quote:Originally posted by BareSoles84: often times in order to overcome these insecurities, we have to first admit that we are indeed insecure to begin with, which a lot of people find difficult to do.
This resonates so true as I see some fetishists exhibiting these patterns quite often in their failed pursuits of hot women's feet and they are never able to admit it.
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I approached a woman today, she looked to be of Asian origin and told her she had beautiful feet. She did not understand what I said and I tried to talk to her more but she said "no thank you" and continued walking. My main objective (at least immediately) is to get used to approaching women. I know some successes will follow. I just have to work through it. Thank you for the great advice.
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quote:Originally posted by goodguyneighbor: Your body language should convey that you're going somewhere and just pausing for a minute to say something.
The idea is not to try to attach yourself, but to be interesting enough that they don't want you to leave, then things naturally turn into a conversation.
These are absolutely golden nuggets of wisdom that every man should learn! I think it'd be awesome if you could do some sort of youtube v-blog mini series with little lessons that can be conveyed to those men out there who are trying to improve their social skills with women. It'd definitely be helpful in the foot world, that's fer sure!!
The best results always come from those who understand women the most!!
In also the analogy with panhandlers and solicitors, might I also add the manner in which they approach you also triggers an innate human response.
They're typically static and they attempt and cut you off head on to stop you, or by trying to talk to you while they're static and you're moving. If you're already in motion, it's unlikely that you want to stop and talk to them; especially if you already know they just want something from you as mentioned. Objects in motion tend to stay in motion.
Cutting someone's path off head on and stopping them triggers a natural human response and immediately makes someone feel as if they're on the defensive, being that you're right in their face and making that person feel as if you're preventing them from continuing on the trajectory they were before you cut them off.
How is this related to the topic? It was an okay read if you want to laugh at the immaturity of a supposedly open-minded woman.
On topic, I've done quite a few cold approaches. In my opinion, the hardest part of the whole thing is how to catch the womans attention off the start without seeming creepy or too weird. If you can break the ice, it's smooth sailing from there usually as long as you keep them interested.
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This reminds me of humans and fire. It's like a group of people standing around the man behind the curtain explaining how to rub two sticks together to make smoke and a spark, when we have butane torches, lighters, flame throwers etc.. available now lol. Think about that in terms of the topic, there's no art or technique that works everytime since every female is different and so is every situation.
At the end of the day, all it takes is "Business Casual Confidence" (which any of the Current Webmasters here possess) and a Smile to get their attention to make the first impression and from there they will be eating out of your hand like a little birdy.
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Yeah it really isn't rocket science, but there's a definite art to it, and still a huge percentage of guys who struggle with something as simple as talking to strangers, women in particular.
Indeed the first split second of an interaction is a critical defining moment. You only get one chance to make a first impression as they say. Once you've blown it, it can be difficult to recover.
By the same token, when things go right, it's like magic how quickly things can progress. I'm often amazed when a hot girl I met 30 seconds ago is now following me to go sit down and show me her feet.
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You only get one chance to make a first impression indeed. After blowing it, it can be difficult to recover from. First impressions tend to get ingrained in people's minds.
Perception is everything when it comes to making impressions and I think the most important, easiest thing that a lot of people, guys in particular, forget and don't realize is that the one who controls how you want other people to see you, is yourself. You can't expect a stranger to see you in a particular way that you want them to see you as when you're not conveying that or giving them that perception at all in any way.
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quote:Originally posted by goodguyneighbor: it's like magic how quickly things can progress. I'm often amazed when a hot girl I met 30 seconds ago is now following me to go sit down and show me her feet.
so freakin true and it's amazing every single time. Many guys out there can only dream of being so lucky. Truth is, it's more knowledge and technique than luck. That's the part that confuses these laymen
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Very true, many people overlook the extent to which they have over the image they project to others.
Granted there's no way to control what others think of you, nor should it steer the direction of your opinions, but we get to choose the archetypes we embrace.
Humans are very tribal. We like to associate with others of the same tribe, tribes we would like to belong to, or tribes we would like to at least visit.
quote: I'm often amazed when a hot girl I met 30 seconds ago is now following me to go sit down and show me her feet.
It's probably more amazing to some because we tend to put women too high up on a pedestal if they look good or have nice feet and don't think of them or treat our interactions with them as simple normal day to day human interactions. Whether it's talking about feet or even the weather, it shouldn't matter. Rather some type of magical hunting trip where our adrenaline is pumping and we have unreal expectations of the outcome, there's always room for error.
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