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Before you cheat, why don't you talk with her about it. Tell her that feet are very important to you, and you'd like her to indulge in it with you more.
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Do your girlfriend and yourself a huge favor and end the relationship now before things get ugly. You're obviously not interested in her or her feet enough to continue a committed relationship with her. Sexual satisfaction is a huge part of a mature, long term, relationship, and if she's not open minded about your fetish you should find a woman who is.
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Hi flats lover,I'm also a.new member and this is my second post.my,first post went to the help section somehow.your situation sounds a lot like mine.ive been married for,over 30 years.ive always had a huge foot fetish,but my wife has never really satisfied it .her feet are not bad,but I always have to initiate Any kind of foot play.yes I've talked to her about it quite a bit but she's just not into it.im sure part of it is just being with the same person so long.i still love her a probably would not consider a divorce.just have to much invested.. I have found a woman who's feet I've been worshiping weekly,but it's expensive and I can't go as far as I want to! So I guess I'll just have to work with what I've got! Thanks,Scott.
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You’ve made me think and realise that I’m actually very lucky to have this girl so I’d be really stupid to potentially throw a good relationship away or do the wrong thing, for what is probably just fantasy and lust built up in my head for other feet.
I have spoken to her a few times about it but I think the bigger picture is actually not her and feet but the fact she’s not really one to sexually tease. We have great sex but she very rarely teases, whether with her feet or in any other way.
So clearly the answer is for me to discuss my desire to be teased more both in general and with her feet, and bring the foot worship into foreplay more rather than as a stand alone event, that way it doesn’t look like an obsession with feet to her.
Appreciate this wake up call from you all, I think I’d just let my head run away with me here. I’d be better off being grateful for being able to enjoy the scent and sight of her soles during sex and work on the other stuff because she is a great girl otherwise.
Moving: The fact you’re technically cheating aside, you’ve got to ask yourself whether £150 per session so potentially per week/month is really worth it. I think you should do what I’m going to do, speak to her and go from the teasing/foreplay angle and mention feet as a big turn on during foreplay, as the key I think is to not make it all about feet. Also make sure she’s super satisfied sexually, that way you’d hope she’d want to reciprocate and indulge you with her feet.
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One has to commit to one we love, and you will never have a perfect situation. One thing you could do is offer her a professional pedicure treatment to include nails and that alone would transform her feet significantly. Explain that men are attracted to different things, such as breasts, or butts. You are attracted to feet. Read my post regarding how the foot center in the brain is next to the sex center. I believe neural pathways start forming between the two centers when feet become sexualized. Just a thought. Begin by incorporating feet in sex play. You're almost there during intercourse. She herself may become more receptive as feet become sexualized.
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I’m not going to preach to the morality of your dilemma (man-in-glass-house situation) My advice, be upfront and clear about what YOU need and try and give her what she needs. Communication is the key. But relationships aren’t the same forever and evolve, and sometimes dissolve. Life is short, try and find what makes you happy. Eventually you’ll be too old to chase you dreams (like me).
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Everything has it's risks, you can always go the cheating route (because that is what it is, not judging) but think about what you have to lose. I am in a similar situation, my wife is awesome, but teasing and foot play is not her strong point at all. Sex can be great, but not as often as I like. The option you have, although it is limited is to talk to her and maybe take the initiative. Right when she gets home, grab her foot, offer a massage, then turn that into put her foot on your hard on and let her know she and her feet turn you on. Add some sniffing and maybe light kiss or two.
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Thank you so much guys for your thoughts, it’s really helped me reflect on my situation. I had sex with her this evening and absolutely buried my face in her soles and savoured the scent, and thought wow I don’t have it so bad after all.
blueopalfeet: Good suggestion with the pedicure. She has had a manicure but not a pedicure before (paints her toes herself). I’ve offered to pay for a pedicure before so maybe that’s the answer as slightly longer toenails and a beautiful pedicure would definitely help
Peter, Peter: You’re right and realistically why lose a great relationship over this. I get feet just not the worship but I guess nothings perfect in life and worship for a girl is quite a big thing because they can feel like they’re just there as a pair of feet for your fetish.
Icarus: Some wise words there but could you please expand on the ‘glass house’ situation? Did you get feet elsewhere and pay the price?
Also how would you guys view buying a pair of tights or flats or similar from an Instagram girl on the cheating scale? Out of interest rather than I’m thinking of doing it.
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Like I stated, concentrate on your relationship, offer a full pedicure (and you won't believe how smooth her feet will become) and forget about your Instagram idea. As she becomes more comfortable, she will actually begin to enjoy it.
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Yeah I’m going to do just that. A pedicure will make her feel good about herself and her feet too.
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Icarus is right about communication. Communications, time and patience. Men want results yesterday. That does not work like that with women.
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I feel like I"m in the same situation as the OP.
My wife's feet are pretty good although as picky I am, I'd complain too small for what I consider my ideal pair. She's size 7 1/2 but her toe length isn't as long as I'd like. I know in the end, it's all BS and we can't all get that perfection we desired but as I get older, rather than appreciating what I have, I feel I NEED what I don't have.
As others have said, life is short and we only live once. You can look at that two ways. Either appreciating what you have even if it's not exactly what is your consideration of ideal or perfection. OR, try to get that ideal, perfection that you seek before doomsday comes.
It's hard because I feel like I think with my d**k waaaaaay too much despite never cheating on the wife but having sooooo many thoughts to get some "other" feet action.
My wife's Okay with the situation and even said years ago that she probably could never see herself with a guy that wasn't in to feet after I made her so comfortable with hers. Honestly, her feet are perfect if you like size 7 1/2 and not too long of a toe length, but once you've had it for so long, I guess you get greedy or desire that perfect pair in your mind that you don't think you have.
I don't know, I blame it on social media, lol. If it wasn't so damn easy to see other's feet with lets say Instagram and not know what you are missing, these wouldn't be thoughts running through my head as often as they do. Unfortunately, they run through my head far too much.
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