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Yes it's def a good post. She knows that I'm very into her and I'm not the type to just stare & drool over a girls feet. We've actually been talking since January and I've given her foot massages several times. What gives me hope that i can make her come around is that I'm the first guy she's ever given head to and now she loves it almost as much as I do. I'm seeing her today so I plan on making something happen. All the advice helps tremendously and I will def use it. Hopefully I will have a good update for you guys after tonight.
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That's a VERY BIG PROBLEM...Here is why...I had a friend years ago...She was absolutely BEAUTIFUL, SMART(she was in Wayne State Medical School here in Detroit...I think?)...She was an all around wholesome girl with a LITTLE FREAKY SIDE that she only showed in the bedroom...The problem was exactly as yours...SHE HATED FEET...I don't mean she was a little insecure...I mean SHE HATED FEET!...YES ALL FEET, INCLUDING HER OWN (which were flawless by the way...sigh)!...She would let me see them, but only because of my foot kink...BUT NO TOUCHING WHATSOEVER...There was nothing that I could do about it...I tried to ease her into it (and the kid has some skill with those tootsies...lol)...but to no avail... Imagine a person being the EXACT OPPOSITE of you... When we see feet, We get excited...When they see feet...THEY WANT TO THROW UP...FOR REAL!..I'm not going to tell you to give up just yet but the chances of you changing her are VERY SLIM my friend.. I would bet that if you tell her about your love of female feet, SHE WILL END IT BEFORE YOU COULD BLINK (If she really has what they deemed a "FOOT PHOBIA"...I say this because of the short amount of time that you have been with her...Good luck?
Look in the archives and there was post with a link to another site where they were blogging about HOW MUCH THEY HATED FEET?..sad but true...
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If she has had this issue for that long not likely it going to change even if she has the most gorgeous feet you have ever seen, it is very sad as we all know but not worth the agony of not being able to indulge!
I'd throw it out there and see what she does, never hurts to try, just be prepared for the worse case scenerio, your month long relationship is over...
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For one thing, she has no problem with you giving her foot massages. If she really hated feet that much, you would not have been able to even touch hers in the first place.
Although she may have said that she hates feet when your girlfriend's sister used her feet to touch your girlfriend's feet, it's very possible this may have been an emotional response. It's sort of like when a girl says, "You're so mean!" after you make a smart ass remark. Do they usually mean it? Most of the time, no. It's just an emotional response and it doesn't mean what she's saying. I'm thinking that, in this case, her remark of "I hate feet" really meant that she doesn't like other people's feet touching hers and that just creeps her out for whatever reason. Something like that shouldn't get in the way of you touching her feet, which you said you've already done via foot massages.
As Dick Lipschitz said, pursue your interests in a matter-of-fact way and don't make a big deal about it. It's really a matter of how much she trusts you and how comfortable she is being with you. You may want to spend a little more time together so she can get more comfortable with being around you before really going after what you want. Once she's comfortable, the door can be opened to you doing things you'd like to do - i.e. sucking on her toes, etc..
As DL also said, don't make any grand declarations (too creepy) or sheepish admissions (too needy and weak). From my experience, the best way is to make your attraction known through action. If you sense that she's comfortable with you, give her a foot massage and end it by kissing her toes. If you get a negative reaction from her with something like, "Ewwww, that's gross", just reply in a matter-of-fact way with the statement, "I think your feet are cute" and leave it at that. The less of an issue you make about it, chances are the less of an issue she'll have with it. Good luck!
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Great Post Fate111 and D.L. I didn't read his latest post until after I posted...If. she has let you touch them...YOU SHOULD BE GOOD TO GO...She obviously doesn't have a Foot Phobia..Fate111 has it all right...DO EXACTLY WHAT THESE GUYS SAID!...
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I agree with fate. I have never dated/hooked up with a girl that LIKED feet. They all hated them. But they were cool with me liking their feet. It sounds as though this is the category your girl falls under. No worries bro. If a woman likes you...her feet are the least of her worries.
