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Originally posted by 5thgear:
11 years? You have self control my friend. I’m at the point where I find it hard to resist coming out on the first date.

I’d go for it if I were you. There’s a chance that she already knows.

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Yeah, it’s been a real tough stretch. That’s why I feel like I’m at the tipping point now. We’ll see how it goes. I’ll probably try something playful to break the ice and see how receptive she is.
 

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Posted by Foot_Worshipee (Member # 50934) on :
 
With my boyfriend, I just guessed about his foot fetish, and came right out and asked him if he had one. He admitted that he did. We weren't even intimate yet, or really even officially dating. We met at the gym, and just talked a lot. He mentioned one too many times a comment like how a perfect night for him would be sitting on the couch, watching a movie, with his woman's feet in his lap, while he massaged them.

I was intrigued. I had never been in a relationship with anyone with a foot fetish, and didn't know a whole lot about it. I was very attracted to my boyfriend, liked him a lot, and really wanted to learn more about it because I wanted to make him happy. So, I asked him what he likes, and read on forums like this one, which opened our discussion and experiences even more.

My point is, I think she would like to know more about something that pleases you. This is an experience that can be pleasurable for both of you. Once people can get past the "eww" factor put on feet, unfairly, it can be a wonderful thing. I get turned on simply by seeing how into it he is. And, a big plus, it feels wonderful having my feet massaged, licked, I love having my toes sucked. It's actually a very erotic experience for both of us. It's a huge plus that she is already into you massaging her feet, because I know some women are self-conscious of their feet and are not comfortable having their feet touched at all.

Just let her know. Try kissing her feet one time while you are massaging them and see how she reacts. Let her know how much you like it. She should relax if she knows this is something you enjoy. If she does let herself relax, and enjoy it, she is likely to find out this is an incredibly erotic experience for her as well. That's why I call myself Foot-worshippee. I love the experience, and I say I have a reverse foot fetish. I love having my feet done!

Good luck! Keep us posted!
 

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Posted by RexRyan29 (Member # 50140) on :
 
I could be wrong but I feel like at 11 yrs in it really couldn’t do any damage to relationship. Even if she is not totally comfortable with it do you think at this stage she would look at you differently? Also if she’s not at least you got it off your chest and it’s out in the open and your not actively trying to hide it anymore. I think just going for it is the best way right now. Good luck which ever way you go with it and be sure to keep us posted hopefully with great news.
 

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Posted by coryr (Member # 49869) on :
 
She would probably want to know, actually. I feel like if you've been married that long she'd want to at least know the full extent of what you're into. I don't know exactly how you tell her though, but since you've been married so long I bet she'd be accepting.

My confession experiences have all been pretty different so I don't know the exact way to go, but you've been married for 11 years--I'd probably just tell her.
 

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Posted by AceCorr (Member # 37554) on :
 
What's been keeping you from telling her in the 1st place? What's holding you back. Why didn't you even mention this when the two of you were dating? Did you just acquire a foot fetish? Most men would reveal it very early on in the dating process.

Could you please further elaborate on the details so we can help give you advice?
 

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Posted by Clever_username (Member # 51702) on :
 
I really appreciate everyone’s advice, I think it’s made me much more confident in just opening up to her about it very soon.

AceCorr, to your point - I’ve always had a foot fetish & in the women I was with prior, I would get it out of the way early on and they either were into it or simply said they were indifferent, but never grossed out (which was a relief). With my wife, for some reason I didn’t follow the same pattern and before I knew it, the relationship got serious enough that it felt like I missed my opportunity, because if I opened up at a point after a year or two and she hated the idea, I felt like I could lose something great. But who knows, after this much time I’m hoping she’ll be excited about an aspect of me that would indulge in a part of her body she already likes to pamper.
 

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Posted by Ella Ford (Member # 49716) on :
 
Every woman wants to feel adored, so knowing that your life partner is highly aroused by a part of your body can only be a good thing, I think.

Presumably you'd have no problem telling her that her boobs turned you on? Or her ass? Or her legs? Why are feet different? Perhaps because society tells us its weird to like this body part?

Really though, it's about making her a part of it. "What's in it for her?" is a question you might ask yourself. If you limit your revealed fetish to sneaking sniffs of her old shoes, then she might be justified in thinking it's a bit weird.

On the other hand, if you pamper her pretty feet with massages, compliments, pedicures, lavish her with beautiful shoes or foot jewellery, send her to the moon and back by sucking her toes while you're fucking her hard... then, she might be a little more indulgent
 

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Posted by Little feet lover (Member # 46410) on :
 
Though it has passed 11 years, it’s never too late to tell your wife. I don’t know how you waited so long. Usually, I have a hard time not revealing my fetish during the first date. Starting off by how I find well kept feet very attractive, and telling them how I find girls who take good care of their feet attractive because it is one part of our body that most choose to ignore and not taking good care of them. Saying something that is mild but to the point has always worked for me.
I think your wife will react just like most girls would. Girls love being adored and pampered. Maybe when you reveal how sexy her feet are and how much of a turn on they are for you, I bet you will notice her taking more care of her feet. Maybe she won’t let you worship them right away, but I think if you start off by massaging her feet and give little kisses, it would not make her feel weirded out. I mean she is your wife. I think she will be pleasantly surprised and will love the fact that you have been fantasizing and adoring her feet.
 

