you're on the right path to getting in the game! stop being so hard on yourself. she was probably laughing not at your awkwardness but at hers!!!
you probably made her feel things she's not used to and got a bit more nervous than she'd expected.
glad you're turning around and not so afraid. keep it up!!!
aand don't us the excuse you had no sisters.. I had no sisters either.. and i'm the oldest of several boys... so i had no help.. i just realized (a little lateish) that confidence will take you many more places than anything else.
so.. go for it!!! keep us posted... your luck has been turned around and spiraling up.. not down!!! soon, you'll have your way with the ladies and we'll have to post warning to them!!!
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Being confident is great.. But I wouldn't be to cocky.. In my opinion women like man who strong and touhg minded, confident but not cocky. Sounds like things are working for you. The more at ease you can make her feel, the better the return. At aleast try and act like you care but be tough on the outside.
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you're on the right path to getting in the game! stop being so hard on yourself. she was probably laughing not at your awkwardness but at hers!!!
you probably made her feel things she's not used to and got a bit more nervous than she'd expected.
glad you're turning around and not so afraid. keep it up!!!
aand don't us the excuse you had no sisters.. I had no sisters either.. and i'm the oldest of several boys... so i had no help.. i just realized (a little lateish) that confidence will take you many more places than anything else.
so.. go for it!!! keep us posted... your luck has been turned around and spiraling up.. not down!!! soon, you'll have your way with the ladies and we'll have to post warning to them!!!
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I'd say try another girl. If she was nervous becuase she was into him, she wouldn't have put her shirt on after 30 seconds, "slept" then left. Seemed to me to be quite the escape route. Not to be the downer here, but if I ever kissed a girls neck and her reaction was to sleep for 30 minutes and leave without returning any of the affection, i'd not be blind as to what happened.
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Dude Im also a only child and was shy because of it. I found confidence and have been able to pick up the ladies every since. Also the only way to pick up chics is be willing to be rejected. Because with failure comes success.
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I say confidence isn't really the point. The point is if you can get back up after life's inevitable smackdowns, and that's not really confidence, it's just guts. It's the fear of rejection that's the enemy here. You don't *have* to have confidence, but you'll surely need some guts. Say screw it and go through with it as you gain experience. Confidence will follow eventually. It's guts that'll get you to that point though.
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quote:Originally posted by bb57: I say confidence isn't really the point. The point is if you can get back up after life's inevitable smackdowns, and that's not really confidence, it's just guts. It's the fear of rejection that's the enemy here. You don't *have* to have confidence, but you'll surely need some guts. Say screw it and go through with it as you gain experience. Confidence will follow eventually. It's guts that'll get you to that point though.
I agree,that's what I wanted to say too. Persistance is what brings results.
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