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My boyfriend told me at the beginning of our relationship, that he has a foot fetish. He says that he likes my feet, but that he likes to look at other woman's feet also. He wants to fulfill one of his fantasies. He wants to have another woman,to only indulge in her feet, with me there in the room with him, for him it would be the turn on. I don't have a problem with that, because that is a fetish. I'm afraid that he might want more.....
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Well, deadsidestar. If I were you, I would go along with the fantasy; however, if anything more were to try to come of it, step in and tell him to back the f*** up. I believe fantasies should be filled if there is an agreement, but once the agreement is broken you have to step in.
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I'm near the end of my daily rope but feel I should respond to your question.
To be brief: I get the impression that you are fairly young and haven't had many relationships. Putting aside his fetishes, he is testing your boundaries (i.e. how far will you let him go?). It's unlikely that there is a happy ending to this.
If you agree to this, he will be delighted and will be grateful to you for a while (you may find this rewarding, sexually, in the aftermath) but be prepared to experience maddening jealousy. Eventually, he'll want to expand the scene.
If you decline, he might seem to accept your decision, at first, but will be resentful later on and seek satisfaction elsewhere.
I see some opportunities to turn the table but can't elaborate now.
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I'm not young at all. I've been in relationships , but I haven't been with a man that has a foot fetish. He tells me that he wants to do it with me there, that it would be a turn on. I do want to give him that, but I don't think that's enough. We've been discussing it, but to get the feet and toes,he might have to go all the way. He won't mind me having sex with other men as long as he's there with me. For him it's a turn on. He said that he's not going anywhere, that he loves me, and that no other girl has ever offered him this kind of opportunity. I would be the first girl to offer it to him. I don't know what else to say or do.
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I agree. I wouldn't do it. Obviously, he will be getting something sexual from another woman. Even if it is 'just feet'. For me personally, I could not build a solid relationship with someone who was ok with me having sex with someone else and vice versa. I know that some people are different though... but are you? Unless you guys are on the same page about this, you need to keep it just the two of you. If he can't accept that, you need to find someone else who can!
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i know of friends who had similar situations all blow up in their face. this is the kind of scene that seems to only work out if there is no serious relationship going on with the parties involved.
short of swingers.. i don't know anyone who pulls this scene off without disaster striking.
my wife won't ever entertain the idea (though i'm not interested in such)...
though i'm one to think it's ok to give a foot massage to a friend.. i've not made a practice of it.. becausse to me, i'm more one to respect my wife's feelings on the matter (same point of view when I was dating her)
if you opt to go with this scene and things work out for you, please do share this with us next year (as most issues won't surface prior to that on a most optimistic point of view)
personally.. i can't see myself doing something for sexual gratification with any other woman besides my wife. the aftermath is not worth it in anyway shape or form to me!
quote:Originally posted by deadsidestar: My boyfriend told me at the beginning of our relationship, that he has a foot fetish. He says that he likes my feet, but that he likes to look at other woman's feet also. He wants to fulfill one of his fantasies. He wants to have another woman,to only indulge in her feet, with me there in the room with him, for him it would be the turn on. I don't have a problem with that, because that is a fetish. I'm afraid that he might want more.....
What do u think I should do?
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This is confusing. You say you are wondering what to do with your "boyfriend" situation, which I guess means you are purporting to be a female. Yet, in previous posts of yours, you have represented yourself as a male.
Adding to this confusion, a Married male, at that. Such as in this post:
quote:Originally posted by deadsidestar: My boyfriend told me at the beginning of our relationship, that he has a foot fetish. He says that he likes my feet, but that he likes to look at other woman's feet also. He wants to fulfill one of his fantasies. He wants to have another woman,to only indulge in her feet, with me there in the room with him, for him it would be the turn on. I don't have a problem with that, because that is a fetish. I'm afraid that he might want more.....
What do u think I should do?
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This is confusing. You say you are wondering what to do with your "boyfriend" situation, which I guess means you are purporting to be a female. Yet, in previous posts of yours, you have represented yourself as a male.
Adding to this confusion, a Married male, at that. Such as in this post:
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It could be the gf posting on his account... either way, I'm surprised how many people see monogamy as the only "legitimate" relationship! I'll save everyone my rant, suffice it to say that the love in or quality of a relationship does not correlate with the number of partners. No one can predict the net cost to your relationship, or what else makes the relationship valuable; if it's worth it, do it. If not, screw it...
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deadsidestar the only way you can save your relationship is constant footjobs whether it be at work, school, church.. you just cannot let the other women win you must establish your dominance over him by giving him footjobs in other womens presence to let them know "hey listen up ladies hes mine" but what do i know, im a mormon
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