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Posted by dougiezerts (Member # 6829) on :
 
If you confess to her, and she's unsympathetic after being with with you for 11 years, than you're better off without her!
Are those her feet, by the way? They're nice!
 

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Posted by LeDaemon (Member # 198) on :
 
I can't relate to your predicament you have created for yourself. For me its been the first time I am intimate with a woman I pretty much include her feet in the mix. There's another member here on Wu's that was married for over 20 years before he told his wife. When he finally did guess what happened... She didn't care and let him have her feet freely. That was a lot of lost time and I'm sure sexual frustration on his part for never getting satisfaction for decades.

If I was in your position I would probably just incorporate her feet into sex the next time you are primed to go without any kind of discussion. If she is already turned on she will more than likely not turn you down if her toes somehow find their way into your mouth.

The way I see it is you've been dishonest with her and yourself keeping something as mild as a foot fetish secret. Go for it and report back.
 

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Posted by longhitter04 (Member # 2391) on :
 
First off, like the others, I am beyond shocked at how you have gone 11 years with your wife and have not fully explored each other yet.

That said, it's time for you to stop denying yourself. Life is too short to be passive about the things that you want in the bedroom. You need to rectify this now. If you wait any longer, you'll start to become so frustrated that you'll start to resent your wife. This is not healthy for either you, your wife or your marriage. Luckily, you can still make things right.

First of all, you have nothing to confess, admit to or reveal. That would imply that you have done or about to do something wrong. You should view it as sharing a sexual desire with your wife. I realize it's semantics, but it's all about perception. Perception drives reality.

It sounds like you have some anxiety over sharing this with her. Don't. She already loves you. Nothing bad will happen and I'm sure she won't be put off by it. She may be confused about at worst, but that's perfectly normal.

You know your wife better than anybody. You know how to talk to her and how to interact with her. It's easy for the guys here to offer advice on how to approach the topic, but take that advice with a grain of salt. You are a grown man having an adult conversation with his wife.

To me it sounds like you just need some confidence and a swift kick in the pants. Don't live your life so passively. It is too short to deny yourself. You have a lot of lost time to make up for. View this as an exciting opportunity for yourself. A chance for a new beginning to a more fulfilled sexual life.

Again, don't wait another minute.
 

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Posted by Clever_username (Member # 51702) on :
 
I think you all have coached me up to a point where I’m going to just go ahead do it this weekend. I even came pretty close to getting it over with last night when she asked me to join her on the sofa and rub her feet to keep them warm on a cold Florida night (of 60 degrees). I was playfully putting my mouth against the socks on her feet to “warm them up”, and she was enjoying that. I was rock hard the whole time and feel like she had to put 2 and 2 together. We’ll see how it all works out very soon...
 

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Posted by Ella Ford (Member # 49716) on :
 
I suspect the answer to your revelation will be "Well, duh!"

Good luck! A life of awesome sexual fulfilment and footwear expense awaits you!
 

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Posted by AceCorr (Member # 37554) on :
 
I really can't believe how you waited so long. You got to get her to watch the "Bad Ass Becky Show" on YouTube. She explains in detail why a foot fetish is a blessing. If you do research and watch all of Becky's vids it should give you enough confidence to pursue what you want. I still can't believe you waited this long. Hell! She might be wanting it the entire time and just waiting for you to make the first move!

If she still can't be convinced after consolation, sorry to say bro you might just have to foot cheat on her. Go and watch the Bad Ass Becky Show on YouTube under all her posted vids and that should give you all the ammo you need to approach your wife. Life is short, you can't wait another week.
 

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Posted by Sighfeet (Member # 49758) on :
 
on our first or second date i was lying next to her barefeet and decided right there, im gonna risk it all and come clean about my fetish for her feet. That was about 15 years ago.

tonight she's going to let me worship her sweaty feet all night, even when she goes to sleep i get some sleepy feet.. i get to 100% live my ultimate fantasy any time i want.

It was so worth telling her.
 

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Posted by John Jones (Member # 50531) on :
 
My wife figured out my foot fetish after I kept sticking her sexy feet in my face during sex. She's cool with my taking pics of her feet and enjoys getting her feet pampered. You should be open with your wife about what you want in the bedroom. Be respectful about her needs and wants and you'll be surprised.
 

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Posted by footexhibit (Member # 1664) on :
 
I hope it all works out for you man, I could never imagine being in a relationship without the female knowing. My passion for pretty female feet is too strong to hide. Best of luck and hopefully your wife will enjoy it!
 

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Posted by coryr (Member # 49869) on :
 
Any update on this?
 

