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Mike, then you need to end that relationship. If you don't want to pay a chick for her feet, then you need to start a new relationship; but you can't be honest with a new girl and still be in your current relationship.
Or, I guess you could slip off to a night club and hope to get lucky, but then you would be being dishonest to the lady you are shacked up with.
Have at it, Dude, but even a teenager should be able to make up his mind being in your same situation. I'm starting to think that you are either immature or a troll.
quote:Originally posted by aka.footjoyboy: Mike, then you need to end that relationship. If you don't want to pay a chick for her feet, then you need to start a new relationship; but you can't be honest with a new girl and still be in your current relationship.
Or, I guess you could slip off to a night club and hope to get lucky, but then you would be being dishonest to the lady you are shacked up with.
Have at it, Dude, but even a teenager should be able to make up his mind being in your same situation. I'm starting to think that you are either immature or a troll.
I sometimes wonder that too about users that seek advice. They receive a myriad of responses from users, often times containing good and pragmatic advice, but they seem to dismiss it as if none of it is what they WANT to hear.
Now of course, someone is absolutely entitled to pick what they feel is the best advice, but it's almost as if they sometimes intentionally perpetuate the thread, holding out for the end all be all piece of advice that they're looking for or wanting to hear.
If there's a certain answer or specific piece of advice in your mind that you're looking for and wanting to hear, then why are you asking others for advice in the first place? It would seem as if you have your mind made up if there's one particular answer that you're looking to hear and anything else is less than useful to you.
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Move on, I think most women do the same thing. At first you have sex like rabbits and then the sex tail off for un-known reason which many men have this problem with wives and girl friends. It have happen in all three of my marriages, except in my third marriages she still aloud me foot play. In this marriage I have kids and the other two I didn't so I am here to stay. But, she allowed me to play with other women feet. I want have sex with other women because I like sex so much I will start cheating all of the time. Also, my first wife was jealous of my foot fetish and my second wife was just okay with it. I say move on and the next women you meet be honest and tell her your foot fetish is a desire for like. I did in my third marriage and I told her parents too. I am not going to change for no one. I know I have been like this since I was 12 and I am now 64 .
quote:Originally posted by Fwrinkledsoles: Move on, I think most women do the same thing. At first you have sex like rabbits and then the sex tail off for un-known reason which many men have this problem with wives and girl friends.
With an exception to certain extreme situations, this usually only happens when the guy allows it to happen.
Either the girl has lost all interest in you, or she no longer feels the need to work to keep you happy and satisfied. If it's the former, well.... you have a decision to make. If it's the latter, you allowed that to happen by becoming complacent and compliant.
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Ok. I'm sorry if I caused offense by my last post. Once again thanks for the many responses...even though it's not the kind of advice I was asking for I appreciate your trying to help.
One last thing and then I'll stop.
I am neither a troll (and frankly that wasn't called for) nor am I immature. I think it would be immature if I ended this relationship ONLY because of our sexual incompatibility with no regard to the impact that would have on the lives of others.
Like I explained, we've got a daughter whose needs MUST be considered, at least for another couple of years, whether or not we're personally happy with each other.
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Sounds to me as though you are trying to "have your cake and eat it, too".
You mention that "in this day and age" there ought to be alternatives to masturbation and prostitution. There are certain things that remain constant as part of the human condition and I don't foresee any Hi-Tech remedies coming down the pike. The fundamental interactions (and emotions) among humans remain the same as among Cro-Magnon man; if anything, civilization, in a noble attempt to redirect our feelings, have just made us over-think them (I'll lay the bulk of the blame on the damn "self-help" books of the 70's & 80's).
Pursuant to my opening statement and the idea of over-thinking: I think you may be hanging yourself on the horns of a dilemma. Are you tearing yourself between the (perceived as selfishness) desire for the satisfaction of your needs and (perceived as generosity) sacrificing yourself for the needs of others?
I don't think that you can have a non-relationship relationship. If you and your girlfriend act in concert for the benefit of your daughter, will the final result be significantly different whether you are apart or together?
Just a thought here. Can you and your girlfriend modify your relationship and lifestyle to become roommates - in a college style?
Some good news: You are only 45! You are sitting in the catbird's seat: All the girls with daddy issues or love "older" men...all the self-described cougars that lose interest in the younger men that have nothing in common with them...You are right there to pluck these posies.
Wish I could be less long-winded and have a clear, concise answer for you. Instead, I hope that I offered some thoughts that might help you clear some clutter and ask a couple more questions.
And I really must stop thinking out-loud in type.
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Sorry to hear that. It sounded like she just wasn't into foot fetish at all. I mean, she doesn't even like foot massages from you? Well, if hiring escorts are out of the picture, There are always videos/webcam models and photos you can purchase.
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