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I am really stressing out here as i think i have a way more extreme foot fetish then you guys. Basically i have noticed and leanred about myself that i do not get turn on at all watching normal porn, or even if a girl is lying naked next to me, i can't just look at a girls vagina and be turned on, infact i find them kinda ugly, its like the only way i get real sexual stimulation is through girls feet and this is going to be a massive problem in relationships, i can get erections when im kissing a girl in bed through touching ect, but sex just doesn't appeal to me, when im fingering a girl the feel of pussy does nothing?? all i seem to be obsessed about is girls feet, im totally fucked really is there any advice to make me more interested in pussy, tits ect seriously i need advice its driving me nuts
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i went through the same thing. and not only did it not minimize my foot fetish, i just became obssed with pussy and feet.
but if this is really bothering you, just jack off to some regular porn. dont give up, after enough stimulation, you will cum. and just keep doing it. you will be in love with pussy in no time.
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hey dude, i was once like you. there is hope. that's not to say i'm normal or that i am in a position you should strive for because i am still considered highly perverted.
however, i was able to shift my cravings from zero interest in pussy, to a healthy interest in pussy by genuinely trying to incorporate them into my fantasies slowly over a course of two years of mindful effort.
you can achieve normalcy... well ya know what i mean
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My biggest turn on (probably more than feet) is seeing a woman turned on. I find nothing sexier or hotter then a woman on her way to or having an orgasm.
It sometimes takes my wife a good long time to cum when I go down on her. My jaw will start to ache and my neck is hurting, but when she starts to moan and spasm it is all soooo worth it to me. It actually makes the experience enjoyable when it otherwise would not be.
Perhaps if you focus on the things that give pleasure to your partner you will find pleasure in those things as well??
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Well for myself the only porn I watch is foot porn and I don't even care about porn stars or "professionally" shot stuff. With that said I do enjoy straight forward sex, but just don't feel the need to find other routes for stimulation.
Tyler, by far, is still the most perverted person in the foot community though I think he is one that can give some reasonably sound advice!
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Well....The object of the game is to find a woman who will accept you as you are, "warts" and all. If not, perhaps you're just with the wrong person. Ya kinda get what you settle for.
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All i want is to be able to have some good straight forward sex, but its like when im having normal sex i need to think about feet and stuff, maybe i should try and enjoy it through looking at the girl and the feeling? but im afriad i could lose my erection, pussy just does nothing for me, so what is ur advice people? to jack off to normal porn alot? would that really work?
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It's not an exact science but you may well be able to condition yourself.
Many studies have been done on this. Made really famous by a dude called Pavlov who made dogs salivate by hearing a bell because they associated it with food.
I don't know how this translates to humans.....
It may work for you but for instance if you watched something you really really weren't into like gay sex (assuming you're not, doesn't matter if you are) is it possible to eventually become aroused by it?
I mean are you grossed out by 'normal' stuff?
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yes i have had sex loads of times, sounds really weird but at first i had problems gettin hard but then i learnt to think of feet during, but this was all with one girl, this is a new girl who has been with a few guys so don't think id get away with struggling to start off sex i feel really nervous and anxious but i know if feet were involved i would be aroused, realbean no normal stuff don't gross me out but at the same time it does nothing, anal sex probobly grosses me out a little bit, theres just nothing about vaginas that turns me on, how can i condition myself? watching loads of porn with pussy lol? i mean how can i train myself to like it??? so im sexually aroused by it??
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You have nothing to worry about. You state that if her feet were included, you wouldn't have any problems... right? So, just include her feet.
My advice to you is this.... Rather than try to change who you are, accept it and adapt. If your girl is cool about your ff (and most are), I'm sure she'll be more than happy to accomodate. Be it putting her feet in your face during sex, or touching them during sex... whatever helps you get an erection.
Also, spend some time learning what she likes. Every girl has something that turn her on. Learn what that is and do it for her. If you can do that, she will return the favor... believe me.
Again, don't worry about it. You'll be fine... I'm sure of it. Good luck to you.
