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well said Patrick and let me add that a guy being attracted to your wife or even her being attracted to a guy is perfectly natural and if you think she isnt attracted to anyone but you.. well ummm.. sorry to break it to you. try to wrap your head around the fact that her physical attraction is the a fraction of the emotional attraction she has for you (i hope). as i've shared many times, my wife and i are swingers and i have seen her with other guys, we're very happy with each other, have a very active sex life (with each other), and will be celebrating our 9th wedding anniversary in may. that said, i dont necessarily get off on seeing her with another guy but it doesnt make jealous either... but the one thing that i am iffy on is seeing another guy play with her feet. she said she is up for it if some guy wanted it.. as long as it was part of the whole swapping thing, but not into it just for that.
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This is a long-standing fantasy of mine. Particularly to share my wife's feet with a younger guy. When she's been out with girlfriends or by herself, she's told me of two occasions when her feet have been complimented by other guys. I'd love to have been a fly on the wall then!
I recently told her about this fantasy and I think she's coming around to the point where she might try it. One thing we both agree on is that the interaction be restricted to foot worship and a footjob, nothing more...
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I did date a girl who I had told that I'd like to see her have sex with black men. She was very sexually inexperienced and we never did do that. But one day when we went to one of her friend's college parties, she was a little tipsy and was barefoot. She was sitting on the floor with me, between my legs. I was rubbing her shoulders a little and she just blurted out that her feet sure could use a massage and put them in this other guy's lap. He rubbed them too. I don't think he knew I was her boyfriend as she really didn't know him. She twisted her head around a little and said, "turning you on any?" I said it was. A few minutes later I saw her foot press into his crotch a little. She turned again and said "I think I got it hard." I was no good. Nothing happened with her and him, but we did have some really hot foreplay and sex later on.
quote:Originally posted by jkluvsfeet1984: So... I'm not looking for validation (that I'm aware of). It's just hot to me. And Patrick has a great point: you wouldn't be up on your "respect" soap box if the tables were turned. Need I remind you we're on a fetish porn site forum? Let's keep the morality judgements to a minimum, yeah? I love and respect my wife and I don't need to qualify that to anyone.
As long as your wife is comfortable with it, you two can do whatever you want.
But don't use the fetish website thing as an excuse for lack of morality. It doesn't matter where people are, if they do something that is improper in some way, they're going to--and should--get called out on it.
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I find it interesting that guys are into this.. and cool. Im of the 'animal jeaousy' type right now, although its easing a little as the months go by and Ive been with this girl for awhile, and Im inexperienced with relationships. I see nothing morally wrong with it whatsoever between two consenting adults that are happy together of course, to each his/her own. If you have 'outside the norm' sexual desires, even some that may be less fitting for a monogamous relationship, I think its amazing that people meet the perfect mate and match as far as their desires are concerned and lead very happy lives together.
Who knows where Ill be down the road, I JUST now, after a year with my girlfriend started to get turned on and masturbate to other girls' feet again, and I feel a lot healthier and happier allowing feeling a real attraction to a variety of girls and feet, much healthier than ONLY ever thinking sexually about one girl... you guys dont have to be tormented with jealousy like a lot of men if you not only fully accept yours and your wifes' attraction to others, but enjoy and fulfill it.
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i have been involved in this for some years now (being the stranger getting to have fun with a wife or gf). whether it was foot worship or sex it was quite an experience. the guys didnt participate they just loved to watch i guess.
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quote:Originally posted by jkluvsfeet1984: Am I the only one who thinks this fantasy is hot?
Absolutely not- I'm a member of that club as well, though it will only be an arousing fantasy for me. My wife would never go for it.
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I'm with Patrick on this one to each his own we are all consenting adults. Its up to the couple and thats that.
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Not to hate on anyone, but once the woman's married it's all look and no touch. Guy who married her has to deal with the same thing. "Onegina" I believe this is a word I heard from Russell Peters, comedian.
But that's the way I think of it. When you make that commitment, you belong to each other, forever. Other people are nothing but something nice to look at here and there, but why get MARRIED if you're wanting to go around the block, or have her go around the block for you? Just seems silly to me.
