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This topic is a bit complicated. In my relationship of 14 months, I've always been very 'Alpha', lead the r'ship, and been the dominant one, in and out of the bedroom.
There's also an age gap, she just turned 20 and i'm 28.
The sex has been great but deep down what really turns me on is being a massive sub. I want her to dominate me, rub her feet all over my face, force me to lick my own cum off her feet.
My fantasies get even more perverse though the last time I expressed them here some narrow-minded readers caused the thread to be blocked so I won't mention them again.
My question is - are then any Alpha guys here that are complete submissives in the bedroom? And how do you go about it?
I've considered going to a prostitute but I still consider this cheating and don't want to go down that path.
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Just read the other topic that got locked - fuck some of the people on there were ignorant, insecure arseholes, but anyway, doesn't normally happen on Wu's, so let's just call that an "off" day
I'm not overly alpha really and mostly sexually submissive. It's just about being comfortable with who you are. Tell her I'd say.
My worry is that my dominance, Alphaness is one of my major appeals towards her. I'm worried that if she starts perceiving me as this weak submissive guy that wants to worship her feet, her view of me might change.
Just want to know if anyone else has been here and what happened to them.
She's also very sexually inexperienced. Even for me, this submissiveness only opened up in the past couple of years. Prior to that I was pretty much a mainstream guy with a love for feet. Nothing else.
I'm hoping that as we progress she will want to try more things.
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It's the circumstances that I want to know, really.
I can suck on her toes or get a footjob no problem, but I'm talking about things most people new to sex and fetish aren't likely to understand.
Like licking sweat or dirt from her feet after a long day, me cumming on her feet and then having her force me to eat it, golden showers, her using a strap-on on me, even licking her asshole after she's just been the toilet. I can get far more perverse but don't want the thread to be blocked.
Even to me these things are perverse but I fantasize about it all the time and would love to do it with her.
How can one introduce such things but still remain dominant/alpha in her eyes?
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Yeesh... I remember that one. It's a bit depressing that there's so much close-mindedness and homophobia on this forum.
Anyway, I don't exactly see myself as an Alpha male, but I do love the idea of being trampled on by a girl, my face stood on by her, and forcing me to worship her feet. ...And I also like the idea of doing the same to her. I imagine that it'd be much easier to convince a girl to do the former than it would to convince her to let me do the latter.
quote:Originally posted by nerdbuster: My question is - are then any Alpha guys here that are complete submissives in the bedroom? And how do you go about it?
Yes there are and I am one of them.
The way I go about it is using alpha tendencies to convince the girl to show you her feet in your bedroom.
Then let the subbie out of the bag after she knows you are a real man so that she can play along. During the times when I've let the subbie out without letting them know I was a real man 1st, they ended up genuinely thinking I am a freak (as opposed to disingenuously thinking it otherwise).
Some things I have been perfecting while acting like a subby is having her crimp her toes over my nose and move my head back and forth while I sorta wimper like a helpless weirdo in ecstasy. That always works and the more that your wimpers sound like a man who is about to cry or orgasm or both, the more that she will realize you are either acting, or genuinely playing the part of a subby.
The closer you come to acting like a pissant and crybaby, the more you are making yourself and your boiz proud. The more that you do not act like those things, the more you are making her proud.
So the question always boils down to this: who's orgasm matters most to you? That's the best advice/reflective thoughts I can offer.
Go out and be a true subby today boiz, and please report back to us how it went!!
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I have had similar issues, my wife is generally submissive and me dominant, she is cool with foot jobs and letting me suck her toes but it was hard to get her to take a more dominant approach, I finally got some more femdom related porn and got her to watch some of it with me and told her I wanted to try and role play some of the the things they were doing. It didn't work overnight but most of the time she will indulge my more submissive side and be more aggresive. Just remember to not let it take over your life in the bedroom completely. Most women still like to be submissive sometimes too.
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quote:Originally posted by Spotlight: Let her piss on you and after you cum, tell her to go iron your favorite shirt!
I just burst out loud laughing at that! You could come to a compromise....what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom, that sort of thing.
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