posted
I love complimenting women on their feet. It's something that as foot fetishist is not only a luxury to give...but sometimes a must for a woman's self esteem. But there are times IMHO(in my humble opinion) where guys need to be careful. Here's my take. Feel free to debate and disagree! But please give a reason so we can all learn.
We've all been there before(some are waiting but the time will come) where a woman who is attracted to you asks about your turn ons. You say "beautiful feet". If she's attracted to you she'll say "what do you think of mine"? At this point...you MUST compliment them so as not to upset her.
Attraction is key when it comes to complimenting feet. Curious if your compliment of her pedicure will sound weird...if she's hot for you she'll love it. If you're her type...she'll love it. Always deliver the compliment while giving her eye contact and a smile/grin/smirk ect. Why eye contact and smile? It sub communicates sexuality and women love a man that can state his sexual intentions without saying a word. Funny saying "nice hair" in this fashion really means "i'm going to hook up with you soon". Her giggle and "thanks, I never do it this way, i'm glad you like it!, maybe i'll do it again sometime" means "i'm down with that, maybe if you play your cards right". Note that the verbal convo has nothing to do with sex....but the subcomumnication is dripping with sexuality. When a woman is attracted, you can compliment anything and it's cool. The more she's attracted the more crude you can get. Of course you're a gentleman that knows what to say and when.
Compliment for a purpose! Think of her when you do it. How will it make her feel? A girl who has her hair done like she's on a red carpet most likely spent an hour getting it ready just moments before you see her. Her pedicure is a week old. Which is better to compliment if you're goal is to make her feel confident about her looks that night? Telling her that she's got pretty toes is nice....but it doesn't give her the same confidence boost that a compliment on her hair does. Pick a purpose...I want her to feel beautiful tonight, I want her to feel confident ect. In a room full of gorgeous girls saying she's as gorgeous as the rest of them but has the added dimension of being intelligent goes a long way. See? If she's got crazy shoes on...she wore them to impress! Go ahead and compliment those..."wow those are some fierce shoes, I'm impressed, you've got style". She spent 20 minutes figuring out what shoes to wear, spent $200 and her feet ache 1 hour into the night so she'll be the envy of every girl in the room. Acknowledge that effort but bring the compliment back to her.
I keep reading threads where guys compliment random women on their beautiful feet without knowing them...or knowing they are attracted to them. In this situation...you're more than likely going to be looped into weird guy than not. Why? Because one never thought how it would make her feel! If she's attracted to you...it'll make her feel good no doubt. But from someone she's not attracted to it could be a violation of her comfort...on a far lesser scale of the weirdo that grabs a strangers feet. Think Brad Pitt saying "you have pretty feet" and then think Danny De Vito dropping the same line. One compliment will make her blush and giggle. The other will have her watching her back as she walks to her car. Oddly enough if you do this you're not alone because girls I've dated or know will hit me up out of the blue telling me about some weird guy that said she had pretty feet....teasing me about how I have similar taste to the weird guy. Note that they didn't hit me up saying..."oh this nice gentleman complimented me on my feet"...no..it;s weird. Especially if they are familiar with foot fetish. It's not like 15 years ago where feet were completely unsexualized. Women know...especially if they are younger(my mom would appreciate the compliment, my sister would find it weird). Now if you bring the compliment back to her...it's nolonger weird. Like: "that's quite the pedicure you have there, you seem like the type that likes to take care of herself" "Nice pedicure, you're one of those high maintenance chics aren't you?"(jk) ect. See how that's different than saying " you have the most beautiful feet i've ever seen" to a stranger? See how she would wonder if the guy she reads about in the paper next week that molested some strangers feet could be you?
In conclusion I suggest complimenting women! Yes. But consider how you make them feel first. The more attracted she is to you the more you can compliment and the better she'll feel. If you don't know her...get to know her. Don't compliment random strangers on their feet unless you know they're attracted to you. And if you do, bring the compliment back to the woman.
