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I was just wondering if you could be too attracted to feet? For example, I have only had sex 2 times in my life. Why so few? I basically have just looked at porn my entire life. But I digress. The point is that I was underwhelmed the two times that I had sex. Of course, I was using a condom, so maybe bareback would have felt better. In conclusion, am I missing anything by not having actual sex? I really really like just jacking it to female feet on the internet. As a matter of fact, it's been two years since the last time I had sex. I was just wondering if I need some psychological help, or are there other foot guys out there who would rather just be with feet than the girl attached to the feet.
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Drop the foot porn. Seriously...leave it alone. If you MUST get off...do it to normal sex porn. Use a condom while you do it too. Do this till you enjoy sex. Then you may start watching the foot stuff again.
-------------------- If she won't indulge your fetish, I bet you that cuter, smarter girl across the bar will. Lets go find out. Posts: 1877 | Registered: Aug 2006
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It all depends. I don't you can ever be "too" attracted to feet but you can be too one demensional for your own good. Worshipping feet or getting footjobs is great no doubt, if you are into more unique aspects of foot fetish like trample or ballbusting, smelling, dirty feet things like that, it's not difficult to get girls to really engage and try and often come to enjoy any of that sort of thing with you but there has to be a give and take. Unless you end up with a Sadist who just loves to kick guys in the nuts, or a chick who was like abused or something when she was young and has been turned off of sex and is more satisfied with long and relaxing foot massages and the intamacy of a good cuddler and a sort of friend zone type relationship with her mate, unless you find an appreciation for sex from all sorts of angles, you're probably going to make it difficult to find a whole lot of partners who will engage you in sex or foot fetish related activites.
I mean if you are a real good looking dude or you got a giant cock or a bunch of money or very low standards you can probably always scrounge up somebody but if you are just an average dude looking to score above average women, you've got to have some things to offer them if you want to expect them to offer to satisfy the unique and quirky things you're into. Most girls love to be on the reciving end of a good fucking and if you can give them that, they're much more likely to not only "put up with you" but be into you completely. This will make them more and more willing to be open-minded and easily brought into the realm of whatever kinks you may want to introduce them too. However it is highly, highly, highly unlikely those kinks alone are going to have the ladies lining up to provide their feet for you to have their way with, nor are you very likely to have em throwing a whole lot of pussy in your direction either. Why? Because guys who get pussy know there's a bit of work that comes with it. You basically get out of a relationship what you're willing to put in.
If you neglect a chick sexually and obsess over and objectify her feet, she's going to grow tired of your game sooner rather than later and you'll be left operating the ol meat wrench on your own once again. If she sticks around, but she's not being satisfied sexually, she's eventually going to look elsewhere and cheat on you or break up with you in favor of somebody who will offer the things she's looking for sexually.
You'll get better at sex the more you do it. Even if you gotta practice on an ugly chick to improve your skillset. haha. Doesn't gotta be intercourse all the time either. Oral can be really fun to get into and drives girls wild. If you don't have the libido for as much sex as she craves, get vibrator and work on her with that a little bit when the ol Beaver Cleaver goes into hibernation. Maybe she likes to get tied up or spanked or some kinda crazy ass role playing stuff that may seem absurd to you, but if endulged, will make her that much more willing and open to exploring whatever wild and creative things you want to do to her feet.
I think I'm most attracted to feet than any other part of the female body, but I love the entire body of a hot chick and I enjoy all of it as a whole, feet absolutely have to be included in that but I think I would probably eventually get a little bit bored with nothing but feet, feet, feet. Not bored to the point I'd have my fill of em, but bored enough to feel the need to expand on things and shake things up a bit.
I've had dry spells that ran several months a couple of times in my life and jacking to female feet online was definatly a great release and effective way to fill that down time but I think what's happened to you here is that you've become to complancent in that situation and you're lacking the ambition to get out of it and go capture something more because it will require a little bit of work and effort and perhaps some sacrifice and a bit of give and take that you can lazily avoid by being a loner and sticking to the 5 knuckle shuffle for relief.