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i won't add too much to what was so well said.. but let me share a little of my story.
i'm married. love my wife to tears.. and she loves me tons. before we met.. she wasn't big on high heels. didn't care for her feet.. swore no man would ever touch them. was tired of folks making fun of how much she sweats and the scent that goes with that. she was contemplating surgery to make her feet no longer sweat (one of her girlfriends successfully had done that)
nearly a decade later (and three years of marriage).. she's settled into what is her normal state of being. heeling on her terms.. feet action on her terms. if i don't blend it into an activity (massage) or the like, i do pretty much without. not because she's mean or anything.
in her words. "women do a lot of things just because they like how their men reacts to it being done, not because they care for it at all"
feelings are already involved.. so.. do as the others said.. play it cool and do you.. though my money is on the fact you're not going to get all the action you'd like.. especially if you want her to initiate it. but you'll get something.. like the massages you give to her.
if she's not the one.... and you're ever back on the dating market.. sort this out way before you get attached!!! not first date deal. but some time after that.
if not.. you'll have the "hayday" feeling.. the feeling of you've had your best run when you were at the peek of dating and moving torwards marriage.
i love my set up.. but it's not as good as it was when we were engaged and when we first got married (in terms of the amount of action and stuff i could do). today the connection is much much deeper. the variety a little less.. but the fun oh so much better!!!! i gave up a little. she gave up a little. we found a happy medium.
RPM
p.s. good luck with how things are.. but my other money says when she's the most self-concious about her feet.... you're getting the least action. find the times she's most likely not to care, and that's your window for the most fun.. learn to read her well.. and you'll be fine
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Good advice here, especially toesucker - uk.
Unless she has some deep seeded DISGUST towards feet, she really just might not realize how her feet could be sexy.
As you said yourself, you have already kind of opened her up to new things, and I seriously think that if you play your cards right, you can open her up to being comfortable with her feet and you having fun with them.
And as Fate111 said, just be cool and casual about your desire for her to be more involved with her feet. Don't stress it to much, but also, don't be a pussy and go half way when the time is right.
The best advice I can give you is to act upon your desires in the "heat of the moment" and when you start doing that frequently, she will be more acustomed to you doing it on a regular basis.
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Hmmm. Just read Fate111 and RPM's post and I respecfully disagree.
This is a BIG deal. If your girl doesn't please you you're setting yourself up for a John Edwards/Bill Clinton/#insert adulterous male here. Very bad. Feet aren't a big deal. And we guys have something to offer too! We too often put women on pedastals when they don't deserve it. If she took care of your ALL of your sexual cravings feel free to put her on the highest pedatsal you can find...but till then don't.
"DTB" comes to mind. Thanks Arch Analyst. A guy that can't make his woman orgasm and won't go down on her because he thinks "its disgussting" deserves to be dumped. I dumped a beautiful german model partly because she was sexually selfish and didn't get into the foot thing. I could see the misery down the road. I wanted to call up other girls and fantasized about past more accomodating girl friends. If she liked me soooo much footplay wouldn't be a big deal. If it truly is then we are simply not meant to be. Not every hot chic out there is your soul(sole) mate. I've had many though(more than not) that were/are extremely accomadating when it comes to their feet. They aren't into feet...but they want to please their man.
Think highly of yourself. The saying goes "if he won't please her another man will" can also be phrased "if she won't please you, another woman will".
I bet she's hot bro. My fetish is easier to share with women I know are pretty but we both know i'm a little out of their league. If she doesn't get on board I can dump her with no remorse. Women that are very beautiful it's tougher because extreme beauty doesn't happen everyday and for fear of losing her. You won't be happy though if your sex life is always on "Her Terms". Shitty way to live bro, no matter how hot she is.
You're not married yet bro! Don't commit till she's commited to satisfy you sexually bro! Only tears and the "what could have been" feeling in your pants man.
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i got married young and was my wife's first. I didn't really tell her about my foot fetish for a long time, I think I just slowly worked my way towards it. I think if you take your time and don't hit it her all at once with it you will be fine. You have only been with her a month she doesn't need to know all about your fetish's or everything about you in one month. If you think its going to be a long term relationship you have plenty of time to build up to it. I started out with foot massages and then light kissing on her feet during sex etc.. She knew I liked feet but I don't think she really realized how powerful or that i had a fetish for probably a few years into our marriage.
If she lets you massage your feet then I agree with everyone else, you will be ok with her in the long run, because if she lets you touch them and massage them then that's half the battle. But I don't think you have to tell her everything right away, take your time and work her into it slowly, there is nothing wrong or dishonest about that.
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