GQ
-------------------- If she won't indulge your fetish, I bet you that cuter, smarter girl across the bar will. Lets go find out. Posts: 1877 | Registered: Aug 2006
| IP: Logged |
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: The more attracted she is to you the more you can compliment and the better she'll feel. If you don't know her...get to know her. GQ
so i guess the whole "not talking to any girls, period!" thing i'm doing is working out, if i go by what you just read???
i used to compliment feet all the time when i was younger, which was a bad move.
now, i'm better off just not talking to a girl instead of talking to them and making them uncomfortable from the word "Hi"
Posts: 2128 | Registered: Jun 2006
| IP: Logged |
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: The more attracted she is to you the more you can compliment and the better she'll feel. If you don't know her...get to know her. GQ
so i guess the whole "not talking to any girls, period!" thing i'm doing is working out, if i go by what you just read???
i used to compliment feet all the time when i was younger, which was a bad move.
now, i'm better off just not talking to a girl instead of talking to them and making them uncomfortable from the word "Hi"
Saying hi is the best pick up line invented!
I never said don't talk to girls. My advice is on how to go about it without looking like a creep. Especially when you throw your foot fetish into the mix. The number one thing to consider is "how does she feel". If you know how she feels and you care about making her feel good you'll never come across as creepy.
When a woman is attracted to you, you can get away by saying more things than you can if she isn't. It's no different than the boss of your company. If he likes you you can be more candid about things than if he doesn't know you. Getting to know a girl first can help with the attraction. But a guy cannot ignore attraction. A woman will not sleep with a guy she's not attracted to. If you aren't attractive in any way, figure out what your ideal woman is attracted to and be it. Some people say be yourself....well if your current self is lonely...fuck that. Don't be stagnant. Be your better self. Figure it out and improve.
I will always advocate talking to women...that's why we're on this planet(from an evolutionary standpoint). Do it whenever you can BUT learn from your mistakes each time. Know what works and what doesn't. As soon as you're able to think as a woman does and use that knowledge to be a man they need...you'll never be alone.
If you're going to poke holes in my analysis(which I welcome) come harder. Actually listen to what is being said. I didn't say anything about not talking to women.
GQ
-------------------- If she won't indulge your fetish, I bet you that cuter, smarter girl across the bar will. Lets go find out. Posts: 1877 | Registered: Aug 2006
| IP: Logged |
posted
GQ you make great points, no doubt about it. And obviously you've read that pick-up artist book which has some great tips?
My only issue is that, I really don't have the energy, nor the care, to drip concern and compliments all over women just to MAYBE get a date. Or to maybe head in the right direction and get a chance to talk or develop some sort of friendship/sexual relationship. I WANT FEET. I don't want to date, dinner, movie, etc...It all just seems like too much work.
Yes, common sense would tell you to be observant and compliment a gal on almost anything but her feet (amazing to me how SOOO many women will get dolled-up from head to....knee. And totally disregard their feet & shoes).
I'm sure I'm the minority but you do pose an interesting topic and I'll be sure to check back to read others' philosophy on this discussion.
I'd like to ask if there are any other guys on here who just wanna kiss and smell pretty feet and could do without all the other stuff? Who don't even really need sex or kissing and just lust after pretty feet & shoes?
Or am I totally alone?
PS. If I could get a gal who looked like yours GQ maybe my outlook would be different but trust me, that will/and never would be the case...
-------------------- Always hopeful for a pretty pair of feet in my face Posts: 1955 | Registered: Oct 2008
| IP: Logged |
posted
An interesting, an I think accurate describe there GQ. The whole meeting people, small talk, complimenting, conversation sequence is a fascinating study in psychology. That's why books are written about it. I rarely compliment women other than my wife largely because I'm afraid that they'll think I have the wrong motive- even though I'm 53 year old professional person who's been married 30 years and doesn't have a "playas" bone in my body. But there's a young, blonde, 30 something mom who works with me who's quite attractive and very high maintenance- meaning she's always Barbie doll perfect: hair, makeup, manicured, pedicured, nice clothes and shoes. The other day she had on a tan colored outfit with tan sandals that complimented her blonde hair and tan skin to the point it made her glow. She looked fantastic. She's an administrative assistant in an office where there's only one way in and out. The first time I walked past her desk I said wow! (Under my breath). When I was leaving that office area I couldn't stop myself. I said "you look really nice in that color". She smiled and said "thank you!". I really was simply giving a sincere compliment. But I also would be lying if I said that she wasn't generating some huge sex appeal that day that made me want to "rotate her tires". Would be interesting to know how she took the compliment and whether anything else came through.
