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When revealing your foot fetish to someone and they don't take it so well, perhaps trashing it or degrading it, what is the first ace up your sleeve to counterract what that person might say?
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I don't defend it at all. I simply say that fetishism is something that is not fully understood, that I cannot explain how mine came to be, that I have had it virtually as long as I can remember, and that I have decided that I can no longer go on trying to fight or suppress it. Having it is not something I enjoy; it is actually troublesome at times, but being able to indulge in it makes me (and, frequently, another person) feel pleasure and arousal, and that is something I do enjoy. I have never been in the position to have to defend it. I do not openly "advertise" it, and have only told, in clear verbiage, one close person (my wife.) Others, I have let figure it out based on my actions and desires. For the most part, they have reacted with confusion and/or curiousity, never hostility. Looking for someone to "practice confessing" to? I suggest strippers; they have seen it all, and are unlikely to trash-talk a tipping customer. Most become quite intrigued; I've had several let me indulge solely (pun intended) out of this intrigue, some letting me kiss and lick their feet, and even one walking on me in her heels, making me kiss her feet and shoes from above..
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well in the past year or so,i have had to defend it if you will more than a few times. All thanks to the wonderful "Google" search bar.I used it to search for random things to do with feet(FJ's,models,etc)and one day my friends needed to use my comp so I let them while I went out to get some food.Thinking that my tracks were cleared I didnt care who used it,well to my surprise the google bar keeps a history of searched items...so ya..when I came back they all started saying there feet hurt that kind of stuff..i was like WTF...then it hit me. Later that night it was brought up by someone and since I was drinking I was a bit more gutsy...by saying "Did you ever fuck a nice pair of peds?"...man can I silence a room! ...they got the hint that I didnt want to talk about it and never was brought up again...other than little digs but oh well...could be worse. But through this forum I have gained a tremendous amount of experience and now am no longer ashamed of it...not that I hold a sign up or anything.But to each his effing own!
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I haven't really had to defend it, but mostly because the people who are "degrading" it simply aren't worth my time and effort to debate with. Usually though, if I've had to defend it, I always counter with the fact that people out there get turned on by Golden Showers, dressing up as babies, being completely dominated, or inflicting pain on others, therefore, my little fetish is on the very mild end of things. When they say "Yeah, but feet are dirty", I say, "Yeah, and so are asses, but people find that totally acceptable anyway."
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i would just say god made woman to be beautiful ALL OVER... and if they cant see that they are an idiot.
secondly id say its not what you like, but whether or not you get what you like
3rd...if they say feet are gross i'd say asses are made for shitting, so whats so great about that?? the way i see it, feet aren't that gross especially when shit doesnt come out of them...fuckin blokes
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I would not say I've had to defend my fetish. I usually have to explain why I find feet attractive. I explain that I'm attracted to the curves and over shapes of the foot like the attraction to the curves and lines of whole female body. I like the arch in the back like arches in a female foot.....the plumpness of the toes like a plump rear end....and so on.
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I've never really been in a position where I had to defend myself because I like women's feet. There have been a few situations where I've been around one or two people that were of the "anti-feet" stance (i.e. "Yuck! Feet are gross!", etc.) but I never go on a crusade to try and change the minds of people. I know they're expressing how they feel, rather than directing their comments towards me or what I like as a person.
Probably the closest I came to having to "defend" myself happened when I lived at a guy's house for a few years. We were, and still are, good friends. Because of that, he and I shared his computer. After I moved in, I went months only looking at foot websites and then deleting the history of the web browser, clearing out the temporary folder, etc.. One day, I slipped up and accidently saved a pic onto the hard drive and totally forgot to go back in and get rid of it. A couple of weeks later, we were hanging out and then, out of the clear blue, he said, "So,... you like feet, huh?" I tried to play dumb at first but he then told me about finding the pic on his hard drive and I knew I was busted. Since he had his own cache of stored pictures and movies of various things he was into on his hard drive, he knew better than to voice his personal feelings about what he thought of my fetish. He then told me there would be no problems if I wanted to store my stuff in an area on the hard drive of his computer if I wanted to and I eventually ended up doing just that. He isn't one of those guys who was really able to "get" the whole foot thing, as I later found out. He eventually started going out with a woman who, ironically enough, loved having her feet massaged, her toes sucked and played with, etc.. This woman, as time went on (and the relationship between her and the guy I knew soured) had a suspicion that I was into women's feet and really wanted to find out if I was after a time. She eventually did find out, but that's a whole other story.
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ask them how do they stick their mouth on another person's genitals if it's so gross
how do they stick their toungue in another person's mouth even
there are far more "dirty" places than feet
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Luckily I haven't had to defend my fetish, but sometimes a brief explanation is needed.
I tell them the truth, that I happen to like feet and there's nothing I can do to change that even if I wanted to.
I don't have a choice to have a fetish or not. I do have the choice to either accept and enjoy it or deny it...and you can probably guess which one I'm choosing.
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i usually just let myself get made fun of about it rather then defend myself. mostly because i'm not a fighter and i'm a little bit of a wuss
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Heh. Months ago an attractive female co-worker who I'd been friendly with was walking by and asked "Why are you looking at my feet?" with a smile -- loud enough for customers to hear. Later I simply asked her where she'd gotten her shoes from, acting like I was really curious. Think she fell for it.
It'll be a while before I look down while working again.
quote:Originally posted by bluetoelover: well to my surprise the google bar keeps a history of searched items...
This is why I always clear my search history these days after coming certain places.
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if you have to be on the defensive its already too much effort ! try to find females who are sexually open/mature that way it shouldnt be a problem. Posts: 1751 | Registered: Aug 2002
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...they got the hint that I didnt want to talk about it and never was brought up again...other than little digs but oh well...could be worse.![[Eek!]](eek.gif)
Later I simply asked her where she'd gotten her shoes from, acting like I was really curious. Think she fell for it.![[Smile]](smile.gif)
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