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ok, I'll start off by saying that this is kind of a continuation of a post about finding willing female partners for foot fetishists posted in the contacts section (http://www.wusfeetlinks.com/ubb/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=2;t=001278), but I thought it deserved its own thread since it's a very important concern for us lifelong foot/shoe addicts out there. This obviously concerns only unpaid partners (i.e. friends or girlfriends/wives) since I consider paid foot models to be doing a job, not engaging in a mutual passion for this particular fetish. However, models/dommes/hookers do have some insight into the foot fetish world since they see more freaky shit than most of us could ever dream of....but I digress.
The question is:
Does that foot fetishists dream woman who truly understands and plays to his intricate foot desires actually exist, or is she just a fantasy figure perpetuated by fetish porn?
In my experience, most, if not all, girls I have come across don't have a foot fetish per se. However, every girlfriend I've had didn't seem to mind me paying special attention to her feet, from simple toe sucking to full blown sole sniffing shoe fucking marathons as long as some other sexual activity was involved as well. This is no deep analysis, but girls I know who do enjoy foot related activities like them more because it's kinky than because they are really into feet or understand the intricacies of the male desire for feet or even specific parts of feet, soles, toes, heels etc.....the same goes for shoes: my experience is that a girl knows that her feet look sexy in certain pairs of shoes and they like that and the attention they garner from guys such as ourselves, but they can't fathom the depths of desire that are roused in a footguy's mind at the mere sight of a perfectly formed arch in pumps or the slapping of leather mules against sexy wrinkly bare soles.
I have, at times, become very frustrated by that one-sided feeling you get when you know your partner is just doing something because you like it, rather than because she too really enjoys it, and it can be difficult to come to terms with the idea that your ideal footgirl (unlike other guys' fantasy girls with GGG boobs and the inevitable bleach blonde hair etc) may not actually exist because even though she may have perfect feet, she doens't consider them to be sexual entities.
I'd love to read some responses from guys and any girls willing to throw in their 2 cents...and sorry this got so long-winded.
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quote:Originally posted by foot_slave: Does that foot fetishists dream woman who truly understands and plays to his intricate foot desires actually exist, or is she just a fantasy figure perpetuated by fetish porn?
I'd say without a doubt yes, because my wife is one. Is she the totally wantonly sexual footbabe I wish her to be- not yet, but she's growing, changing and becoming more perceptive to my foot wants and desires every day. We've done things in the last year that I've fantasized about doing for many years. I deeply regret not telling her about my fetish before we got married or shortly after. Pretty amazing considering that she was, as far as I could tell, totally naive about foot fetishism before I shared it with her.
Is there some correlation between her willingness to please me and our being married? I'd say definitely yes, but I also think that younger girls today are becoming more knowledgeable and aware of foot fetishism, boding well for those who only have girlfriends.
There are advantages for her to. As I wrote in a recent post, she really enjoys a good deep foot massage. It's also provided a welcome addition a whole new perspective and set of activities for us sexually, which after 25 years fo marriage isn't a bad thing either. I firmly believe she's getting more out of each subsequent foot encounter that we have mentally emotionally and physically. I'm not sure if she'd term footplay kinky in it's own right (of course the more comfortable you are with it the less "kinky" it seems) but it's lead to some other kinky activities like body and foot bondage, that she'd consider kinky.
I've watched as she's developed a whole new positive attitude about her feet, (whereas before I think she considered them to be ugly) not only being willing to show them off as I like to see them (wearing sandals styles and flip-flops that I like and adorning her feet with toe rings and anklets)but also spending more time in caring for them (scrubbing her heels, lotioning her feet, painting her toenails).
As I show her and tell her more things she's becoming more aware every day of all the subtle nuances of the foot and shoes that I like, and I have much more to share. This past weekend for instance, while shopping, I showed her two particular styles of sandals that I love, that she doesn't own, and told her how badly I want her to get some. (great time to buy now btw with end of summer sales!). Even as I do that, I try to relay just how sensuous, sexy and erotic all aspects of this can be and are: seeing her looking at them; trying them on; buying them; and eventually wearing them. In other words, she's learning, and owning the fact, that her feet (at least to me) are very sexual.
I also occassionally struggle with that one-sided feeling (selfishness usually) you get when you know your partner is just doing something because you like it, rather than because she too really enjoys it, but those times are getting rarer and rarer.
So I guess it comes back to the age-old question of whether footbabes are born or made. As I said earlier, I think younger girls growing up now are goign to be much more foot aware and foot friendly than girls from the past, particulalry because of media and the internet. So I think even if they're not born footbabes, they're going to become one (or at least more girls are going to become one) than ever before. And given their knowledge and awareness, even those that don't naturally find their way to footfun, will be much easier to convinve to try it.
Sorry for the long post, but given my situation, I felt I had a lot to share on the subject.
