I (23yrold)Have a gf I've been dating for about 3 yrs now. She have known I am into feet since pretty much the beginning, and seemed fine with it. We just recently (a couple of months ago) Started implementing foot play into our sex.
The first foot job was pretty good, I cam all over em. Second time.. sucked! I couldn't keep wood.. It just wouldnt happen for me. so we gave up, and i received a handjob instead. K, now the third time it worked out fine.. blow a load over em. forth 5th and sixth AND SEVENTH time didn't take like the 2nd. Idk WTF guys?
I thought.. maybe I am not as into feet as i thought, But that is NOT THE CASE, when ever I'm out I am on foot watch duty if there is a women with heels or sandals or any open toe shoes anywhere, I will see it. (I got the drooling under raps)
I'll ask my question after I list factors to be considered.
1.my girlfriend has very cute feet (size 7 1/2)great soles.(I'm a sole man)
2.I LOVE feet, love smell, taste, look, feel everything about them!
3. My girlfriend isn't as enthused about pleasing me as .. (not that i expect ever girl to be a pro) porn star, she doesn't seem to be into hand jobs/foot jobs/blow jobs
4.She has offered "Want a foot job?" in the past and I'm like YEAH! BUT she seems very annoyed right off the bat really, & especially when it doesn't seem to take right away, or I am unable to bust a nut.
My theory is the problem is her enthusiasm she isn't into it, seems like it is a shore to her, she doesn't act the part so to speak, no "ooo babies" no smiling. I feel as if she acted like she enjoyed it, or enjoyed my enjoyment I'd be able to get off.
NOW
Why do you think I can't seem to get off with these foot jobs? Have you ever had a similar problem? Advice pls
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Yeah for me a chick has to be into whatever sex act she is performing on me, otherwise I can't cum either. I know 99.9% of women don't truly enjoy it, but there's that small percentage that do or act like they do, and those are keepers
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yep you are right on the enthuisiasm, but wrong on the 99.9% both my previous ex GF loved the foot stuff, especially sucking toes, they ASKED ME TO SUCK THEIR TOES Posts: 123 | Registered: Mar 2005
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Who wants to make the girl they like do chores? You're right....it is her enthusiasm. I think you guys need to have a serious talk. Figure out why she's not enthused when it comes to pleasing you. Are you enthusiastic when pleasing her? Make sure not being a hypocrite.
In my opinion this is serious and how problems in a relationship can really start. My biggest fear is dating a chis like this and not being into sex with her anymore. One day i'm getting hit on...I like it...and oops...this new girl is doing stuff I couldn't pay my real girl to do. Had I manned up and told my girl about how she sucks in bed she would have either improved and then no girl could tempt me, or I would have broken it off. Same thing goes for her. You're the man. Get to the bottom of this....or find a new woman.
It isn't 99.9% that don't get into it. If a chic is really into you she'll be about it 100% of the time.
GQguy
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I have a similar problem, except the roles are switched. :\ My boyfriend has a foot fetish, loves feet, but he won't ever do ANYTHING with my feet. I even tried the foot job thing and he wasn't into it at all. I am all about it and into it, and he's not? I feel where you are coming from, but hey atleast she does it! I would totally talk to her about it, because no one is enjoying themselves if it feels like a chore. I would actually try like doing something for her afterwards or before to get her going. Or maybe even starting her off, not finishing switch it up and then you and finish with her. Maybe if she has something in it for herself she can have that excitement that you are dying to see. If you aren't feeling that then have her touch herself during the foot job, that way if she doesn't get pleasure from foot jobs, she can get pleasure from that.
But GQguy is right, if she's into you, then she should totally get off pleasing you, so maybe the problem goes a little deeper. Maybe she feels that she doesn't get the same from you so she doesn't want to do it for you. No matter what it is, you need to talk it out so you are not just assuming and then creating a bigger problem.
