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Hi, I'm new here. Can't believe there are others like me out there!
Here is my story: I go to get a haircut today from my regular guy. When I walk in there is a really cute new girl working there. I am immediatly drawn to look at her feet. It was my day...because she had on super cute open toed shoes with a wooden sole. Her feet looked really good but this was still from across the room. My guy says to her, will you wash him up. So I follow her back to the sinks just staring away at her feet. I must have looked like a zombie because I was so fixated on them. They were absolutely devine up close as I suspected. Beautiful shape and super fresh, glistening red polish. I really picked them apart, visually, and they were flawless. Now here is where I have a question....As she is washing my hair, she tells me I have really nice hair. She even mentioned it a couple times during the wash. I wanted soooo bad to say, "thank you and you have really beautiful feet"...but I did not say anything I wonder how she would have taken the "compliment"? Freaked out on me, calling me a weirdo? or perhaps, said thank you I'm glad you noticed them? Oh what I could do with those nice peds..... Anyone compliment a stanger on their feet before? How did it go?
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That my friend was a blown opportunity. Women who work in a salon environment would definately appreciate the comment about how pretty there feet are...
quote:Originally posted by Sinnister: That my friend was a blown opportunity. Women who work in a salon environment would definately appreciate the comment about how pretty there feet are...
I concur completely. These girls at the salons live for feet and hand complements.
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don't knock yourself over this loss opportunity. i suspect she figured you liked her feet and was using her compliment to draw you out a bit.. but you ddin't go for it. oh well..
don't sweat it.. you may get another chance!
RPM
p.s. the cooler you handle it.. the better it comes across!
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Dam, you guys are so right! I just couldn't muster the balls to do it.....
She kept coming over to talk to my hair guy and would sit down in the chair next to us dangling those perfect little feet. I swear I was straining my eyes so bad to get a better look at them without moving my head. Funny stuff!
I will try again next time.
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i disagree, it doesnt matter whether you are in a salon enviroment or whatever, thats stereotyping, its the individual that matters, and since you have absaloutley NO idea who this woman is and where she is coming from, her reaction could have been anything!
My friend emma works at a salon, she really hates feet with a passion, and we havnt talked that much since i told her i was a foot guy, hows that for ya. Beleive it or not, there are people like that.
She could have had really awful feet related experiences in the past or really despise feet for other reasons etc. No matter who the person is, if you dont know them then there is ALWAYS two sides to a coin and you must think before you act, especially since this is a woman who works in the place that you visit to get your hair done regularly. The plus side, she responds positivley to your comments and it goes good from there, the negative, due to her personality and background, her response could be the EXACT oppose, you would be forever in the bad books. Would you be ok with that knowing that every time you go to get your hair done, you will always see her, and she will remember you, maybe even told others who work there about you etc.
You have to think and tread carefully in many cases, put the positive out come and the negative out come and put them onto some imaginary scales and think which one weighs more, do you have nothing to lose, or do you have something to lose, such as the the respect from the people who work there?
Its ok if its someone you are never going to see again or someone you know would be ok with it, or if you dont care about negativr out comes, but when there are things at stake, you need to think with your mind and not your......
quote:Originally posted by climax: i disagree, it doesnt matter whether you are in a salon enviroment or whatever, thats stereotyping, its the individual that matters, My friend emma works at a salon, she really hates feet with a passion, and we havnt talked that much since i told her i was a foot guy, hows that for ya. Beleive it or not, there are people like that.
some friend...
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Well, you can go back there, again! Strike up a friendship with her. Then you can occasionally bring up her feet, while talking. You could say something like, "Why don't you do you work barefooted!" and see how she reacts!
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sorry to hear that dude, but hey seems like it has happened to most of us at one time or another so you're not alone. just grow a set and tell her next time, and if she calls you a freak just offer her $200 for her shoes
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OK. Don't worry it will come around again. Use caution with your approach and try starting with the toenail polish, if she's wearing polish. This works well for me because then she will realize you are checking her feet out and take the conversation from there. A stepback is a setup for a come back . Go get'em the next time.
-------------------- V/R, FM9 aka Mr. Footbooty "She had real pretty feet. I was always a sucker for pretty little feet... Outside of her being pretty and hip, with a good body, her feet is what attracted me." - p. 39 of "Miles" (Davis) The Autobiography Posts: 8821 | Registered: Sep 2003
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Somewhat of a tough call IMHO. Though I don't know all the details, it sounds like she was being a little flirty, or she somehow noticed you eyeballing her feet and was teasing you a bit.
Don't beat yourself up over the missed opportunity. As others have said, could have gone well or could have made her "go postal" We don't know. I'd suggest returning every chance you get and continuing to build rapport and get to know her some more before you compliment her feet.
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I always compliment women with nice feet and just about all of them like it. The only ones who act like bitches about it are basically the snooty spoiled princess types or neurotics and are not worth bothering any further with. Whatever issues or insecurities they have are on their end.
If they can't take a compliment it's their problem not yours.
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As being a new girl working there and someone you haven't had interaction with at all, I agree with climax. There are "anti-feet" women out there who think feet are gross or could easily be weirded out by someone looking at their feet, nevermind complimenting them. Going with the feet compliment may have been too much too soon. I think a safer route to go, if you had your heart set on giving a compliment, would've been to compliment her shoes first, since they, technically, caught your eye. Picking out an accessory like shoes works because, for the most part, guys aren't usually "tuned in" to accessories on a woman, like shoes. Therefore, a woman probably doesn't hear too many comments/compliments from guys about their choice of shoes. As such, giving a somewhat unique compliment will make you stand out from the majority of the guys who come to the salon who are probably too busy staring lustfully at her boobs or ass. If she responded positively to the shoe compliment, you could've then transitioned into complimenting her choice of toenail polish. Again, this is probably not something that most guys tune into, let alone acknowledge, and this plays into your favor because you're noticing something most guys don't, which will make you stand out. Only if she took the toenail polish compliment well and decided to show off her toes and feet by taking her shoes off would I then make any reference towards her feet.
It's all about the level of comfort a woman feels towards a guy that is the factor of how the interaction will go, as well as how far it will go on all levels. If you simply make an unobjective comment or compliment to her without coming off as being needy or having an ulterior motive, the more likely that she will respond positively. Making a comment on her shoes and then possibly getting to a compliment on her feet sets the mind frame for you with the first compliment to not be needy because you're not after her shoes.
Actually, what would even be more effective rather than a compliment, is, if the shoes had a bit of a heel on them, say that the shoes are nice but then accuse her of being really short and her compensating for her height issue by wearing shoes with heels. If the girl is tall, this makes it even more funny because she's obviously wearing the shoes because she likes them or it's more of a fashion statement.
Another way to playfully bust on her would be to say the shoes are nice and then ask if they come in women's sizes. This could actually work very well because then she'll be on a mission to show you that her feet aren't big and she may be compelled to show you right there on the spot by taking the shoes off to show you her feet. If anything, this could possibly let you get an eyeful of her feet up close and you could outwardly look, rather than having to steal furtive glances here and there.
Anyway, this should give you enough verbal fodder to use for the next time this situation presents itself. By the way, welcome to Wu's!
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