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As most guys with a foot fetish, you're probably embarassed about it(till you get passed it?) and hide it. As of now, no one knows I have a foot fetish(I think) and I don't want peopel to know. Sadly, I've never done anything with a women's feet yet, but I really want to. Should I hide it from friends/family or not care who knows? I still have a year of high school left, and although I don't give a shit what people think and don't care what gets out, and when something does it's not that big of a deal, I have this thought that if someone finds out they'll just pass it on till everyone knows, and I'm afraid how people will react to it. I don't think it'll be that bad, but it's just that underlying fear. I had a group of friends over about a year ago for a LAN party, and they were on my computer and my friend clicked the drop down and saw a site titled something about Female Feet and was like wtf and clicked it and everyone was looking at it and browsing through and my one friend was like do you have a foot fetish or something? I calmly said no and they said then why do you have this site logged I just said I must've clicked an ad or something and it came up. My friend was like sure... but didn't make a big deal or didn't seem to care either, they got bored with it and went on with what they were gonna do. I haven't heard anything about it since. Also another time I was possibly caught I had a picture of a foot up and my mom opened the door (my mom doesn't care if I look at porn or anything she just laughs). I quickly closed it I don't know if she saw what it was or not but was like what are you looking at, porn? I'm just like no.. she's like uh uh and started giggling and closed the door. It doesn't seem to be a big deal, but to me it seems like if people know the world will fall apart? Am I just being stupid about it? Should I keep hiding it, or just go with the flow and no worry if people know or not?
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WoW You're in a tuff position. I know what you're going thru. I can only share what I did in your situation. I absolutely hid it from my friends and especially, my family. After I graduated from HS, I went off to college, out of state. New surroundings, new people to meet. Started doing the nightlife scene and picked up on "chicks" and while having sex, started on my fantasy of kissing feet. I was mildly surprised that they didn't resist (mostly because we were both pretty drunk). When I graduated college, started working, and started dating. I got the confidence to expose my foot fetish. I did this by offering foot rubs. Let me tell you, they loved this and so, they become relaxed. Now, you can move into kissing their feet. This worked! Now, you've got them aroused. I've learned that most women are receptive to it when you are confident and don't act like a drooling maniac. Take your time, my friend. Be casual. Everything worthwhile is worth your patience. Hope that helps.
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Well, naturally if your friend's find out ya their going to tell every 1 and it will spread like a wild fire (it happened to me).I'm proud that I love seeing pretty feet,and I won't deny it to people,if they ask. And at the same time I will try to enlighten them on the subject,doesn't do any good most of the time oh well.You don't have to tell people you like feet,but when you get a girl friend,if you want her feet,there's ways to have them with out saying you have a thing for feet,like a full body massage,when you get to her feet stay there longer lol,tell your woman you love her from head to toe,or toe to head and prove it.If you dont care what others think,then spill it out,but be ready for the ignorance. I deal with it quite often,about the worst your going to hear,is "oh so you like male feet too" or (coming from a guy) " I could use a good foot massage" you will get alot of drama from your male friend's,female's will think your some kind of freak or perv.So what I have learned from the past it's best to keep it with your lover if she's really into you,and don't make her feet to be the main part you like, you have to love the whole woman,if not that's when you have a problem.It's kind of crazy though,I have been in conversation's with people on all most every topic,and they seem to be cool or normal like with those different topic's but when you bring up feet, their like and there's a few that think that feet do look good. Don't keep hiding it,right now your young and as time goes on the footman inside of you is going to grow and keep growing,keeping it bottled up isn't good,and doesn't help.And sooner or later just looking at foot pic's isn't going to help,because your going to want the real thing up in your face and in your mouth .There's going to be some here that will say,just tell em be straight up about it.And ya there's ways to do it with out saying your a foot fantic.But either way your going to have to come out with it,with your girl friend's.And there's so many ways to do it.
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I just flat up say it. Any girl who's gonna freak because you have a foot fetish is not worth bothering with and any guy friends to hell with them it's none of their business.
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Okay, I was in the same position 2 years ago when I was a high senior, this is the low-down:
I know how you feel about wondering what the masses will feel about when or if this info were to get out and that basically that's holding you back from telling friends. From my perspective, I feel you're NOT comfortable with your fetish because if you were you would have admitted to your friends when the saw the website on your computer. I feel that if you can't fess up and tell your own friends, then you're not ready to have everyone else know because you simply aren't comfortable with people knwoing about your fetish. I think you should continue to keep it on the inside until you're ready, there's a time and place to let out your information and trust me when it's time to tell a girlfriend/friend you'll be able to tell them without hesitation, as for now just take it easy and try not to worry about it too much you're still what 16-18?? You have a whole lot of time to let it out when ready...never rush, haste makes waste...you have the capibility to pick and choose when to let people in on the information...
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quote:Originally posted by FTPHANTOM: ...it's best to keep it with your lover if she's really into you,
and don't make her feet to be the main part you like, you have to love the whole woman, if not that's when you have a problem.
Though I know it's debateable, at your age, I'd recommend keeping it somewhat under wraps for now. As you get older and into college and/or work you'll get more comfortable admitting it to people and defending it.
