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Okay, ThisisMe373, what you are doing is called, in certain sex-therapy circles, "Self-Spectating" (you are trying to watch and evaluate your performance during the act). CUT THAT OUT!!!
You are far too wrapped up in yourself and your erection. You are much too young to be worrying about your dick and "will it work?" - you'll have plenty of time for that after 50. Your erection will work just fine if you simply relax and focus on her.
Very rarely can a man will his pecker to perform. The fact is that the more you think about it the less likely it is to make an appearance. Stop thinking about it and let the event just happen; you'll be able to present the "Oscar" at the appropriate time.
Think of it this way (borrowing from Zen Buddhism): You are taking a test in school. You are nervous or distracted. You say to yourself, "CONCENTRATE", which does no good the first time so you repeat it...and repeat it. Soon, you are so devoted to the word "Concentrate" that you can barely read the test, let alone understand it. Instead, you should simply read the question and answer it the best you can. It is NOT a life or death situation. Neither is yours.
As a teacher for the more advanced guitar player, I counsel that one should play boldly, accepting that mistakes will be made.
There is much to be said for being/appearing confident (not cocky) and relaxed.
I could expand on the last two statements. Would rather you consider them.
Oh, and by the way...Stop thinking about yourself and keep HER as your focus.
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