The problem is that in avoiding the game for too long, when you finally want to break out, you'll put yourself behind the 8 ball as far as what you have to offer to potential girlfriends and rejection and frustration may only lead to falling back even farther into the loner trap. I mean, if you're truly happy with your situation, that's fine, there's no problem at all. However I doubt you'd be asking this question if you were as happy simply jacking to pictures as you claim to be above. There are Asexual people out there who I guess just have no desire for sex and if they're happy like that, great for them. However it sounds to me like you've got a healthy sex drive that you're excercising all by your lonesome more so out of laziness and contentment with all the fabulous foot fetish content available online to enjoy vicariously rather than ambitiously seeking it out for yourself. I don't think you need psychological help at all. You might need a little bit of motivation or ambition to raise your game, but it sounds to me like with only 2 sexual encounters, you're simply naive to how vast and wild and exciting and enjoyable an active sex life can be, so instead of choosing to persue it, you've become complacent in your comfort zone of foot fetish content that is always a sure fire way to get off with very little effort or interaction required. If you're truly happy in that place, there's certainly nothing wrong with being there but I can tell you with absolute certainty that there's a whole lot of awesome things out there to explore and doing so in the company of a hot chick will beat the hell out of any picture or video clip you can watch. However those video clips and pictures within the context of a healthy and active sex life can provide some great ideas for fun and exciting new things to try. It sounds to me like you just need to get out more.
Now don't get me wrong...I mean, some girls with hot feet are just annoying fucking idiots too. That can also pose a problem where trying to have a relationship with them would be more effort than it's actually worth, but still, it'd be better to get in and get out, than to bypass them completely. I didn't have an overwhleming number of partners prior to marriage because I often tended to find myself spoiled with some of the hotter chicks I dated so I had issues with settling for less than what I would come to consider a certain standard, and that standard often required more work that I was willing to put in. I had a bit of a rut sexually, then I drank a lot and got into drugs and had a lot of great sexual experiences both foot related and non foot related with pretty hot and sometimes not so hot party type girls. The novelty of that eventually wares off as well and there comes a time where you're ready to grow up and settle down and when you do, you want to make sure it's with the right woman who you can be best friends with and be sexually attracted to beyond your wildest dreams. I feel like the luckiest dude in the world every morning when I wake up and look at the Goddess in bed next to me, or when she wakes me up with a foot in the face or a playful kick in the nuts. It's not easy to find true love but when you find it, I can tell you that there's no picture or video clip that could ever compare. What I think you gotta watch and make sure you avoid is getting trapped for too long in a loner sort of zone to the point that when the time comes where you're ready to get out and you want to get out you may lack the social skills and/or experience to do so effectively. You can't let your foot fetish consume you or you'll end up like one of those lunitics you hear in the news like the recent Walmart Toe Sucker clown. You've gotta own your foot fetish and make it work for you. I feel like I have a heightened appreciation for female beauty and sexuality than the average guy who's not into feet because I feel those ignorant fools know not what they're missing. I think though I would say the same for anyone so consumed by their foot fetish that they robbed themselves of all the joy and excitement and awesome experiences that be had through other forms of sexual activity with sexy women. I think you should really get out there and try and expand your horizons because 2 less than stellar experiences in my estimation is giving up WAY, WAY, WAY Too easily. The more you experience, the more you have to share and the more you have to share, the more attractive partner you'll make yourself for other women, thereby if it's feet you crave most, well you'll get a whole lot more of them as part of the package of having a healty and active sex life.
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Or in short..What GQ said. Denying yourself the foot porn will give you that motivation/ambition I mentioned. When absolutely necessary to get off, doing so to vanilla porn rather than foot porn will pre-condition you to react more effectively when you get a chance to put it into practice. Great concise advice by GQ as usual. Definatly take it. Dude gets more feet than Dr Scholl and more Pussy than Kotex, even when he's in a relationship.