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i strongly agree that now a days.. younger gals are more open to the foot and heels thing. most of the gals i've had the joy of sharing my interst and even having them participate in mild apsects of it are younger than I. (nothing illegal either). I've got gal friend nearly 10 years younger than I. never thought of her feet as sexual things.. pampered them regularly for herself. cute feet well pedicured.. always pampered.
her words paraphrased... she never thought a guy would appreciate her need to pamper her feet to feel good about herself. but now that she knows i'm into that.. anytime i wanna see her feet.. she's cool with it if my gal is cool with it.. i can take pics.. massage and talk about her feet. but because i'm with another gal.. she doesn't want me to ever try anything sexual with her feet.. but won't mind a guy who is into her feet sexually.
older friends are more stuck into the notion that feet suck!
my lady is opening up nicely but slowly. she is getting it more and more.. but she doesn't want to do something with feet just to make me happy. she rather do it because she's into it.. and she's getting into it more and more.. the reason why she wants to do it when she's into it is because then both of us enjoy it and both are happy.. instead of one enjoy and the other feel it's work. so.. i'm being patient.
my post is getting long.. but in theory.. at least two gals on this planet have a foot fetish each generation. just simple (albeit a stretch) math. however... socialized not to play on it.
will it be the same way we men see it.. nope.. but can it be just as deep.. in theory yes.. in practice.. gals can really warm up to it.. or can already be into it and you've just got to find them (but yes.. the younger crowd is so much more open to it and not afraid to share with you.. like touching.. complimenting.. even buying accessories for feet).. the older crowd is taking much much longer to get it!
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First off, I think the term "women foot fetishists" isn't quite the accurate term here for what is being described - i.e. women who like/get off to having their feet being attended to via foot massages, toe sucking, etc..
I think women who are into guys having a foot fetish aren't born but, rather, made. Women usually don't intentionally wear footwear or shoes showing off their feet as a way to attact the attention of foot guys, as some of us would like to believe. While I'll admit that women like to show off "what they have" so to speak, I'm sure they don't consider their feet to be the be all and end all of their sexuality.
Although some women may be aware that the concept of foot fetishism exists to some degree, I don't think they consciously think about it all the time, unless they've been exposed to it through some male with a foot fetish that they have come into contact with and it was a positive experience for them. For instance, there are a few women who know about my foot fetish via pass encounters I've had with them that were feet related. For the most part, if these women know they will be in my prescence, they will go out of their way to make their toenails and feet look good via a pedicure and painted toenails, wearing sexy/revealing shoes, etc.. While there is something to be said about the "showing off" mentality, I don't think these women would actually go out of their way to do this, knowing they're going to be around a guy with a foot feitsh, if they didn't enjoy the concept of turning someone they know on with their feet to begin with. In order for this to happen, a woman has to be shown what a foot fetish is all about and, most importantly, have a positive experience because of it.
For those of us liking female feet and/or getting turned on by them, I think we have quite an advantage over those guys out there who fall into the "boobs & ass" crowd. I think we, as guys, don't realize how many times women get hit on, even in everyday situations. I don't have any scientific backing on this, but I can imagine that an attractive woman can get hit on as much as 75-100 times a week, especially if she's living in a large city. I'm sure she has a percentage of guys that want to, and, in some cases, do, cop a feel of her boobs and/or ass either in private or in a public setting such as a bar. A woman who has a guy pay attention to her feet instead of the typical boobs & ass can really be a breath of fresh air to her because it's completely different from the usual thing that most guys do. As something different, I think a good percentage of women will go along with it just because of the uniqueness. Yes, there are exceptions out there with women who hate feet in general, or think their feet are gross, etc.. Sometimes, even in those cases, their degree of "anti-feet" varies, as well as their reasons for their dislike. Even in some of those cases, women can be gently persuaded to try something different, just due the fact that it is something different that they may not have experienced before.
In my opinion, most women aren't aware of what they're walking on, literally! They're completely unaware of how many nerve endings there are in their feet and how this can be a pathway to a very interesting, and quite gratifying, experience for them. If shown the correct way, it has the potential to blow their minds because they don't realize how sensual and erotic it can be to have their toes sucked, their feet licked, etc.. Women are turned on, and very much so, by sensual things and things that aren't necessarily sexual, at least when in a normal state (Hence why women need foreplay before commencing with the act of sexual intercourse. For the most part, it's only when they get turned on do they gear up into the sexual mindset.). From my experience, I've had women who have gotten very turned on from having their feet massaged, kissed, their toes sucked, their feet licked, etc.. The first time this happened to them, they never realized before that point that their feet could be such a sensual and erotic part of their bodies. Basically, they needed to be made aware that foot fetishism does exist, that it's not a bad thing, and that they can get turned on by someone sensually playing with their feet. Because of the sensual content, this can eventually turn a woman's mind into it being a sexual encounter. For those guys that enjoy it, this is when footjobs can be added to the mix. Again, wanting a woman's feet in a sexual way can be another breath of fresh air to a woman, considering how most guys just want to get into a woman's panties. It has been my experience that a woman will be receptive and enjoy this kind of activity, especially if she is turned on by the preceeding "foot foreplay". The fact that a guy can get turned on over a "nonsexual" part of their bodies is something women don't encounter very often so they'll be more apt to go with it and see what happens. All of these things can lead to a positive experience, not to mention that it makes them aware of how sensitive their feet are and how they can be sensual parts of their body for the mutual benefit and pleasure of themselves and of some guys they are with.
