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My girlfriend agrees that every woman needs her own foot-fetishist so I'm in the clear with my stash (of all kinds of porn).
You might be able to "recalibrate" your answer to her and explain that you do have a passion for women's feet but you never regarded it as a fetish as you have a variety of sexual interests to go along with feet. As a f'rinstance: perhaps you nibble her ear a little more frequently than other sexual behaviors; would she then say that you have an ear-nibbling fetish?
Also, I hope that you can get past the "embarrassed" thing. There's really no need men have certain preferences (as do women), it's just a fact of life; there's no sense in being embarrassed by a fact.
I agree with Fate111 - women know that men whack-off and prefer visual stimuli as an aid. To deny that they know it demonstrates an astonishing naiveté or a propensity for prevarication.
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y are u so embarrassed man? most women know that men love porn and we all have different kinks. y not just man up and tell her what u are into and see what happens.
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Don't worry, like many have stated, use it as an opening to introduce her to your world. She sounds interested in FF but just upset you would resort to the internet rather than her. Reassure her that her feet are the only ones you want then show her what you mean.
-------------------- There is nothing more heavenly than the smell of a female foot ^_^
quote:Originally posted by dougiezerts: You should have admitted it in the first place. It's better to"come out of the closet." If she thinks it's too weird for her, then move on.
please never compare FF to "coming out of the closet" ever again. I honestly think this should be a rule on this site.
How about coming out of the shoe box?
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I treat my foot fetish like it is as normal as the fact that I like to suck a woman's nipples. I recommend that you work hard on being honest about it and right up front with her. That by the way is the ONLY way you will be able to play with her feet.
-------------------- "Foot fetish is not a choice... It's a lifestyle!"
-Quote from my phenomenal wife-
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Man, this is a subject that could make me ramble on for hours. I'll try to be succinct. This is one of the best threads I've seen on this site, because this is a subject that must come up perennially in the life of every foot fetishist! With every new girl in our lives, comes the need to be able to let her in on our fetish!
I do agree that one must be up-front with one's girlfriend about having a foot fetish; you just can't have a relationship with it kept hidden. I don't understand the concept of guys who get involved with girls--married, even!--and then are all like, "Gee, how can I tell my wife/girlfriend that I have a foot fetish and I'm hot for her feet?" It's like, WTF?! You got all the way to having this girl as a steady girlfriend or a wife and never told her about this important thing about you?!
I try to get it out of the way and known in the open as soon as possible. The longer you wait, the tougher it will be to "admit" it, and the more odd it will come across. You have to talk about it to her confidently, and convey the fact that you know that it has positive value to both of you in the relationship. I have rarely if ever met with real objection to it. When you get right down to it, for the girl's part, it should be considered a blessing to have such a simple, reliable way to turn her man on! It's like a sexual Smart Bomb. You might want to explain it that way.
Wouldn't you like a sure-fire way to instantly, every fucking time, get your girlfriend all crazy-fired-up?! 'Cause if you're like me, that's what it's like when a girlfriend knows you like her feet and uses them to her advantage!
I mean, imagine if your girlfriend, say, had a biceps fetish, and all you had to do was flex to make her jump you and start tearing your clothes off!
Let's think about one more thing: How easily has everyone's girlfriend accepted the idea of having her pussy licked?! They're fine with the idea that we put our mouths on their crotches, where pee and mucus come out--right around the corner from the bunghole!--so why the fuck shouldn't they be ok with a little sensual enjoyment involving their FEET?
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i think we are all forgetting that this girl was snooping on his computer, you need to cock slap her.
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If she didnt find porn she'd prob think you were a child molester or Dhamer type - we all have porn on our computer - the sqeeky clean people have something huge to hide!~
Watch "Hard Candy" sometime - awesome movie. Ellen Page was gr8.
quote:Originally posted by dougiezerts: You should have admitted it in the first place. It's better to"come out of the closet." If she thinks it's too weird for her, then move on.
please never compare FF to "coming out of the closet" ever again. I honestly think this should be a rule on this site.
How about coming out of the shoe box?
A better choice of words, perhaps. I didn't mean to offend any of you with my original statement!
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quote:Originally posted by footster008: i think we are all forgetting that this girl was snooping on his computer, you need to cock slap her.
Agreed. End of story.
-------------------- If she won't indulge your fetish, I bet you that cuter, smarter girl across the bar will. Lets go find out. Posts: 1877 | Registered: Aug 2006
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quote:Originally posted by dougiezerts: You should have admitted it in the first place. It's better to"come out of the closet." If she thinks it's too weird for her, then move on.
please never compare FF to "coming out of the closet" ever again. I honestly think this should be a rule on this site.
I think we should have as few rules as possible. But as to why "never compare"? I think the difference is that being gay is too basic and too big a deal to hide whereas fetish is not so much what kind of person you're with as what you do when you're with them. And if it feels too intimate to some people and they wish to keep it quiet that's the right of privacy. There isn't the long documented history of discrimination and harassment against footguys which would mandate political activism. Did there used to be state laws against sucking women's toes? No, so that leaves us more free to be private with our fetish if we prefer. I think gay activists argue that they must sacrifice some of their privacy now to establish their other rights going forward, but don't dispute the privacy principle. But another thing worth surrendering your privacy for is an honest love relationship, where your eyes are as close as the rest of your bodies. A lot of girls get upset about any kind of porn on your computer, even if it's totally ordinary, don't forget that. They feel threatened, like they're not good enough. That can lead to an outcome like feetnees described.
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quote: The only condition being.. I get rid of the pics imediately and start concentrating on her feet indstead. So as hurtful as it was.. all 347 pictures went into the recylce bin and never got to see them again... but at least I had heaps more fun with my ex feet since then.
A picture may be worth 1000 words, but real feet are worth something like E=mc2 pictures, if the relationship keeps developing.
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