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Personlly I'd say you don't need to give up the foot porn, I never did and I speak as someone who practically only 'uses' foot porn. You just need to get out there all the time and meet women. Most women will accept your fetish if you just take it slowly with them.
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Man you are not alone! I am pretty much like you and thought I was the only one. I remember the first time trying to have sex. I was rather old for my first time. very attractive lady and I just couldn't and still can't feel anything. i ws like, this is what I waited for all of these years! I would much rather just get off to feet. Even oral sex isn't that exciting to me.it could be that I waited so long and built up an expectation and having sex didn't measure up. i did enjoy her feet though. So just know you are not alone!
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Yeah, I really have no desire to fuck or eat pussy or even kiss for that matter. I did so much of that in my 20' & 30's. Now I'm strictly feet, all the time, and ONLY feet. Don't get me wrong I still make out with a chic here & there from a bar if I think there's a chance she'll jack me off or blow me but it's so rare. And it's only because I don't wanna get into the whole foot thing at 2:00am when this chic just wants a cock in her mouth.
So, yeah, don't let society tell you what is "sexually normal" or anyone in your life tell you that you have a "problem." Just go out and get your ducks in a row. Line up the gals that'll let you do your thing with their feet. I've been doing it for a while and I'm happier than I've ever been!
Happy sniffing, kissing & licking my friend!
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Well, foot play is just a part of an entire sexual experience for me. Of course, it's your life and you really should live it as you want. I still believe the ultimate sex experience for us foot men is a pair of soft musky smelling soles in our face and a warm inviting pussy wrapped around our hard cock.
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The first time I had sex I was so damn excited to actually be getting laid that I didn't enjoy that much. I too felt "underwhelmed", as you put.
It does get better... I promise you. Perhaps you'll always enjoy feet more, but that's normal. Sometimes I prefer a footjob or a blowjob over sex... just depends on my mood.
Keep trying. Once you get the hang of it you'll learn to like it. I suggest you find an "experienced" girl that knows what to do. She will train you, so to speak. Or you can hire a "professional" to take some of the pressure off.
Bottom line... don't worry about it too much and keep trying. It probably wouldn't hurt to lay off the porn a bit. Porn sometimes elevates expectations to an unrealistic level... it's all fantasy.
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If the porn is an addiction that you can't break, then you'll need help if it interferes with your well being as well as interactions with women. I think something is wrong with you bc you seem to say that'd you'd rather watch porn. To me there is nothing better than the real thing. Did you get any foot action when you had sex? I remember a woman that I bedded where I felt nothing with a condom. She was unaware of my fetish until I told her during the sex. She was fine with it so I pulled her socks off and sucked her beautiful French pedi toes while her other foot gave me a fj. I felt something then. I agree with a comment saying that the woman needs to be on the receiving end of a good fuck. If she's enjoying the sex you can suck her toes and probably won't think much of it. Afterwards you can tell her of your fetish.
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I want to thank you guys for the advice. I have yet to do anything about my problem. However, I was wondering if you guys thought maybe I could have an open marriage with a girl? She could fuck any guy she wants as long as it takes place in our home, and I get to watch. While she is getting fucked I could touch and worship her feet. Ostensibly, it would be a kind of cuckold experience. One thing is for sure, I don't want to lick up some guy's cum which is what happens sometimes in cuckold porn. Long story short, could an arrangement like that work for her and for me?
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Yes you can, if you have a true foot fetish, the grand majority of people are partial to feet but if you have a fetish for them in the literal sense, it can be a problem and you might need help. Needing feet to get off will probably get you in trouble at some point and prevent you from maintaining a healthy relationship.
This really only applies to a very small percentage of the foot loving population though.
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I don't think you necessarily have a problem. You are just missing out on so much by just sticking to porn. You gotta get out there and experience it. When I look at porn, it is exclusively jerking it to feet. I don't even really like watching footjobs or worship either. Most of the time it's just girls modeling their feet and wrinkling up their soles. I think it's so hot. But in real life I like to engage in "normal" foreplay and sex for a little while before I get into the whole foot fetish thing.
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