And Ftphantom's second comment about not allowing your focus to be exclusively on her feet, though it's gong to be incredibly challenging at times, is very true. After confiding my fetish to my wife I've, at times, really focused on her feet (although I do always satisfy her sexually every time) and have to at times control my sexual behaviour. Some girls will be able to handle a significant amount of attention to their feet better than others. Hence, you do want to gauge their enjoyment or tolerance for feet activity early on in the relationship.
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"And Ftphantom's second comment about not allowing your focus to be exclusively on her feet, though it's gong to be incredibly challenging at times, is very true. After confiding my fetish to my wife I've, at times, really focused on her feet (although I do always satisfy her sexually every time) and have to at times control my sexual behaviour. Some girls will be able to handle a significant amount of attention to their feet better than others. Hence, you do want to gauge their enjoyment or tolerance for feet activity early on in the relationship." Right on, Feetlvr!
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I was in a similar situation a few years ago, I think this is something everyone with a foot fetish goes through. Although I didn't have access to the internet, and didn't realise mags like "Leg Sex" and "Leg Show" were available. So yeah, I felt like somekind of freak....! But one night I just blatanly asked my girlfriend if I could "Suck her toes" I was so horny at the time, I didn't care what reply I got! Luckily, she said yes, as we'd both had alot to drink, and she found the whole experience rather funny. The problem occured when I then wanted more foot sex, than penetrative sex, and she thought I was only interested in her feet. This made us a little distant for a while, and it was about this time I also found the likes of "Leg Sex". I was both amazed, and relieved to see that there are many other people like me! Needless to say, this led to me buying a huge amount of these mags, which, my girlfriend found on a couple of occasions. Believe me, it aint nice getting caught with over 50 Foot Fetish mags, along with 10 DVD's. But I think in a way this also helped her to realise that I was not a freak. She then accepted what turns me on, and now we have intergrated this fetish into our sex life. O.K, so things still aren't perfect, but she's getting orgasms, and I'm getting foot love.
On another note, I recently got quite drunk with a friend of mine. Now I've known this guy pretty much all my life, so I trust him alot. Anyway, whilst drunk, I just randomly stuck one of my old Foot Fetish DVD's on the TV; just to see his reaction. I think he accepted it really well, and didn't for a moment laugh at me. He even admitted that although feet don't turn him on, he would kiss a girls feet, purely for the kinkiness of doing so. My point here is that if you trust people enough, you should tell them about your fetish; it'll make you feel much more relaxed.
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well i used to hide it bigtime. now i'm very relaxed about it-meaning i don't completely expose it, just sometimes i'll make a comment so someone knows i like pretty feet and legs---key thing here "...and LEGS"..
if you just say feet they look at you like your a ick pervert. if you says something like "well i love sexy legs, and feet are part of them" it's not bad at all--USE that if someone confronts you trust me it happened to me.
a quick story, about 3 years ago my buddy was on my desktop cpu and he was going through my vids in my folder, mostly bj's, sex, booty, lol...and some feet. he played a footjob vis and he says in exact words (i'll never forget) "eww what the hell is this..?" and i tell him it's a footjob, just like a handjob but the chicks use their feet-it's sexy.
then he's like "dud how can you like feet, do you like womens feet..?" i said flat out "yeah, but i have sort of a leg fetish-i love womens legs and feet are part of them so it's natural in a way"..he was like "oh i see it now, ok".
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My twopennorth: Discretion is the better part of valour here: You have a year of high school left. I'm guessing that makes you just 18. When I was 18 nobody knew about my fetish. Ten years down the line & I don't really care who knows, if I'm honest. My g/f knows and we have lots of fun with it, my close mates (true friends, if you will) know.
I think you're probably worried about the reaction you'll get from people if you tell them about it. For me now, it's no different from a penchent for breasts, legs, ass etc, but the question you need to ask yourself when contemplating who, if anyone, to tell is this: "Does this person I want to tell have the maturity to deal with it?" I found the best way to tell your mate was to weave it into a typically male-male conversation. "She's got a nice ass", he says. Answered with "Damn right, nice ass, nice legs, nice feet." etc., "Oh, you like feet, do you?" he says. Chuck this bit of info into the conversation and you're back on the 'straight & narrow': the foot takes second place to pussy in the pheromone-release league table. Conversation goes on from there, you've told your mate, he doesn't care and you can carry on drinking.
It's proved a conversational topic in the past with me, but that's coz I'm ok with it. I don't consider it unnatural or abnormal; mates who do know are mature enough to accept it like any other breast, leg liking. As I said, discretion is the better part of valour. As for your mates, if you do decide to selectively tell them and they choose not to accept you as you afterwards, then they're not mates worth having.
Bottom line, if you are not comfortable with your fetish, and it seems to me you are not, you should keep it under wraps. Only once you are happy with it and accepting of it can you express it to others and feel ok doing so. If you tell a mate when you are not comfortable with it yourself, he will pick up on your reservations and exploit them for a laugh at your expense, especially at 18.
Even at 28, I still select those mates I tell, but at late twenties/early thirties they are adult enough to realise that some things are kept to themselves.
An afterthought: 5-to-1 says that most blokes have engaged in some form of footplay during sex. (Note the word 'during', though. Peppercorn sauce should accompany steak, not be the main dish. Sam with foot fetish: it's a bolt-on extra. Once it takes over, then you've got problems.)
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