If you would, read over that and let then let us know how exactly these footjobs are being performed. Is it possible she is trying positions that she should be working up to, rather than trying them off the bat? Enthusiasm is certainly good, but it won't be there no matter what kind of "talk" you guys have if she is simply uncomfortable. The key is to focus on techniques that seem less like a chore for now, and as she gets more used to this you can add new positions in.
If you would, read over that and let then let us know how exactly these footjobs are being performed. Is it possible she is trying positions that she should be working up to, rather than trying them off the bat? Enthusiasm is certainly good, but it won't be there no matter what kind of "talk" you guys have if she is simply uncomfortable. The key is to focus on techniques that seem less like a chore for now, and as she gets more used to this you can add new positions in.
Pure awesome!! If I came with an instructional guide....this would be included!
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quote:Originally posted by toesukr22B: yep you are right on the enthuisiasm, but wrong on the 99.9% both my previous ex GF loved the foot stuff, especially sucking toes, they ASKED ME TO SUCK THEIR TOES
That there is fuckin' AWESOME!!
But what happened? They're EXes? Why?!
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quote:Originally posted by ShortLivedTyranny: I have a similar problem, except the roles are switched. :\ My boyfriend has a foot fetish, loves feet, but he won't ever do ANYTHING with my feet. I even tried the foot job thing and he wasn't into it at all. I am all about it and into it, and he's not? I feel where you are coming from, but hey atleast she does it! I would totally talk to her about it, because no one is enjoying themselves if it feels like a chore. I would actually try like doing something for her afterwards or before to get her going. Or maybe even starting her off, not finishing switch it up and then you and finish with her. Maybe if she has something in it for herself she can have that excitement that you are dying to see. If you aren't feeling that then have her touch herself during the foot job, that way if she doesn't get pleasure from foot jobs, she can get pleasure from that.
But GQguy is right, if she's into you, then she should totally get off pleasing you, so maybe the problem goes a little deeper. Maybe she feels that she doesn't get the same from you so she doesn't want to do it for you. No matter what it is, you need to talk it out so you are not just assuming and then creating a bigger problem.
Good Luck!
After seeing how pretty you are, seeing how sexy your feet are,seeing the sexy vids and pics you've posted here- I have to say that I'm pretty unconvinced that your boyfriend even has a foot fetish at all. I think you would see dramatically different reactions from most of us around here!!!
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by xyzhousexyz: My theory is the problem is her enthusiasm she isn't into it, seems like it is a chore to her, she doesn't act the part so to speak, no "ooo babies" no smiling. I feel as if she acted like she enjoyed it, or enjoyed my enjoyment I'd be able to get off.[\quote] Sure sounds like all the elements except enthusiasm are there- so I'd say that's it. I guess it bothers some guys more than others.
I'm the same way- the wife has offered or performed various sex acts on me when she's not been enthused at all and it's been a total downer for me. I appreciate the offer and/or effort, but it just doesn't work unless she's into it too.
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If she's not into it, it makes it harder to enjoy it. You have to find a way to get her to enjoy it. I too have had this problem before. Usually, it can be fixed by talking to her. If that doesn't work, you can always trying to imagine it's someone else doing it.
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what i've learned this year... two things... 1-pressure kills the mood. trying to force the performance in anyway kills wood fast!!! 2- if you pressure her to perform for your needs and she gets nothing out of it (doing a footjob as my wife says is all performance and work with very little in-the-moment-rewards) then she won't be in the mood and it will kill your wood.
not everyone will want to partake in your kind (your being generic here).. when you make the event about her, in time, it translates to more enthusiasm and more excitement for you.
the fact she's willing to participate is a huge plus for you. she could just say flat out no thanks.
my only tip for you... don't make the FJ the focus of the event. move it to some other point inside the love making (after a good dialogue about this of course). that way, she knows she's getting her needs met before and after your needs are being met (FJ wise). this may prove very helpful.. i hope. i know that with me, wifey is not into FJ.. too much work. (to date, I only got one and it's not been much worth writting about here). but.. mixing her needs into what I like has revolutionized our love life and I'm happy and so is she (even though i highly doubt there will be a second attempt at a FJ)
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