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Being more attractive (physically, intellectually, financially, emotionally, experientially) gives one more leverage in relationships of all kinds. The more you have to offer a partner, the more you can request in return. I can't imagine monogamy either, but I found a partner who wanted to marry and raise a family and was also polyamorous... I think women are increasingly amenable to alternative arrangements if you can demonstrate it's worth their while.
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Being more attractive (physically, intellectually, financially, emotionally, experientially) gives one more leverage in relationships of all kinds. The more you have to offer a partner, the more you can request in return. I can't imagine monogamy either, but I found a partner who wanted to marry and raise a family and was also polyamorous... I think women are increasingly amenable to alternative arrangements if you can demonstrate it's worth their while.
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quote: Being more attractive (physically, intellectually, financially, emotionally, experientially) gives one more leverage in relationships of all kinds. The more you have to offer a partner, the more you can request in return.
Personally I'd call that manipulative and harmful to one's psyche if you hold something over their heads based on your looks in hopes of getting something in return, unless you are in a NSA type arrangement. I don't suggest using this template for finding a Wife.
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I don't understand how being honest about what you seek in a partner or relationship could be manipulative or destructive... I think my wife and I consider it a tremendous relief that we can enjoy consensual relationships of all kinds without lying about "cheating" or resenting each other (like most monogamous people eventually do). I guess my point for the previous poster was that he doesn't have to conform to the traditional "relationship in exchange for sex" model... there are more women inclined to share themselves in exchange for other benefits whether it's sculpted abs or access to amazing restaurants, adventures, or erudite expostulation regarding philosophy ( ) My experience has been that it's better for both parties to be honest and explicit about desires and expectations up front than try to fake a relationship to get some play (I think it's morally superior in addition). Just my opinion... Love your material Norcal, thanks for contributing!
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quote:Originally posted by archadmirer: I don't understand how being honest about what you seek in a partner or relationship could be manipulative or destructive... I think my wife and I consider it a tremendous relief that we can enjoy consensual relationships of all kinds without lying about "cheating" or resenting each other (like most monogamous people eventually do). I guess my point for the previous poster was that he doesn't have to conform to the traditional "relationship in exchange for sex" model... there are more women inclined to share themselves in exchange for other benefits whether it's sculpted abs or access to amazing restaurants, adventures, or erudite expostulation regarding philosophy ( ) My experience has been that it's better for both parties to be honest and explicit about desires and expectations up front than try to fake a relationship to get some play (I think it's morally superior in addition). Just my opinion... Love your material Norcal, thanks for contributing!
Yeah I did mention "in a relationship" it would be unhealthy..yeah if you just want feet or NSA then whatever two consenting adults agree upon is their business. Thanks for the kind words.
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quote:Originally posted by Michael Pitt: absolutely nothing good about getting older, being college aged is ideal
Plenty good about getting a little older. More money, more experience and a whole lot wiser.
Attractive girls in their 20's are looking for guys in their late 30's and early 40's with means and experience. 40 is the new 30.
If you're not having more success and fun as you get older, you're doing something wrong.
i don't see anything better about having more work and responsibility, fading looks, fading health etc
how are you guys having more fun in your late 30's and 40's?
testosterone declines with age so how can your sex drive be the same?
I actually think men (up until a certain point of course) generally get better looking/more handsome as they get older whereas females generally decline in looks as they get older.
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quote: I actually think men (up until a certain point of course) generally get better looking/more handsome as they get older whereas females generally decline in looks as they get older.
That is quite true, in my scouting travels for my site I do notice a LOT of women now in their mid-to-late 20's looking very old with wrinkled necks and almost in need of Botox treatments. It's unbelievable really. It has a lot to do with the schedules they keep at night partying, drinking and smoking even..more than previous generations even. I tend to be picky about that look on my models. Imagine these women at 45 y/o what they will look like?
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quote:Originally posted by Michael Pitt: i don't see anything better about having more work and responsibility, fading looks, fading health etc
how are you guys having more fun in your late 30's and 40's?
testosterone declines with age so how can your sex drive be the same?
Perhaps you and I define fun in different ways. For instance, I find having the ability and means to take a golf trip to Scotland and enjoy some fine Scotch as fun.
As far as ignorance being bliss, you don't realize how ignorant you actually are until you get a bit older. I thought I knew a lot in my 20's, and thought I had all the answers. I find that as I get older I didn't know shit... and still don't. When you finally realize that, you start to become more open to different thoughts and experiences, and that ultimately leads to wisdom.
Where are these girls that prefer slightly older guys? Well, there everywhere. Perhaps you are fishing in a different pond than I would be if I were still on the prowl. I have quite a few friends that decided to stay single, and trust me, they would concur with what I'm saying.
Sex driving failing? Not really. No, I can't drill a hole through a block of concrete with the erection I receive when the wind grazes my nuts anymore, but it's still good enough. Plus my ability to please a lady has greatly improved with experience. I also am more uninhibited than I used to be and "learned" how to enjoy sex even more. Additionally, sex doesn't doesn't consume me as much as it used to. I have other things that drive me. It's not all about sex anymore.
Maybe it would be different if I gained 50 pounds, lost all of my hair and didn't have the means to do the things that I like. Maybe it would be different if I were living in my parents basement, delivered pizzas for a living and lived in the past. However, that's not the case for me.
My father once told me that youth is wasted on the young. I never understood that until I got a bit older.
quote:Originally posted by Michael Pitt: i don't see anything better about having more work and responsibility, fading looks, fading health etc
how are you guys having more fun in your late 30's and 40's?
testosterone declines with age so how can your sex drive be the same?
Perhaps you and I define fun in different ways. For instance, I find having the ability and means to take a golf trip to Scotland and enjoy some fine Scotch as fun.
As far as ignorance being bliss, you don't realize how ignorant you actually are until you get a bit older. I thought I knew a lot in my 20's, and thought I had all the answers. I find that as I get older I didn't know shit... and still don't. When you finally realize that, you start to become more open to different thoughts and experiences, and that ultimately leads to wisdom.
Where are these girls that prefer slightly older guys? Well, there everywhere. Perhaps you are fishing in a different pond than I would be if I were still on the prowl. I have quite a few friends that decided to stay single, and trust me, they would concur with what I'm saying.
Sex driving failing? Not really. No, I can't drill a hole through a block of concrete with the erection I receive when the wind grazes my nuts anymore, but it's still good enough. Plus my ability to please a lady has greatly improved with experience. I also am more uninhibited than I used to be and "learned" how to enjoy sex even more. Additionally, sex doesn't doesn't consume me as much as it used to. I have other things that drive me. It's not all about sex anymore.
Maybe it would be different if I gained 50 pounds, lost all of my hair and didn't have the means to do the things that I like. Maybe it would be different if I were living in my parents basement, delivered pizzas for a living and lived in the past. However, that's not the case for me.
My father once told me that youth is wasted on the young. I never understood that until I got a bit older.
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