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Posted by Little feet lover (Member # 46410) on :
 
Waiting for an update. It is still a shock to me how some of us are still shameful of our love for feet. I usually couldn’t wait to bring it up, and as soon as what do you like/ what do you seek in a girl type of conversation started on our first date (*maybe even before if we had some alone time), I made sure to bring feet into the conversation. I would start by saying how I like long, straight hair, someone who is fit but not muscular, and such. Then I would always bring up how I find girls who take nice care of their feet sexy and attractive because it’s one part our bodies that can easily get neglected. Some would say things like, “Why feet?”, but almost always after the initial conversation and seeing them again for more dates, I would see the girls wearing the polish colors that I mentioned I liked. I am just saying that every girl wants to be adored. Even if having her feet adored wasn’t in her mind initially if they have interest in you, they would be happy to fulfill your desires. Most, if not all, love seeing their guy go head over heels for them, even if it’s their feet because they love being adored. That has been my expereince, and Your wife shouldn’t be any different.
I sincerely hope you have made some great progress with your wife. After all, you are showing love. I have no doubt she’d go along with it. Maybe she’d even love It and spice up your sex life even more.

[ January 17, 2018, 06:54 AM: Message edited by: Little feet lover ]
 

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Posted by Clever_username (Member # 51702) on :
 
So I still haven’t talked about in conversation with her. Seems hard to break the ice to just talk about it, so I just decided to physically test the waters a bit when we had sex last week to gauge her reaction. When she had her legs up on my shoulders, I just started kissing her ankles like I’ve done before, then this time I went further and licked the outside edge of her sole a bit before teasing her pinky toe with my tongue. She moaned as if she liked it, so I started sucking on her two smallest toes for a minute before we changed position. She didn’t mention anything about it afterward, which I know she would’ve if she didn’t like it at all, so I think I’m going for it again this week. I feel like I’ll probably try to be more vocal this time, maybe asking her if she likes it & tell her how much they turn me on. My gut feeling now is that she is ok with me playing with her feet like that, but I know I’ll have to talk with her to find out what her limits might be. I do regret not just clearing the air about it when we first met like I did with other women, but if we’re on the same page moving forward, I’ll definitely be making up for lost time.
 

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Posted by footfunk305 (Member # 50227) on :
 
I don't know how you did this through dating and marriage. I don't tell women that I have a foot fetish from the beginning. But I always mention "rubbing their feet" in begininng. That way you can tell if they at least like their feet touched.

I could never date or marry a woman that won't let me play with their feet. I did it once and never again. We actually broke up because I couldn't suck her toes. ha ha

My suggestion is you don't say anything. In my experience talking about foot fetish to women were negative. Seems like they automatically get freaked out. Next you massage your wife's feet just suck her toes. It's not like you are some stranger. Just see what her response is.
 

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Posted by coryr (Member # 49869) on :
 
Sounds to me like everything is going to work out just fine
 

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Posted by stlgamer1 (Member # 50518) on :
 
I'm sorry, I can't offer any advice. I told me wife, on our second date. She then told me that it "was cute" and slipped off her heels and shoved her soles in my face to smell. (True story)
 

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Posted by ANGFXQUEEN (Member # 51792) on :
 
when you're having sex you could just take her feet and put them in a footjob position, gently massaging your penis, you don't even need to tell her that you like her feet, make it seem natural, and you can reveal, discuss this topic afterwards...
 

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Posted by aerodrew (Member # 2682) on :
 
wow man... that would be like me trying to hide that I like to watch football on Sunday.
 

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Posted by blkk73 (Member # 38345) on :
 
rex Ryan is right. after 11 yrs my friend you should have no reservations revealing your foot fetish to your wife. Its healthy and you shouldbt be ashamed to tell her how attractive her feet are to you. Been with mynwife 20 years..She knew abt my fetish 2 months after dating when i was 18 yrs old. She thought it was awkawrd..but after the attention she got from flaunting them to me there were alot of good sexual episodes she got to enjoy. Dont be ashamed in front of your wife!
 

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Posted by blkk73 (Member # 38345) on :
 
which foot fetish scenes were yku referring to btw? lol
 

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Posted by Doc Ock (Member # 46755) on :
 
11 years...wow.
 

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Posted by Polar (Member # 47954) on :
 
I waited a few years, then eased into it. Now I get a text " what do you feel like for dinner?" I reply with " your toes, my mouth"
 

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Posted by Clever_username (Member # 51702) on :
 
I just wanted to post an update for this thread because I really owe a thank you to everyone that encouraged me and made me feel confident to end up coming clean to my wife about my fetish. After subtly testing the waters a while back, I did just bring it up in conversation which started with the “I hate my feet though” response. I complimented and talked about their beauty to me and it broke the ice a good deal to where I openly had a toe sucking session. This was pretty well received because it “felt really good” and now has become part of our lifestyle. I’ve had a few foot jobs, I get asked what color polish when she gets pedicures, I get foot pics from her when I’m at work. I’m definitely dumb for not saying something sooner, but at least I’m here now and loving every second of it. Thanks again for giving me the push I needed.
 

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