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so why dont u think about them while having sex with her and just keep it your secret. or let her know. tell her your problems in a mature manner, take some anxiety pills, or practice with a few random girls you know but dont like much.\while thinking of the feet keep focusing on everything else, and start embracing it, time will probably straighten it out.if it doesnt then i guess you might wanna consider accepting just messing around with girls for their feet, suicide is something you should really rethink and rethink several more times, theres only one life.
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Have sex with her and involve positions that involve her feet( missionary, throw her feet up by your face and gently kiss them, doggy style, grab her by ankles to be able to look at the soles while you fuck her) then the more you fuck her the more you start incorporating her feet into sex she'll get the hint. Probably be more accepting of it too if you make her cum, as opposed to just sitting her down and dropping a bomb like that on her or giving her a foot rub and just start sucking her toes...it'll be a rare woman that would like that by the way. Think about it, chick offers to give you a massage and just starts sucking on your toes it'd creep you out no?
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First of all...Just relax and not stress out over sex and/or your fetish...Focus on friendships and relationships,build a comfort level with her. When I was a young man I used to think that feet was the only way that I could enjoy sex...Focus on her and not your fears of not "performing normally" Normal is such a gray area as far as sex goes. Like the gentleman above my post has said,there's a lot of ways that one can incorporate foot fetishism into a sex life. Trust me,suicide isn't an answer..It's not as bad as you fear it is,I'm living proof of that. You're anxious about your performance and that mental aspect is hindering you..Don't think "what if i can't??" I think you'll be just fine if you simply don't think about it and relax and let nature take its course.
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Problem is because I'm anxious about it I think I kind of lose my erections easily, I have been with a few girls and quite a few times I have struggled to get up for it at the start, once I'm going I'm not too bad but then if we swap positions it goes soft again, I am honestly not that aroused by vagina, I like the legs, and arse but vagina and boobs do nothing for me
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I tell women right out of the chute that I like feet. Do I appreciate a nice pair of tits? Absolutely, but it's not a deal breaker. If a chick has nasty feet? Deal breaker! 9 out of 10 women LOVE having their feet rubbed. I have one female friend who hates her feet and hates people touching them. But, because she knew about my fetish, she let me rub her feet. Just be honest up front and if it's meant to be then you'll both get what you want sexually.
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Have you had your testosterone levels checked? The first thing I'd do in your situation is get them checked and if they're low then get on testosterone replacement therapy. Years ago I had lower test than what I have now. My levels weren't very low and I wasn't in a serious depression/anxiety but I took steps to increase them. I quit masturbating frequently, starting eating test boosting foods, and exercising. My nervousness about admitting the fetish melted away and my confidence increased dramatically. That will help you with your erections too. That's what I'd do before getting put on medication if you're not already on it.
Now most of my sexual experiences have come from call girls but before that I felt hopeless about ever being able to open up to a female about this fetish. Once I finally did to an escort, it was a major relief. Now I've been with over 40 different ones and I've actually become just as aroused by vagina. I've picked up a couple of other girls that weren't prostitutes and I had the confidence to tell them.
Me though, the way I feel is so what if they think I'm a freak bc I want them to.
Just sit down with her and tell her. If she cares about you, then she'll accept it. I doubt she'll laugh at you and try to make you feel low. Once you open up it may be a major relief.
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Yeah maybe my testosterone is low as I'm depressed, the main thing that sucks about this is normal penetration should arouse me the way feet do but sex doesn't turn me on all that much having feet in my face gives me the rapid heartbeat and massive arousal where it should be when a girls lying naked there, it's like I'm basically wired up all wrong
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Maybe you should just tell this chick that is pursuing you that you would like to give her a foot massage. Most women LOVE foot massages. Then, when she sees that you have a hard-on she will probably be intrigued. Try changing gears and just admit your foot fetish to lots of folks. I do, and I get TONS of foot action. My wife is not a jealous type, so that makes it easier for me than most guys that are married, but because I am so open about it I never get any rejection at all. I have rubbed TONS of women's feet that are our friends and they all seem to be cool with it, even getting into posing for pics for me. This happens because I am open about it, matter of fact about it and also I am not a creeper about it. SO many men have a foot fetish, it is VERY common. You are not weird. My wife has AWESOME breast and nipples, but I still dig her bare feet more than her breasts and Vajay-Jay. DON'T FEEL WEIRD! You are fine man. Suicide is a very permanent soluttion to a very temporary problem. You have a lot to offer this world, DONOT die over this. It is NORMAL dude. I have had a foot fetish since at least 4 years old. I embrace it and so should you. Suzie, my wife, says that women LOVE compliments. Digging a woman's bare feet is an easy way to give them and show them a compliment. Women are often WAY more accepting than you think in most cases. Start PM-ing me and I would be happy to chat with you on this whole problem. Seriously man, no worries. You are normal and I have heard from several women that foot guys are the best lovers. If they will suck their toes, they will suck anything on their body. You just need support and a confidence injection.
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This girl hates feet & doesn't like it when I tried to rub hers, I haven't told her I like feet because she seems so against them, I'm 90% certain she would reject me if I told her I'm Into feet, she just wants straight forward sex, which if I have her it would be rubbish as I don't have a rock hard boner without feet , it's like 80-90% & sometimes lose erections a bit, it's not passionate, this is really really getting me down because I wanna give her a good time & do like her persistence but I'm afraid she just really does not like feet & would totally be weirded out. I am honestly considering suicide as I can't see any women wanting to stay with me when I always need there feet for good sex.
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Hate to tell you man, but fetish or not, everyone experiences rejection in their life. Its an unavoidable thing, but if you have the courage necessary to put yourself out there you will eventually find someone. It may not happen for months or even years, but the only time you lose is when you give up on yourself. You will never know unless you try. As a fetishist with panic disorder, i can understand your anxiety. It can have effects on unexpected parts of your life, sexual included. Trust me man, things will get better.
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lol, you sound like a clone of me. I had all this trouble prior to meeting my wife. The same exact thoughts and I was also extremely shy. It was hard enough for me to break the ice and start conversations with a girl, let alone the idea of bringing up my liking of feet with a chick. After a few months of dating my wife at the time and dropping small hints of my liking of feet and over time she eventually accepted it and actually loves all my little stuff with her, I had the same issues. Trying to have sex, I couldn't get it up much at all unless there was feet involved. She has big boobs that I know most men would die for and they don't do much of anything for me. Unless were in a position where I can touch her feet when we have sex, I'm pretty dead down there. Someone also mentioned testosterone levels and this was true as well in my case. When I met my wife, I was loaded with test and a horny bastard who was getting hard with her just making out and thinking or getting a peek of my wife's feet. Then it got to a point where I was having a lot of difficulty in bed, even with her feet involved. I got on some testosterone booster pills which also helped me at the gym, and now when I'm in bed and feet are involved, I get hard as a missile. Higher testosterone levels will also improve your general mood greatly I notice as you'll have less depressing thoughts. Crazy how the mind works. While I can understand your frustration, this is never something to think about that could make you contemplate ending your life. You have to remember, sex, and emotions related to it are just a part of life and not everything. You can spend your entire time worrying about it, or let it come naturally as it eventually did for me. I'll be honest, I was a late bloomer in regards to sex and being with a girl, but when the time comes, it'll come full steam a head.
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