Posts: 9728 | Registered: Feb 2004
| IP: Logged |
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: The more attracted she is to you the more you can compliment and the better she'll feel. If you don't know her...get to know her. GQ
so i guess the whole "not talking to any girls, period!" thing i'm doing is working out, if i go by what you just read???
i used to compliment feet all the time when i was younger, which was a bad move.
now, i'm better off just not talking to a girl instead of talking to them and making them uncomfortable from the word "Hi"
Saying hi is the best pick up line invented!
I never said don't talk to girls. My advice is on how to go about it without looking like a creep. Especially when you throw your foot fetish into the mix. The number one thing to consider is "how does she feel". If you know how she feels and you care about making her feel good you'll never come across as creepy.
When a woman is attracted to you, you can get away by saying more things than you can if she isn't. It's no different than the boss of your company. If he likes you you can be more candid about things than if he doesn't know you. Getting to know a girl first can help with the attraction. But a guy cannot ignore attraction. A woman will not sleep with a guy she's not attracted to. If you aren't attractive in any way, figure out what your ideal woman is attracted to and be it. Some people say be yourself....well if your current self is lonely...fuck that. Don't be stagnant. Be your better self. Figure it out and improve.
I will always advocate talking to women...that's why we're on this planet(from an evolutionary standpoint). Do it whenever you can BUT learn from your mistakes each time. Know what works and what doesn't. As soon as you're able to think as a woman does and use that knowledge to be a man they need...you'll never be alone.
If you're going to poke holes in my analysis(which I welcome) come harder. Actually listen to what is being said. I didn't say anything about not talking to women.
GQ
wasn't trying to poke holes, just giving my initiation remarks about reading it and thinking about it in terms as myself, i'm not the analyzing type, so i'm surprised you tried to find that angle in my chicken scratch
Posts: 2128 | Registered: Jun 2006
| IP: Logged |
posted
ucflyeah: You sir are not alone! Think about all the guys out there that would rather just get laid and skip the drama/dance that is flirting. I'm certain most guys if given the opportunity would rather "skip the pleasantry's and cut to the chase". But we are Homo Sapiens. I was watching a documentary the other day on human evolution and read a book on human psychology and was told in both our big brains are mainly meant to facilitate understanding each other's complexities. Other species just get laid(if you're the alpha)! Most...do not get laid. That's the advantage of being human....everyone gets a shot at getting laid. Long way to answer your question.....but you're in the norm bro! "You, feet, mouth, now" would work on women every guy here would do it!
Feetluvr: That sounds like a classy compliment. People tend to take compliments as they will though. If she sees you as a platonic figure it'll be seen as innocent. If she sees you as a sexy figure, she'll take it as gentle flirting. If she sees you as creepy man she'll take it as unwanted hitting on her. It depends more on her than it does on you. But knowing what she's thinking allows you to cater to her. All in all it was a pretty thoughtful compliment and it's very unlikely she took it any other way than positive.
GQ
-------------------- If she won't indulge your fetish, I bet you that cuter, smarter girl across the bar will. Lets go find out. Posts: 1877 | Registered: Aug 2006
| IP: Logged |
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: The more attracted she is to you the more you can compliment and the better she'll feel. If you don't know her...get to know her. GQ
so i guess the whole "not talking to any girls, period!" thing i'm doing is working out, if i go by what you just read???
i used to compliment feet all the time when i was younger, which was a bad move.
now, i'm better off just not talking to a girl instead of talking to them and making them uncomfortable from the word "Hi"
Saying hi is the best pick up line invented!
I never said don't talk to girls. My advice is on how to go about it without looking like a creep. Especially when you throw your foot fetish into the mix. The number one thing to consider is "how does she feel". If you know how she feels and you care about making her feel good you'll never come across as creepy.
When a woman is attracted to you, you can get away by saying more things than you can if she isn't. It's no different than the boss of your company. If he likes you you can be more candid about things than if he doesn't know you. Getting to know a girl first can help with the attraction. But a guy cannot ignore attraction. A woman will not sleep with a guy she's not attracted to. If you aren't attractive in any way, figure out what your ideal woman is attracted to and be it. Some people say be yourself....well if your current self is lonely...fuck that. Don't be stagnant. Be your better self. Figure it out and improve.
I will always advocate talking to women...that's why we're on this planet(from an evolutionary standpoint). Do it whenever you can BUT learn from your mistakes each time. Know what works and what doesn't. As soon as you're able to think as a woman does and use that knowledge to be a man they need...you'll never be alone.
