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Dan has a rather large following as a love columnist among a certain demographic and I know many people, especially young women, who take his word as gospel to a certain extent. This article is very good for the Foot community.
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Nice find. Dan wrote an article several years ago telling a writer that her bad karma from ditching a foot guy would probably land her a husband that didn't admit to necrophilia until after marriage... funny dude!
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"...if she can indulge your fetish—happily and regularly—and take some pleasure in giving you pleasure, she might be “the one.” If she can’t or won’t, she obviously isn’t."
Superb!
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quote:Originally posted by archadmirer: Nice find. Dan wrote an article several years ago telling a writer that her bad karma from ditching a foot guy would probably land her a husband that didn't admit to necrophilia until after marriage... funny dude!
That was a great article too.
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Excellent response from Dan. I wish I had read something like before I got married. It might have encouraged me to tell my fiance' about my fetish. Then I could have enjoyed her feet our entire married life instead of waiting 23 years.
The point that stood out to me, because I'm monogamous was: "Finally, SFF, don’t let the girlfriend—or anyone else—tell you that you’re threatening to end this relationship over something trivial. Sexual fulfillment is important, particularly if your relationship is exclusive. And the “triviality” of your kink cuts both ways: If your kink is so trivial, why not just indulge you, then? And in a long-term relationship—or a marriage—one partner’s sexual selfishness and another’s sexual frustration rarely prove trivial over the long haul. They’re more often grounds for divorce." Great point.
I've hoped and wished for many years (since I divulged my FF to my wife) that she would allow me to use it as an outlet for enjoyment for myself because her sex drive is so much lower than mine. Unfortunately for the most part she's just not into pleasing me unles it involves both of us. It's either both of us- or none of us. Occasionally, especially on mornings that I'm horny, while laying on her stomach she'll let me uncover her legs and feet and cum on her soles. But there's not much involvement or feedback from her. Still it's better than nothing.
She's always been very sensitive about feeling that things are being "done TO her rather than WITH her". While I try, it's hard to understand. I just have the same feeling that this guy has- that she doesn't want to make me happy.
Maybe it's because I'm a guy- but I know I could get her off everyday if SHE wanted it, even if I didn't want sex or mutual masturbation, and be totally involved- interacting, encouraging, teasing, etc.
Anyway, great article that spoke to me. Sure wish I could get the wife to read it.
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He really is defending a big part of the fetish community, not just us Foot Guys. In any case, he re-iterates what I've always believed.
Good find.
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It took me a second to figure out who Dan Savage is...I've read his article in a local paper called "Metrotimes" all the time and I find it to be hilarious..He is nuts and Foot guys are nothing compared to some of the stuff he has to hear people talk about...
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