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I'm at the point where more often then not footie porn doesn't just do it for me. I'd rather watch "normal" porn but show the feet involved For example, vids where the dude is balls deep in the chick and grabs her feet and starts sucking and smelling them(where it looks genuine and not scripted) or they mix up footplay with the sex(certain male performers are almost a guarantee to have foot play involved in all of their clips, Rod Fontana,Randy Spears,Pat Myne,Brandon Iron just to name a few).
So maybe try looking for those kinds of vids and pick up some tips of what their doing. In terms of positions, like the balls deep and have her feet up around your ears that you can make it look passionate but sucking on her toes(if the girl isn't aware of your love for feet) and other positions so that you don't have to visualize them in your head you can incorporate them into sex, its a win-win
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If it really bothers you that much, just try jacking off to regular porn for a while, like has been said. Being a guy means that when it's just you doing it, you can look at anything and eventually orgasm as long as there is enough friction. It won't necessarily be an enjoyable use of your time, but if you're serious about changing yourself, it may be worthwhile.
Or failing that you could always try hypnotherapy or something. I'm sceptical of all that hokum but if it didn't at least APPEAR to work, they wouldn't still be in business Posts: 184 | Registered: Jan 2007
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While we call ourselves foot fetishists, technically a 'fetish' means the object in question is more or less required to achieve sexual arousal/stimulation/orgasm. So most of the people posting on this board (myself included) are actually considered more 'foot enthusiasts' than anything.
But if you feel as though feet are a MUST in ALL sexual encounters with you, then you probably have whats considered much closer to the technical definition of a fetish.
But personally, I'm kind of similar to you. I can't look at a vagina and automatically get turned on, the sight of them isn't particularly sexy to me. Regardless, I still watch more foot porn than normal porn. It's just what I prefer. I can still watch normal porn, every now and then I almost sort of force myself to.
Basically, what you'll need to do is force yourself to open your mind to things you normally don't get off to. Don't focus so much on finishing/getting off, focus on what feels good for the moment. I know, us guys wanna get off when the goin' is good, but try and delay that satisfaction as long as possible. Make the pleasure last, sometimes the longer it takes the better off you'll be.
On the subject of what mmmtoes said, try to focus more on the woman's pleasure rather than the actual ACT of fingering/going down on a woman. If you make sure a woman is satisfied in bed and feeling good, then more often than not she'll be willing to take care of you right back. Not to mention, it'll give you a better understanding of what women crave in bed and you'll get better 'recommendations' from them
But if, as you said, this is a serious problem that you are genuinely and frantically worried about, it may be best for you to seek professional help. A certified therapist may be able to offer you better advice than we can.
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I had this SAME problem with my girl. When I was first going out with her, I was too nervous to even bring the foot thing up. When we were making out or in bed, it was hard to get an erection. Then when I finally would get one, it didn't last long before it dropped. My girl honestly thought she didn't turn me on which pissed me off because she's soo adorable and cute that I know I would have no problem being turned on regardless of feet involved or not. Well not the case at the time I was just starting to date her. I fell flat many times, but the moment I let my hands slip to her feet and touch them, BOING! I'm certain she didn't know yet what was it that got me going because it was usually random. Anyways, nowadays, since being with her, the more and more I touched her just about anywhere, I get highly aroused. I think as you grow deeper with someone, you love everything about them that it's a lot easier to get an erection. My nerves have calmed and now we are extremely happy. As I mentioned in another thread, as time went by, I slowly dropped hints that I loved her feet, and by now she takes my hands and puts them down at her feet when we are together in bed and whatnot. It's really great and I know she's slowly becoming attuned to the whole thing that she will do A LOT more for me. The best part is though that I can get an erection A LOT easier and hold it a lot longer than before, regardless of feet involved or not. If you really need a quick and easy fix which I enjoyed doing, is when the girl is on top, just grab her feet and rub them a lil bit for extra stimulation. It's fun and harmless and I doubt your girl would pick up any signals yet if your worried. I did that plenty Posts: 707 | Registered: Feb 2005
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is there any advice to make me more interested in pussy, tits ect seriously i need advice its driving me nuts
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For example, vids where the dude is balls deep in the chick and grabs her feet and starts sucking and smelling them(where it looks genuine and not scripted) or they mix up footplay with the sex(certain male performers are almost a guarantee to have foot play involved in all of their clips, Rod Fontana,Randy Spears,Pat Myne,Brandon Iron just to name a few).
