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I'm so embarrassed...she asked me a little while ago if I had a foot fetish and I told her no, I had no idea why she asked me, she finally told me the other day that it's because she had stumbled across on accident alot of pictures and videos I had of women's feet and porno. I'm just really embarrassed, of all things to get caught doing...i mean, i have no idea what she saw, it could have been videos of footjobs to simple poses of women's feet. I actually think i rather her see the pornographic stuff than her to have seen simple foot pictures because I think she might think it's even weirder that i can get off to a simple picture of a woman's feet. I was so embarrassed when she told me, i didn't even know what to say, i was at a loss for words...i'm like, kinda shy now to even see her knowing that she saw all of this material.
This was over a month ago, she hasnt broken up with me and she's told me many times how much i mean to her and stuff but she did say that she found those pictures to be disturbing and weird.
Does anyone have advice for me on how to play it off from here on out? I just feel like I dont even know how to act...i'm just really embarrassed. I dont want her to see me as some weirdo or creep.
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I think you have a golden opportunity to have her sit and introduce it to her.
She will either do one of two things: (a)learn about what turns you on and engage in it to make you happy (b) continue to find it disturbing and wierd- in which case she is not the girl for you
I think you will be pleasantly surprised.
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Dude, why the fuck are you embarrassed? You should have said yes. Just admit it. But show, don't tell. Give her a foot massage. Introduce it that way. If she still finds it "disturbing and weird" then decide if the relationship is worth it.
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i think she is probably ok with me wanting to do stuff to her feet, she's let me suck on them before...i think she's more concerned with me being into other women's feet and looking at porno.
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dude you need to encrypt your password dawg bitches be snoopin
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She said the pictures are weird and disturbing?? Show her a japanese porn site...now that shit is weird and disturbing!
She sounds close minded and that my friend equals a red flag.
You say it has been a month since she found the pics/vids...but she has yet to introduce the foot play into the relationship right?? She knows what turns you on but she has yet to indulge...and if she hasn't by now then she more then likely won't.
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ok dougiezerts, first off, its not coming out of the closet.
And Jerry, I would think that you would have the common sense to NOT lie to your girl. If you didn't feel like aswering "yes" to her, you should ask "why?"
When did you expect to tell her if you said no. You just were going to your whole life without telling her?
And as for feeling bad, your going to feel bad untill something worse happens. thats the way it works.
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I think you are in a good situation. She said you mean a lot to her which is good. Just talk about it with her. How was her tone and expression when she asked you if you have a foot fetish? You should get rid of your porn or save it somewhere and reassure your girlfriend you only have interest in her feet. Sounds like you're in a good relationship and she'll let you worship her feet. The most important thing is to talk about it with her.
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I agree with most here, just tell her the truth, if she gets creeped out and leaves, so what.. you saved alot frustration and pain because she would have found out eventually. You can not deny who you are or what turns you on. If you repress it, you will be in a relationship where you are looking for it somewhere else. Find a girl that you feel good about and that has the same attraction or at least loves to entertain your attraction.
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Getting caught with the videos wasn't a big deal at all, it's how you've been handling the situation that's all wrong. Mistake number 1 was saying no when she asked you if you had a foot fetish and you said no. Mistake number 2 is being embarressed and/or ashamed about the situation now. If she's still with you though you haven't blown it yet. You've lied right to her face about your sexual preferences, and you're into things she finds "wierd and disturbing" yet she's still your girlfriend. That tells me that she's screamin' for the seamen and you can have your way with her and her feet, in fact she's waiting for you to step up and take em and even encouraging it by bringing the subject up. Have a few drinks with her and offer her a foot massage, while you're messaging her feet, just start kissing em and sucking her toes, and say "yup, you got me...I've got a foot fetish, I've been trying to keep it under control because you've got some of the cutest feet I've ever seen and I didn't wanna come on too strong and freak ya out but I'm glad you found out because I couldn't have resisted these pretty lil piggies much longer." Then suck her toes a little more...which will give you an instant hard on...fuck her brains out and be sure to suck her toes again at some point during the fucking...after that it should become a regular part of your sex life without much further conversation, if not, move on, and try not to be such a pussy with the next chick out of the gate when it comes to telling her about your foot fetish. I think you'll be alright here though, the fact she's bringing the subject up and still with you tells me that you've more than likely got away with one here, but the cat's out of the bag so now's the time to get on those peds before the subject ends up closing itself and things end up 10 times more awkward the next time it comes up.