If you're going to poke holes in my analysis(which I welcome) come harder. Actually listen to what is being said. I didn't say anything about not talking to women.
GQ
wasn't trying to poke holes, just giving my initiation remarks about reading it and thinking about it in terms as myself, i'm not the analyzing type, so i'm surprised you tried to find that angle in my chicken scratch
I welcome holes. I'm still understanding this stuff too. Good debate will strengthen our collective understanding of how to get women(feet). Just felt that you took what I was saying and twisted it knowing that your question wasn't what I intended or meant.
Analyzing though is important. I wasn't good with women as a kid. The girls i've been dating the last 9 years...I wouldn't have dreamed of growing up. Some guys have the gift of getting women naturally. Some guys like us have to think about it. After a while it becomes 2nd nature...but just like any skill in the beginning it's a painstaking process. I suggest you torrent david deangelo's dating stuff. You're not alone....but you must use your brain.
GQ
-------------------- If she won't indulge your fetish, I bet you that cuter, smarter girl across the bar will. Lets go find out. Posts: 1877 | Registered: Aug 2006
| IP: Logged |
posted
In short, never let the cat (ie. the drooling version of your foot fetish) out of the bag too quick.
Keep it in check, keep things cool with the girl and you will be getting feet if you play your cards right.
For many guys, it's a matter of knowing how and when to reveal his personal "adoration", "preference", or "mental condition" for women's feet. Each guy out there should find an approach that best accompanies his personal style.
When looking for that individual approach, my suggestion is to never let the cat out of the bag too quick. And if your "cat" happens to be a wide-eyed sniffing and licking pervo, then you have to find a way to let it out in smaller increments.
Find a style that works best based on your level of foot fetish needs. For most of the red blooded guys in these forums, I think it will require a major toning down (or downplaying) of their feet adorations. Others can probably just be outright confident and honest and for those men, it is perfectly okay to compliment a stranger as if they have nothing to lose. That is the ideal stance by which to convey one's foot-related compliments IMO.
-------------------- "Nina, this is my house, you work for me, and I want to suck your toes." -Big Trouble (2002) Posts: 1855 | Registered: Nov 2007
| IP: Logged |
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: The more attracted she is to you the more you can compliment and the better she'll feel. If you don't know her...get to know her. GQ
so i guess the whole "not talking to any girls, period!" thing i'm doing is working out, if i go by what you just read???
i used to compliment feet all the time when i was younger, which was a bad move.
now, i'm better off just not talking to a girl instead of talking to them and making them uncomfortable from the word "Hi"
Saying hi is the best pick up line invented!
I never said don't talk to girls. My advice is on how to go about it without looking like a creep. Especially when you throw your foot fetish into the mix. The number one thing to consider is "how does she feel". If you know how she feels and you care about making her feel good you'll never come across as creepy.
When a woman is attracted to you, you can get away by saying more things than you can if she isn't. It's no different than the boss of your company. If he likes you you can be more candid about things than if he doesn't know you. Getting to know a girl first can help with the attraction. But a guy cannot ignore attraction. A woman will not sleep with a guy she's not attracted to. If you aren't attractive in any way, figure out what your ideal woman is attracted to and be it. Some people say be yourself....well if your current self is lonely...fuck that. Don't be stagnant. Be your better self. Figure it out and improve.
I will always advocate talking to women...that's why we're on this planet(from an evolutionary standpoint). Do it whenever you can BUT learn from your mistakes each time. Know what works and what doesn't. As soon as you're able to think as a woman does and use that knowledge to be a man they need...you'll never be alone.
If you're going to poke holes in my analysis(which I welcome) come harder. Actually listen to what is being said. I didn't say anything about not talking to women.
GQ
wasn't trying to poke holes, just giving my initiation remarks about reading it and thinking about it in terms as myself, i'm not the analyzing type, so i'm surprised you tried to find that angle in my chicken scratch
I welcome holes. I'm still understanding this stuff too. Good debate will strengthen our collective understanding of how to get women(feet). Just felt that you took what I was saying and twisted it knowing that your question wasn't what I intended or meant.
Analyzing though is important. I wasn't good with women as a kid. The girls i've been dating the last 9 years...I wouldn't have dreamed of growing up. Some guys have the gift of getting women naturally. Some guys like us have to think about it. After a while it becomes 2nd nature...but just like any skill in the beginning it's a painstaking process. I suggest you torrent david deangelo's dating stuff. You're not alone....but you must use your brain.