I think this concept of women getting turned on by someone who plays with their feet isn't something women are aware of and probably don't even realize that this is possible. As a result, women have to be "converted" so to speak and be shown how cool it is to have a foot fetish experience. Once this "conversion" takes place, however, there are some women who will be totally into it not just because it's helping to fulfill someone else's desires, but because they get some pleasurable fulfillment out of it as well. In my opinion, women like this do exist. It's just a matter of showing them the way.
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dead on!!! my woman never wanted me to touch her feet ever... that was something no man ever had the chance of doing before.. but with a lot of patience.. now she loves it. she said she had no idea she could feel soo good from me playing with her feet.. and so good in both sexual and nonsexual ways.
she loves it and only allows me to touch her feet for her pleasure!!! and now.. she doesn't want me to touch other women's feet.. not like i do that to begin with either. but our deal is this.. her feet gets my attention. those gals who had such attention before.. only on rare occasions can they enjoy that (but i've not utilized that option.. she's got such yummy feet anyway!)
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I saw a Yahoo group devoted to barefoot photos of singer Mandy Moore. On the description, the owner said something about, "Perhaps Mandy has a fetish for her own feet." Come on, idiot! She goes barefoot a lot simply because she likes to!
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They do exist. I call them ImperialGoddesse's,because their like us.They naturally get off by foot play,getting their toe's sucked,sniffed,sole's licked,massaged and all that good stuff,they also like looking at other women's feet,just like we do.And just like us,at and early age,but with a twist,female's notice some thing sexy about their own feet,or like us another female's feet.The thing that suck's,there's not alot of them out there,compared to the footmen around the globe.And how do I know,well I have met a few of them out here in cyber space,and I have a few ImperialGoddess friend's,and know 1 out here in the real world.So ya they do exist
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Well after reading all that and being the gf of a foot fetishist I'll put my 2 cents worth in, I believe that just like you there are girls out there who are born with the "quirk" and others who are made, like me I'm not entirely into the whole foot thing but I am more open to it now than I used to be because it is indeed intricate, intimate, sexy and sensual. I do agree that sometimes people can consider it as kinky cos I did in the beginning but as I learned more about it I developed a bit more of an understanding and also dicovered somethings about myself, it may be because I am younger and have more of an open mind but I think that most of the women who are foot fetishists are made however there would have to be ones who were born liking it.
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Jules, my Gf is an exception to this rule, she loves all aspects of foot fetishism. She is my dream come true...She is always looking for ways to do things differently, always teasing, asking what i like so she can please myself aswell as herself.
She had a foot fetish long before i came along, I just brought it out into the light, and now both benefit from the fruits of our labour!!!!
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My girlfriend and I regularly use her unbelievably sexy feet for foreplay, and she was actually the first to bring the idea to mind. Of course, I've had a foot fetish for as long as I can remember, but I was never quite comfortable with bringing it up with girls that I only dated for a few months or so. When high school came a long, I really started to experiment my foot fetishism with friends. A few of them didn't seem to go for it, but the majority really liked the attention. My present girlfriend's first cousin, on the other hand, has a huge "foot fetish." She absolutely loves all the attention on her feet, which I will add are quite delicious. She loved sticking her feet in my mouths and around my cock, and gave me footjobs on a regular basis. Plenty of exciting nights of foot fun. I dated her seriously for a short while late in high school, but she was a bit too immature for me. I know it seems strange... "Dude, she totally wants you to lick her soles and suck on her toes. Why would I ever break it off with her?" That's another story. Overall, I know of at least one true foot fetishist female.
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I know for sure that they exist though rare and it starts in childhood just like it does for us guys. I won't go into it because some here would object because of the implications. My cousin is one and we have shared information about it. The difference between us is that she doesn't like feet but wants her's desired by men. Enough said.
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There are some great posts here that state very eloquently some of the viewpoints regarding women foot fetishists.
I have known quite a few women intimately, and I have been open about my foot fetish with all of them. Not one of them, not even my current girlfriend, has a foot fetish. However, they all came to enjoy the attentions of a foot fetishist. They themselves did not like other people's feet, but liked what their feet did to me. Ladies like this do not, in my opinion, have a foot fetish - feet don't turn them on. You could argue that they are "made" foot fetishists, but if they aren't aroused by someone else's feet, I don't think they've got "the fetish."
However, a dear lady friend of ours (my girlfriend is bi, and they "play" on occasion, but we're really close friends first and foremost) absolutely adores other women's feet! She's about as bad as I am! She loves sniffing and licking my girlfriend's feet, and truly gets turned on by it. Ladies like her do have a foot fetish - they are aroused by someone else's feet.
So to me, that's the distinction to be made: is the person aroused by someone else's feet? If so, that's a genuine fetish.
Are there woman foot fetishists? I would say so, because I am fortunate enough to be friends with one. But, they seem to be extremely rare!
Best wishes!
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