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Don't feel so down. If I was you I would come out and be honest like I didn't say anything because I was sort of shy in the beginning, but yes I do have a foot fetish. If you want you can say I didn't know how you would react. Plus she's your girlfriend, not just a girl you're seeing. If she cares about you she will stay and hopefully accept it.
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Ok i guess I should give a little more details about how the conversation went down..the day she asked if I had a foot fetish...i say No...but..since we met I have always told her I like her feet and I think they look nice. So she told me she hopes that I dont go around checking out girl's feet and that she only wants me to like hers. I told her that I dont think most girls have attractive feet and that there is something about her's that really do it for me and she said good. Now..that's actually true...because I'm very picky about feet, I dont drop to my knees and want to worship just any girl's feet. In fact, her feet have driven me so crazy since i met her, if I am on porn sites, I'm usually looking for someone who has feet kind of like hers. She's let me rub them and kiss/suck them, but i wouldn't say it's been an all out indulgence in my part.
I dont think she found the fact that I had a foot fetish to be weird and disturbing..i think she was offended about me looking at other girl's feet on the internet....she seems perfectly fine with me liking her feet though.
Anyways, so after this you may ask, what's the problem? Well the problem like i said above is not her...she has gotten over the being offended by the videos and she is open to me rubbing/kissing her feet....my problem is I'm embarrassed she saw the type of videos i downloaded...maybe i'm not confident or comfortable with myself, but i never wanted anyone to see that i downloaded foot fetish porn. I guess that's really what it is more than anything, just being embarrassed that she got to take a look into something that i felt was very very private of mine.
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quote:Originally posted by dougiezerts: You should have admitted it in the first place. It's better to"come out of the closet." If she thinks it's too weird for her, then move on.
please never compare FF to "coming out of the closet" ever again. I honestly think this should be a rule on this site.
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quote:Originally posted by JerryJones: Ok i guess I should give a little more details about how the conversation went down..the day she asked if I had a foot fetish...i say No...but..since we met I have always told her I like her feet and I think they look nice. So she told me she hopes that I dont go around checking out girl's feet and that she only wants me to like hers. I told her that I dont think most girls have attractive feet and that there is something about her's that really do it for me and she said good. Now..that's actually true...because I'm very picky about feet, I dont drop to my knees and want to worship just any girl's feet. In fact, her feet have driven me so crazy since i met her, if I am on porn sites, I'm usually looking for someone who has feet kind of like hers. She's let me rub them and kiss/suck them, but i wouldn't say it's been an all out indulgence in my part.
I dont think she found the fact that I had a foot fetish to be weird and disturbing..i think she was offended about me looking at other girl's feet on the internet....she seems perfectly fine with me liking her feet though.
Anyways, so after this you may ask, what's the problem? Well the problem like i said above is not her...she has gotten over the being offended by the videos and she is open to me rubbing/kissing her feet....my problem is I'm embarrassed she saw the type of videos i downloaded...maybe i'm not confident or comfortable with myself, but i never wanted anyone to see that i downloaded foot fetish porn. I guess that's really what it is more than anything, just being embarrassed that she got to take a look into something that i felt was very very private of mine.
While not admitting your fetish to her when she asked wasn't a good move, you can't change what has already happened. To waste energy on it at this point is futile. The more you go over in your head how embarrassed you feel about her having seen part of your stash of feet pics/videos on your computer, the worse you'll feel. It's a waste to play out things that have happened in your head and things that are out of your control. It happened and now you need to just move on.
I think some girls are naive if they think that A) men don't have porn or some stash of nasty magazines, pics and videos tucked away somewhere, and B) that we don't look at other women, or parts of other women's bodies. Guys are visual creatures. It's part of our make up. There's a big difference between "window shopping" and "trying on the merchandise". You may not be single, but you're most certainly not dead, either.
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