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At the risk of sounding like a wizened old codger:
When I first saw the phrase, "Welcome to the Friendzone", I knew exactly what it meant. Heaven knows, I've been stuck in that nebulous region many times over the years. I have had some happy endings that resulted but the vast majority, in retrospect, were a hideous waste of time, effort, and emotion.
Your situation does offer some optimism; certainly, you should keep your lines of communication open. You should not, however, waste your time waiting for her to make any kind of decision.
The Summer is at hand and there are so many other opportunities that will be coming up. Please, pursue these - and actively seek others - while you await her uncertain verdict.
While we all err in the appropriate timing of our self-revelations, I would say yours was a bit premature. The longer you take to demonstrate that you are a regular guy the more comfortable she will be with your quirks/fetishes.
But I go on too long.
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Toetapper, I see your point, and thank you. I'm not fixated on her. I just like her. Also, this is the first time I've ever confessed my foot fetish to a girl in r/l before being physically active with her otherwise.
Thanks, Turm. I will take what you guys said under advisement.
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Personally the only ones I let in on my foot fetish are the women I'm sleeping with. As far as I'm concerned it really doesn't involve anyone else so why bring it up to anyone else?
It's cool that you two have talked about it and you know she's cool with it. I think it makes far more sense to bring it up before things get serious that way you don't waste a lot of time and get emotionally attached with someone who isn't a good match for you.
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The only reason we aren't serious yet is that she's balking. I know she likes me, but just doesn't want to take "That step". Hopefully, that will change soon.
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quote:Originally posted by houseshooz: Personally the only ones I let in on my foot fetish are the women I'm sleeping with. As far as I'm concerned it really doesn't involve anyone else so why bring it up to anyone else?
It's cool that you two have talked about it and you know she's cool with it. I think it makes far more sense to bring it up before things get serious that way you don't waste a lot of time and get emotionally attached with someone who isn't a good match for you.
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I think part of it is all how comfortable you are in admitting you have a fetish. For example, I've been seeing this girl the past week, not like dating, but merely hanging out and it wasn't until just the past couple of days that we started getting flirty and physical. She was actually the one who asked me if I had a foot fetish when she noticed I'd keep kissing her legs and feet. I asked if she thought it was peculiar, but not in a skiddish ashamed sort of way, more in a teasing matter, to which she admitted she actually enjoyed it. Saved me the trouble of having to initiate having to admit it myself Posts: 8 | Registered: May 2009
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I should also point out something.. that's not exactly on the topic of "feet", but indicates my situation with her.
She's asked me very personal/sexual questions, and told me personal and sexual things about herself, that are far more daring than "feet".
My true feeling: She likes me as a person, and even though she trusts me, she's either afraid to get involved, for fear of getting hurt. Or.. she just doesn't want to be tied down, as she likes her independence.
I don't plan to stay fixated on this girl. I will see her whenever it happens, and keep my eyes open. If something happens with her, fine. If not, I'll keep looking. That's about all I can do.
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I don't understand why you use the word "confess". Do you "confess" to a girl that you prefer ass to breasts? Do you "confess" to a girl that you enjoy doggy position?
It's a stupid word associated with shame and regret and shouldn't belong in any sentence related to foot fetishism.
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Sol, while I see your point.. many "vanilla people who aren't into feet or fetishes, don't understand people with foot fetishes. Feet are often thought of as ugly, smelly, etc, to those who don't like them, and many people are often like OMG gross, feet.
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