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quote:But don't use the fetish website thing as an excuse for lack of morality
whoa! i dont remember naming you as one who was to make rules on what's moral or not. what makes it immoral? by my definition, nothing is immoral unless it is hurting someone in a non-consensual manner. as many people have said, if its among consenting adults, how can it be immoral? it's improper?? unlike peeking at girl's feet and jacking off to it later, right? that's proper, right? how about you get off your high horse and stop thinking you have the right to judge anyone?
quote:When you make that commitment, you belong to each other, forever. Other people are nothing but something nice to look at here and there, but why get MARRIED if you're wanting to go around the block, or have her go around the block for you?
you belong to each other?? since when is my wife my property or i, hers? i thought marriage was based on an emotional bond that was deeper and more important than sex. if the both of you are secure enough and mature enough to realize that physical attraction towards other people is always going to be present and you can be even more secure and mature enough to fulfill those desires, why not? when i am with another woman, its fun and hot.. but when i am with my wife, its fun, hot, and i FEEL something.
bah.. why am i bothering. yet another instance on this board where close minded people feel that they have the right to judge others.
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Ive always thought it was strange for us to take strong positions with morality in sexual matters that are anything other than 'between two consenting adults is cool' and to each his/her own. Honestly, slick guys getting unsuspecting girls' feet to rub and worship in a club, with the girl maybe not being totally clear on whats going on? Checking out girls flexing and stretching their feet and kicking off their shoes to relax with a massive boner and in some cases even a cell phone camera, videocamera or camcorder??
Those are even the shaky lines that some of us dance on but Im betting some of your pals in the 'setting the moral bar and definition for marraige' club would quickly include getting off to a woman's feet without even being presented with the scenarios above in the 'morally wrong' category. I think we're all extremely lucky to have desires that we need a larger than normal amount of confidence and courage to be open about, pushing us to re-examine traditional views on what marraige and sexuality 'should' be, and giving us the wisdom to discard a lot of unnecessary and (in reality) illogical views that come from older morality systems that seem to have little to do with the actual happiness and well-being of people.
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quote:Originally posted by jkluvsfeet1984: So... I'm not looking for validation (that I'm aware of). It's just hot to me. And Patrick has a great point: you wouldn't be up on your "respect" soap box if the tables were turned. Need I remind you we're on a fetish porn site forum? Let's keep the morality judgements to a minimum, yeah? I love and respect my wife and I don't need to qualify that to anyone.
As long as your wife is comfortable with it, you two can do whatever you want.
But don't use the fetish website thing as an excuse for lack of morality. It doesn't matter where people are, if they do something that is improper in some way, they're going to--and should--get called out on it.
And who are you to call anybody out due to "lack of morality". Why are you in an enlightened moral position?
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Oh wow. Looks like I pissed off a few people.
First of all, I said that whatever two consenting people do between each other is their own business. Try reading that next time.
Second, I was referring to not this whole "sharing your wife" stuff (I still don't like it, don't get me wrong), but other amoral stuff that I've seen around here (that I've seen some people try to defend, using the whole "high horse" argument). Like taking advantage of unsuspecting women and that jazz. Being on a site like this does not mean that one cannot call out that kind of behavior (and we've seen people coming here to brag about stuff like that) whenever we see it. But hey, since we're on a fetish site, we have to look the other way? I don't think so.
I'm not going to post my honest opinion over this subject, because it seems that my comments thus far have already struck a few nerves.
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try to wrap your head around the fact that her physical attraction is the a fraction of the emotional attraction she has for you (i hope). as i've shared many times, my wife and i are swingers and i have seen her with other guys, we're very happy with each other, have a very active sex life (with each other), and will be celebrating our 9th wedding anniversary in may. that said, i dont necessarily get off on seeing her with another guy but it doesnt make jealous either... but the one thing that i am iffy on is seeing another guy play with her feet. she said she is up for it if some guy wanted it.. as long as it was part of the whole swapping thing, but not into it just for that.
