress something you truly enjoy and love...you are cheating yourself ...", and I wouldn't really say I ever 'enjoyed' my fetish. Other than, you know, watching porn. But what you said is thought-inspiring, and It will hang in my mind.
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quote:Originally posted by bluetoelover: Get a g/f...easy as that sounds I know..but once you get a g/f there should be no reason why she wouldn't at the very least let you give her a foot massage. i mean come on, what girl would actually say they HATE a foot massage? But when telling your g/f about it don't make it sound like a painful freaky thing. For example, "I know this will sound weird and stuff but I love your feet/ I want to fuck your feet/ I have a foot FETISH"...then yes ajantis, your right, girls WILL turn you down or dump you or hell...not even pay attention to you.
It's not about how I present my fetish. It's as if I'm not even in the room regardless. And trust me, if I was capable of just "getting a girlfriend", I'd constantly be in a relationship. But thanks for your words, anyway. I appreciate that you took the time. Posts: 220 | Registered: Oct 2005
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quote:Originally posted by brek44: After years of my selfish pleasure, she rejects it. Leaving me with no satisfaction, or any sexual contact whatsoever with her. She grew to be repulsed by me, and this God foresaken fetish.
So I lurk on these forums, in my own private hell.
HOLY SHIKES!!!! You sound undeservingly miserable as a result of your fetish, yet sound-minded, wise, and honest.
I fear for my own selfish fetish fate thru a similar act of marriage.
Any lessons learned that you might be able to share with us unmarried guys so that we can try to outsmart the marital pitfalls (or side effects) of this fetish? I hope I don't end up in a "living-hell" marriage because of my perversion.
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quote:Originally posted by ThisisMe373: Right i need to let some of this out, Basically i hate having this fetish and just cannot accept it, I know alot of guys on here act like its no big deal with ridiculous comments such as "oh some guys like breasts we like feet" but have you actually thought of how creepy and weird that sounds?
It's only "weird" and/or "creepy" if you make it that way or act that way.... And, sorry, but liking a women's feet and being attracted to them like some guys are attracted to breasts and admitting it is not a ridiculous comment!
quote:Originally posted by ThisisMe373: breasts & vagina's are meant to be sexual not feet, there is no way this fetish will ever be accepted it just naturally freaks people out, you cant have a normal sex life imo, you cant just sleep with loads of girls no prob because you need feet involved which just makes things uncomfortable in the bedroom,...
As some have already stated, the vagina is the only part of a women "meant to be sexual" so saying a women's breasts are is entirely off base.
Are you now a sex expert? How do you know that wanting feet involved in the bedroom "just makes things uncomfortable"? Do you have solid evidence to support this claim? By "solid evidence" here, I mean do you have a study of sorts that says that? I'm not talking about anything you may have experienced personally. There are plenty of guys on and off of this forum who like women's feet and are confident enough to share it with their significant others, wives, etc., and the women in their lives have no problems with it.
quote:Originally posted by ThisisMe373: I just cannot accept having this curse, its horrible i feel trapped and my head is hurting im stressing about it that much i just want to have a normal sexuality.
If you treat it, or think of it, as something horrible and a "curse", then, guess what? It will be for you! If you just accept it as a part of you and don't give a damn what everyone else thinks (or, it seems like, in your case, what others may think, because I've noticed that most of your posts have dealt with situations that you've created in your own head that are "what if" scenarios and they haven't even come to pass), then most women, once they get to know you and feel comfortable around you and trust you, will think it's just a natural thing for you to like their feet and they will accept it.
If you still want to think of it as something that's horrible and a curse, then you may want to look into getting some help.
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As in Brek's situation he's wife got fed up of him just giving attention to her feet, imagine if he was "normal" and had to have her pussy in his mouth all the time instead im sure she's be much more satisfied! Id love to feel the same about pussy as i do feet, but for me im not to bothered about the pussy and licking a girl out tbh is almost disgusting, i cannot accept this, my brain is working overtime, but unfortunately there is no therapy for a foot fetish. Guess i have to fight this myself & try and be more chilled out and not worry so much.
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"unfortunately there is no therapy for a foot fetish."
Do you say this because you've actually investigated it? I would say therapy might have some use and would be interested in it myself.
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lets see, I'm in my early 20's and have had sex with 9 guys (mixing relationships and one night stands). Out of these 9 guys, 1 was into SM and being strangled while he came, 2 could not come in my mouth (something about it being humiliating for the woman), 1 just refused getting a blowjob (thinks he's the only guy not forcing a girl to do something non natural that she doesn't like) and has a urine fetish (is that what you call it, liked to watch me piss and would have liked me pissing on him) as well as the need to bite for sex to be great for him, and the one I am with now has a foot fetish. I have to say that the foot fetish is my favorite. And some of you guys really believe to be freaky????
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quote:Originally posted by Sinnister: How old are you?
You sound like you might be under 20.
Either that or you have yet to explore females outside of your immediate circle.
I've only ever encountere 1 girl who denied me feet. The rest had no problem with it.
i dont tell anybody about my fetish it would be spread instantly. something i certainly dont want would rather die, and im 21, but yeah aint been with many girls due to my fetish i am decent looking but this fetish holds me back sexually, iv had sex with only 2 girls so far.
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