GQ
and i was just using your brad pitt/danny devito line as a reference for what i said. if she gets freaked out at the "devito" for giving the exact same compliment that the "pitt" gave, she'd probably get just as freaked out if he said "Hi" or any old conversation starter.
Posts: 2128 | Registered: Jun 2006
| IP: Logged |
quote:Originally posted by GQguy: The more attracted she is to you the more you can compliment and the better she'll feel. If you don't know her...get to know her. GQ
so i guess the whole "not talking to any girls, period!" thing i'm doing is working out, if i go by what you just read???
i used to compliment feet all the time when i was younger, which was a bad move.
now, i'm better off just not talking to a girl instead of talking to them and making them uncomfortable from the word "Hi"
Saying hi is the best pick up line invented!
I never said don't talk to girls. My advice is on how to go about it without looking like a creep. Especially when you throw your foot fetish into the mix. The number one thing to consider is "how does she feel". If you know how she feels and you care about making her feel good you'll never come across as creepy.
When a woman is attracted to you, you can get away by saying more things than you can if she isn't. It's no different than the boss of your company. If he likes you you can be more candid about things than if he doesn't know you. Getting to know a girl first can help with the attraction. But a guy cannot ignore attraction. A woman will not sleep with a guy she's not attracted to. If you aren't attractive in any way, figure out what your ideal woman is attracted to and be it. Some people say be yourself....well if your current self is lonely...fuck that. Don't be stagnant. Be your better self. Figure it out and improve.
I will always advocate talking to women...that's why we're on this planet(from an evolutionary standpoint). Do it whenever you can BUT learn from your mistakes each time. Know what works and what doesn't. As soon as you're able to think as a woman does and use that knowledge to be a man they need...you'll never be alone.
If you're going to poke holes in my analysis(which I welcome) come harder. Actually listen to what is being said. I didn't say anything about not talking to women.
GQ
wasn't trying to poke holes, just giving my initiation remarks about reading it and thinking about it in terms as myself, i'm not the analyzing type, so i'm surprised you tried to find that angle in my chicken scratch
I welcome holes. I'm still understanding this stuff too. Good debate will strengthen our collective understanding of how to get women(feet). Just felt that you took what I was saying and twisted it knowing that your question wasn't what I intended or meant.
Analyzing though is important. I wasn't good with women as a kid. The girls i've been dating the last 9 years...I wouldn't have dreamed of growing up. Some guys have the gift of getting women naturally. Some guys like us have to think about it. After a while it becomes 2nd nature...but just like any skill in the beginning it's a painstaking process. I suggest you torrent david deangelo's dating stuff. You're not alone....but you must use your brain.
GQ
and i was just using your brad pitt/danny devito line as a reference for what i said. if she gets freaked out at the "devito" for giving the exact same compliment that the "pitt" gave, she'd probably get just as freaked out if he said "Hi" or any old conversation starter.
I said that, in the context of how a foot compliment given to a random stranger would be received differently based on physical appearance alone. Mind you that there are many things that can attract a woman to a guy, but if you're talking to a stranger her attraction is only based on looks. All things being equal, will a hello from Danny Devito be received as well as Brad Pitt....most likely not. Every woman is different though. I'm no Brad Pitt...more Tyson Beckford...A good looking guy...and my hello could be met with a woman clutching her purse while a hello from Danny Devito could be received positively . You never know. But odds are if you're respectful and cool you'll have no problem in most situations.
But no...saying "nice feet" and "hi" are nowhere in the same ballpark. Saying "nice feet" to a stranger is weird....sorry guys. Some guys can pull it off...but it ain't easy to leave with your respect. Saying "hi" is friendly behavior. My number one "pick up line" is "hey" with a smile and eye contact.
Good question.
GQ
-------------------- If she won't indulge your fetish, I bet you that cuter, smarter girl across the bar will. Lets go find out. Posts: 1877 | Registered: Aug 2006
| IP: Logged |
-------------------- If she won't indulge your fetish, I bet you that cuter, smarter girl across the bar will. Lets go find out. Posts: 1877 | Registered: Aug 2006
| IP: Logged |
UBBFriend: Email this page to someone!
Printer-friendly view of this topic
![[Confused]](confused.gif)
