You'll get 100 opinions on how to raise kids from 100 different people. You know your family better than us, so you're probably better off doing what you feel is right. We won't all agree with it, or some of us might do things differently.
Just remember though, kids, like adults, talk. You might be okay with being open with your kids about some things, but do you want your kids telling their friends who tell their parents, or maybe teachers and such? I know there were certain parents of friends that I had that my folks weren't crazy about and I really wasn't allowed in their houses (which sucked for me as a kid). That's not saying much as my father was big into gun collecting. God forbid that other parents knew about it because they'd judge that he's a psycho. He wasn't and had things locked away and not shown to people. But my closer friends' parents all knew. Didn't want them coming by and going back to their folks and being like, "Patrick's dad had a gun out today when I came over."
I'm not saying you're doing anything wrong at all. Just throwing a little extra something to think about for your daughter's social growth too.
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good point Patrick. it just blows me away that someone would think that talking to your kids about sex is going to make them promiscuous.
as for other people finding out about either her bisexuality or my foot fetish, one, she's a smart kid when it comes to that. she is not going to tell her friends something that will embarass herself and talking about her parents sex life will surely do that. two, if anyone is going to judge us over these things, then i dont mind that their kids arent allowed over to our house because i guarantee that we will definitely be exposing their kids to 'dangerous' ideas.
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I wouldn't go in to details of things I think the best idea/ thing to say to your daughter if she asks do you like mummys feet is just to say ''I love your mummy and everything about her'' and leave it at that. It reassures the kid you really love each other without going in depth about what you do as a couple
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It's one thing to be open to kids about "sex" in general. It's yet another, I think, to discuss one's specific sexual preferences with their children. To me, I think that subject is private.
I've discussed this very topic with girls I've both been friends with, and been involved with, and they all agreed: It's one thing to discuss sex in general, to educate your kids about sex. It's quite another to be intentionally playing with, kissing, licking, smelling, tickling, etc, their mother's feet on a regular basis right in front of them. First, it makes them think: "My parents are weird, why is my dad all over my mom's feet". Also, kids talk. How would any of us like it if we knew our children were going to school, and telling their friends: "My dad likes to smell my mom's sweaty feet" or: "I caught my father sucking on my mom's toes, or licking her feet". I think that because most people on this forum consider feet a sexual thing, being caught doing such by your children, isn't much different then if they walked in on you buck naked having sex. I dont think any parents would like that.
Maybe I'm overemphasizing it, but this is just my view.
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